sorry, I was just trying the tough love approach.. I just think everyone on this forum acts so sensitively in a way that if you do mess up no one really cares. I feel like weakness is supported and that people wished you would fail just so they'd feel better about themselves. Do you understand what I mean?
I agree with the line of thinking you're taking here, Itakeitall; it's a good idea to pursue rewiring at the same time that you're abstaining from PMO.It might also be a good idea to let the cravings die out completely (or mostly) before you actually go to have an intimate moment with a real woman again. If nothing else, I can see it make-or-breaking a successful rebound from the chaser effect. But yes, it will make it easy to stay away from P if you have a significant other or someone to be committed to; there have even been successful rebooters who wrote in their success story posts that you should get a girl at some point in your reboot because it helps tremendously.I can also see exactly what you're talking about. Your focus should be on your life and not your reboot; thinking about your reboot can make you think about porn. Deliberately forgetting something requires that you overwrite it with new information and become occupied with something unrelated. I've seen a success story where the OP had disappeared from the forum for a long-ass time and had come back to say it took him two years to fully heal, but he took that long hiatus from the forum because he didn't feel the need to obsess over his reboot.And in my mind, not obsessing over your reboot, while successfully staying away from porn, means that you decide you're just done with P and fantasy and M forever, whether you're single or not.I, for one, can't disprove that a reboot is impossible without rewiring, because I've been pursuing it myself since before I started my reboot. I still have yet to have a single sexual encounter in the month that I've been rebooting, but I have some potential girlfriend candidates and one woman of a... different kind of relationship in my life. And although it does seem a bit extreme to be chalking the difficulty of rebooting up to lack of rewiring alone, I can see it being much harder to do without that motivation.