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Newbee here
« on: August 16, 2019, 02:18:24 PM »
Age 28, just read YBOP and realized the harm porn does to me. Want to use this as a tracking journal. Thanks.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #1 on: August 16, 2019, 02:20:40 PM »
Welcome. This is the perfect place to be.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #2 on: August 16, 2019, 02:22:01 PM »
Congratulations. But addiction shows its withdrawals. If you are new in rebooting read about withdrawals
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #3 on: August 16, 2019, 05:28:22 PM »
Thanks for the advice, I'm still going through the posts and tips. This theory is new to me, but I want to start with no porn, see how far I could go.

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« Reply #4 on: August 16, 2019, 05:34:05 PM »
Thanks for the advice, I'm still going through the posts and tips. This theory is new to me, but I want to start with no porn, see how far I could go.

Read everything you can because knowledge is very important.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #5 on: August 19, 2019, 03:16:07 PM »
Used to watch porn and adults twitter accounts everyday :(
Day 5 without porn, hasn't felt quite a difference yet.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #6 on: August 21, 2019, 05:08:27 PM »
Guys I need some help. Day 7 without porn, but I found it's hard to resist sexting with some girls that I added on social network while back.
What should I do?

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« Reply #7 on: August 23, 2019, 09:30:01 AM »
Guys I need some help. Day 7 without porn, but I found it's hard to resist sexting with some girls that I added on social network while back.
What should I do?

Maybe I could sound offensive by saying this but: Just stop sexting with the girl. It will feel like shit and the urge to do it will be fucking hard but endure it and go on. It will go away eventually.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #8 on: August 23, 2019, 09:28:27 PM »
Yeah I ran into that one too.  Just remember, sexting is closer to p than actually being with a woman.  It's all pixels bro. 7 days wooo!

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #9 on: August 23, 2019, 10:14:27 PM »
Nice job man, I'm at 7 days right now and it can be a challenge at this stage! Keep it up!

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #10 on: August 26, 2019, 03:57:56 PM »
Day 12, no PMO.
Sadly, I fapped to an ASMR video on day 10..  :'(
Shouldn't have allowed that to happen, I will chalk that day off my calendar and carry on.

Say no to porn, including sexting, audio and erotic!!! >:(

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« Reply #11 on: August 27, 2019, 12:38:28 AM »
Day 12, no PMO.
Sadly, I fapped to an ASMR video on day 10..  :'(
Shouldn't have allowed that to happen, I will chalk that day off my calendar and carry on.

Say no to porn, including sexting, audio and erotic!!! >:(

I don't even know what ASMR is but I don't want to find out. Anyway, think about the fact that you didn't PMO. It's a small victory nevertheless.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #12 on: September 05, 2019, 02:29:36 PM »
Day 22, no porn, no PMO, Yay.
I had sex few times with my wife during this period, erection was ok but had some DE problems.
I MOed once with no Porn, and tried to avoid any fantasy.

I guess I should also do nofap, to improve DE issue.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #13 on: September 13, 2019, 02:10:22 PM »
Day 30, no PMO.
Had few peeks at porn or sexy photos but managed to close the window quickly. Guess that's not a relapse by definition :)
Have to work harder on avoiding any porn, guess I need to block sensitive stuff on twitter (you know how much porn content is there).

I didn't experience a flat line, as sex with my partner feels better than it was before I quit porn.
I think my PIED situation got improved a lot. In the old days when I put on condom, I would easily lose erection.
Also DE problem has improved.

Will hold onto it!  >:(

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« Reply #14 on: September 20, 2019, 04:38:34 PM »
Had strong cravings these few days.
I did peek at twitter searches or check some forums that contain erotic posts lately.

I know it's better than real deal PMO, but this would also be bad for my reward circuit in my understanding.

Can't believe adult content is everywhere on the internet these days. Even I use "Block Site" to filter out porn websites, there are still so much on twitter, etc.
But I rely heavily on twitter for daily news about trading and stocks.

Guys any suggestions?

 

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #15 on: September 20, 2019, 10:09:32 PM »
Congratulations for your 30 days of nofap.
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #16 on: September 27, 2019, 05:03:42 PM »
Congratulations for your 30 days of nofap.


Any thoughts to avoid porn or sexy stuff on twitter?
Thanks

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« Reply #17 on: September 27, 2019, 05:15:42 PM »
I had a bad day. Or I can call it a slip today.
This morning when I woke up, before getting out of bed I started to check twitter.
And with some urge, I suddenly wanted to check the few big tits girls if their profile are updated with new posts.
Then I felt this dopamine flowing in my head, and continued to browse those big tits girls' videos and pics. It's about 10 minutes before I finally managed to close the browser and get out of bed.

I guess the lesson is that after waking up, I should get out of bed and start my day immediately :)

I understand that porn is even more harmful than MO. The best is to avoid porn completely.

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« Reply #18 on: September 27, 2019, 05:28:07 PM »
Congratulations for your 30 days of nofap.


Any thoughts to avoid porn or sexy stuff on twitter?
Thanks

I guess you have to stay away from it. If you have urges to go to Twitter and look for stuff, recognize when the urge starts and make an effort to stay away from searching for shit. I don't know Twitter almost at all but I like Youtube. Not to use it for mindlessly scrolling through novelty, I like to watch stuff there (that I'm interested in). However, it's impossible to be on Youtube and avoid triggers completely. I had to learn that, if I chose to be on Youtube, I invited triggers to into my day. After a binge, I can handle it. I look away, I don't indulge in triggers but after about a week, I can't do this anymore. Things get on fire. As much as it feels like it sucks to give up something, at the end of the day I had to ask myself: "What's your priority right now? What do you really want?" And the answer was clear: "I want to quit P addiction." "Okay, if you want to quit P addiction then what are you going to do about it?" I made quitting my no. 1 priority and I will be doing everything it takes. Fuck Youtube, Twitter and all that shit. They are not no. 1 priority for me, as much as I hate having to miss the fun.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #19 on: September 27, 2019, 10:58:36 PM »
Congratulations for your 30 days of nofap.


Any thoughts to avoid porn or sexy stuff on twitter?
Thanks
When you are in recovery don't use Twitter , instagram , Facebook. Without it use YouTube . after 10 or 20 days you able to use Twitter or other social media for your work only .
Its not about stopping. Its about to accept that you are stopped it.

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« Reply #20 on: September 30, 2019, 01:16:26 PM »
Actually I relapsed last weekend for the first time since I started the post..

It was a bad time. My wife is on period and in the morning I woke up but stayed in bed to browse all the shits.
It was damn twitter again.

As you guys suggested, I will block twitter with my web protector now.
Another lesson to learn here is I should get damn out of bed when I'm awake. It's a strong trigger if I browse the internet in the morning.

I won't restart the counter, but put a mark on the calendar. Stay clean!

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« Reply #21 on: October 01, 2019, 07:27:47 AM »
Actually I relapsed last weekend for the first time since I started the post..

It was a bad time. My wife is on period and in the morning I woke up but stayed in bed to browse all the shits.
It was damn twitter again.

As you guys suggested, I will block twitter with my web protector now.
Another lesson to learn here is I should get damn out of bed when I'm awake. It's a strong trigger if I browse the internet in the morning.

I won't restart the counter, but put a mark on the calendar. Stay clean!

A relapse sucks, of course, but at the same time it's an opportunity to examine the situation and see what you did wrong. Actually, I even see some relapses as "necessary" because without them, we cannot learn what to do and what to avoid. As much as those relapses suck, they teach us. There is no growth without obstacles.

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Re: Newbee here
« Reply #22 on: October 03, 2019, 06:48:29 PM »
I'm developing a bad habit, and I will write it down here to avoid it happening again.

There is a voice in my brain saying "just check if that twitter account had new posts, or that hentai cartoonist got a new hentai manga (yeah I used to fap to Hentai manga a lot). Just have a glance and close it".

And I found it hard to resist this temptation, and often end up edging to those.
Though I'm not doing PMO, only taking glances is close to a relapse, or actually it is..

I will tell myself next time, those bullshit is nothing compared to what I'm determined to. I don't care if there is new stuff in the porn kingdom, because I don't want to go that crappy place anymore.