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ArthurMorgan

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Progress updates! (Seeing changes already
« on: December 12, 2018, 07:42:08 AM »
First of all thank you to Reboot and this whole concept. I'm 40  and have been using Porn since I was at least 19, then with the advent of internet porn my usage went up.

All through relationships I've used it, not with the partners but when I wasn't with them, and although it's sometimes taken me a while to get going, once I got an erection usually I've been fine.

However about two years ago celebrating my anniversary, I noticed ED when going to have sex with my wife. Since then it's got worse, and the last year or so, I couldn't even get hard to porn let alone my wife. I felt the pleasures and could come but the erection was really weak.

Then when I upgraded the extremity of the porn I watched, I physically got hard for a while, until even that stopped. Rather then slipping down a dodgy path of watching more and more weird sh*t. I decided to look into it, come across the whole re boot concept.

Watched Gabe Deems videos (which are great) and realised. I had a problem. I watched porn every other day, never went more then two days without watching it. Sometimes even in the toilet at work, altho I never saw this as a problem. Although, clearly it was.

Never told my wife about my porn usage, we just put my ED down to older age and recently brought Viagra (which I have yet to use) Baby, life, we never did it and the issue just kind of got forgot about amongst the trials of life.

I think this post is really for me, like a journal then anything. But if it gives a little hope to anyone else out there, then that's a bonus.

For the first time in years I have hope. I'm 20 days in to no porn and already, I'm seeing and feeling changes! The type I've never seen or felt in the last two years.

My first sex dream was around 13 days in, and it was a dream about me relapsing to porn! I dreamed that i was watching porn on my laptop and got ANGRY in my dream that I relapsed.

I'm now 20 days in and this morning had a vivid dream (not wet) about full on sex with my wife. I haven't had ANY sexual dreams, for at least a year. The last wet dream I had I can't even remember, maybe two years ago, if me and the wife went a while without sex.

Also, when waking from this dream I noticed a very weak but noticeable erection. Wohooo! Life is coming back into the old boy.

Now, I am expecting this to take hundreds of days, I'm patient. But I just want to tell all those about to start their re boot or midway through, have hope.

Again my erection was near non existent using my or my wifes hand, and already 20 days in, it's looking like things could possibly be happening.

No wet dreams yet, but I'm now feeling sexual in the day down there sometimes just sitting there. Which I never did befote in that manner.

Very glad I found this group. Im willing to wait as long as it takes to get things back to normal again. I will update if/when I get to day 50 and hope like the other stories here it helps and inspires.

Also despite thinking about using it now and then, the giving up the porn so far hasn't been too hard. I almost used it as a habit it seems like as opposed to a strong need! See you at day 50

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Re: Progress updates! (Seeing changes already
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2018, 10:27:30 PM »
Dont ever turn back.  Just know that porn and masturbation is just bad.... save it for the real thing...

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Re: Progress updates! (Seeing changes already
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2018, 07:02:42 PM »
I am new here but read about the reboot a while back. I have decided to give it a shot and am just past day 60. I too have seen changes after so many years of porn I don't even know. I came here tonight because I am struggling a bit. I am home alone and that is tough and have been thinking about opening up the porn site and just do it once, with that thought I turned to the forum and registered so I can have a place to share my story. How long does it take to not have these urges to fall back?

ArthurMorgan

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Re: Progress updates! (Seeing changes already
« Reply #3 on: December 23, 2018, 10:46:57 PM »
I am new here but read about the reboot a while back. I have decided to give it a shot and am just past day 60. I too have seen changes after so many years of porn I don't even know. I came here tonight because I am struggling a bit. I am home alone and that is tough and have been thinking about opening up the porn site and just do it once, with that thought I turned to the forum and registered so I can have a place to share my story. How long does it take to not have these urges to fall back?

I think it varies from person to person. I've had no urges for Porn at all really and I've just hit Day 31. It's strange because when I've tried to give it up before, not an official reboot just when I thought a while back I should try and stop. The urges were strong, but I think once I saw the damage it can do regarding PIED I was done with it.

For you I think maybe reading through some posts here may help, success stories and what not. However you are further along then me, I may be struggling in 30 days time. I know I'm done with porn as a daily habit regardless.

Since my initial post I now think I'm at the flat line stage - no sexual urges at all. I still appreciate a good looking womans form but don't feel sexual. I'm remaining patient. Good luck to you on the journey.


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« Reply #4 on: January 02, 2019, 03:06:45 PM »
 :) Day 41, so, the general rule is to not masturbate in the reboot phase but it's different for everyone. Some guys it delays their recovery, others it helps correct?

Well I did it earlier no porn, just myself in bed and it was the same lifeless flop, although I did orgasm, twice. Once, then again a few hours later when I did it.

I felt more sexual today then normal after being in a flatline for about 20 days since the last dream. And as I said, I did it twice and both separate times orgasmed (with lifeless member)

I Tried to focus on having the woman in front of me, not a PC screen etc. It didn't seem to work, was still lifeless. However it may have actually worked because...

Tonight I woke up from an evening nap where I had a vivid dream of having sex with my wife, and when I woke, without doubt, had the most solid erection in about two years since I've had PIED!

Really encouraging signs since I was starting to lose hope. It's only the second sexual dream I've had in the 41 days, and the fifth time I've masturbated, twice my wife doing it. No erection but orgasm, once myself, and the other two times myself, one of those times earlier today. Each time, no erection but orgasm.

Tonight though was the most solid it's been!. About 50% when I woke from this dream, which trust me, for me, is excellent. It hasn't been like that for at least two years. I hope this is signs of my body repairing the damage. I pray it is.

It was half way standing with no actual contact, all from the dream! It wasn't a wet one by the way, just a vivid dream.

I've had no strong urges for Porn in the 41 days. I've thought about it a little but never come close to using it. Just want to be normal again so I can give it up for life.

Pushing on now to 60 days, any major changes will update. Have hope all of us going through this, we might just actually get there.

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Re: Progress updates! (Seeing changes already
« Reply #5 on: January 02, 2019, 03:22:00 PM »
if you have pied every modality  of orgasm will slow down you

ArthurMorgan

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Re: Progress updates! (Seeing changes already
« Reply #6 on: January 02, 2019, 03:46:59 PM »
if you have pied every modality  of orgasm will slow down you

To be honest I'm looking to leave the masturbation fully now after seeing progress.

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« Reply #7 on: January 04, 2019, 10:26:55 AM »
OK i understand that orgasm may slow down the progress, with PE an issue as well Ive read that masturbation to near orgasm is a good way to deal with that. That it will help to extend the life of the erection and delay the orgasm.

Thoughts on this?