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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #400 on: December 08, 2017, 10:04:26 PM »
Who gift ourselves:
Low self esteem, self pity, weakness, dependencies, aimlessness, indecisions?
We did.

Why oh why???
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #401 on: December 10, 2017, 09:49:31 PM »
Happiness, Performance, Engagement

Q If you are training to run, does taking the bus along your running route help to improve your performance ?
Q If you are studying for an exam, does reading heaps of  comics help improve your grades?
Q If you are diabetic, does drinking coke help improve your health?

If not, why are we doing it still ?

What is PMO?  Indulgence
What are the results of PMO?
Poor performance
Dissatisfaction.

What delivers happiness ?  Satisfaction
What delivers satisfaction ?  Performance
What delivers performance ?  Engagement

1. Stop engaging in activities that lead to poorer outcomes
2.. Stop wasting time
3. Engage only a few so that you can focus fully
4. Engage fully in whatever you do
5. Establish goals, apply effort, acknowledge achievements, embrace performance, gain success and satisfaction, become happy.

We are happiest when we engage fully, when we are committed, when we leave our "self" and become one with our purpose
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #402 on: December 11, 2017, 12:08:20 AM »
When I run, I am fully engaged.
I am never upset with myself, no matter how fast or slow i run
I take care of myself, sleeping early, eating right, studying improving material, arranging for training groups, being involved.
I set goals, train and achieve them.

If i can do it successfully this way, why cant i do the same for everything else in my life?
I can
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #403 on: December 11, 2017, 07:26:03 AM »
Self pity, depression, neediness are self indulgent behaviors.

These negative emotions if we seep deeply into leads to nothing but negative outcomes.

I acknowledge i have these emotions
But i make a consciencious choice not to indulge in them
instead, i will focus making effort and keep on reaching for my goals
i will not let my emotions pull me down
i will keep on trying keep on fighting.
my purpose in life is to fulfill my goals.
my emotions and neediness can take a back seat.

No, get off the bus.
These pathetic emotions i dont want them on my joyous ride in life.

I am master of my time, thoughts and emotions.
I will keep on doing what needs to be done to make me happy, achieved and great.
I am great and I feel great !!!
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #404 on: December 11, 2017, 04:29:19 PM »
For the past week i have been sleeping at 9pm and waking at 5am.
In the past i would sleep at 2am, sometimes even 4am
I used to call it "living fully"
But how can it be when i am robbing tomorrow's time and health for today?
In truth its INDULGENT behavior.
Today i am happier when i am investing forward, not withdrawing forward.
Tomorrow is better than today because i am giving, not needy.
I feel stronger, i feel fuller, i am more complete.
I don't need external endorsement.
I am fully self endorsed.
My self worth comes fully from my self achievements.
I have no time for self pity.
Just do.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #405 on: December 11, 2017, 04:36:48 PM »
Pmo happens when:
You have too much free time
When you are wondering aimlessly
When you constantly give in to your emotions, feelings, cravings.
When emotions matter more than goals.
When you are indulgent, not effortful.

To be happy, satisfied, successful, train yourself to be:
Enduring
Goal oriented
Effortful

The further you are away from neediness, self pity, indulgent, the better you and life will be.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself all the time.
What a loser.
Just go out and get what you want.
If you cant get it, man up and get something else.
Until then, stop whining like a crying child who doesnt know how to manage themselves.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #406 on: December 11, 2017, 05:16:27 PM »
When i know how to give love to myself, i no longer need love or attention from outside.

When i can struggle and endure for my goals, i no longer am needy or dependent on others

When i am focused and occupied on achieving, i see no desire to be indulgent, nor be neglectful of my needs
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #407 on: December 11, 2017, 05:33:04 PM »
Indulgence is spelled I R R E S P O N S I B L E

irresponsible of not taking proper care of self personal needs
irresponsible of not planning forward
irresponsible of not knowing what is important
irresponsible of not looking at reality honestly
irresponsible of not making effort, not setting goals, not putting purpose ahead of emotions

Only reality rewards
Only responsibility to self rewards
Only effort endure embrace engage rewards
Forget the self to become greater than the self.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #408 on: December 11, 2017, 06:07:56 PM »
Responsibility also means understanding and respecting your principles.

Be kind to people who have shown kindness to you.
Help those who ask for your help
Remember and collect the memories of help you have received
Dont take anything for granted, and never discount, especially those of your own achievements

Never feel sorry for yourself.
What you have now is the best.
If you want more, make the effort to go out and get it. Yourself

I will not wait until others come and rescue me
I will not wait until the conditions are right
I will know and go out and get what i need
My shortcomings are not what will limit me
I know it is only my will and discipline and determination that will limit or deliver me.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #409 on: December 11, 2017, 06:39:26 PM »
Do not live your life in the shadow of your shortcomings

Learn to treasure and acknowledge all the struggles, achievements and successes within and around you
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #410 on: December 12, 2017, 07:56:22 PM »
The premise of life is to go out and get.
By get it means real world things, people, experiences.

Do not be fooled by substitutes.
Pmo is a substitute.
Social media and technologies are substitutes.
Only reality matters

There are no limits to what can be. Only your beliefs, opinions and desires are limiting.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #411 on: December 12, 2017, 08:14:33 PM »
Indulgence leads to desire for comfort
Comfort that is not normal or normally found
Because it cannot be normally found, discontentment with reality happens.
With discontentment leads to dissatisfaction of current life.
Unhappiness ensues.

So be careful what you gift yourself.
What is inherently unrealistic and unnaturally will ultimately lead to unhappiness.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #412 on: December 13, 2017, 12:38:02 AM »
The pretty people online makes you think everyone loves you, wants you.
You feel safe to depend on them to unload your worries, to depend on them for comfort and support.
You think they will love you no matter what.

Then you turn off the computer and the world suddenly seems darker, lonelier, more difficult and more hostile.
Its not more. It always is as it was. Each person for themselves only.
But your reality perception is now fucked by the internet.
You are deluded, confused, uncertain, mistaken.

Face the sun. Reality is what really matters. Get your head out of the matrix.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #413 on: December 13, 2017, 07:55:27 PM »
Seeking beauty is like weed in the wind.
It is hostage to your emotions
There is no foundation on which your principles or vision can stand firm on.
Everything is surface. Everything is shallow.
That's why it is so transient, so temporary, so unsatisfactory.

Foundation is what is meaningful.
It is deep, enduring and lasting.
It must come from persistence, from struggle.
It is visionary, not personal.

The pursuit of lust as a foundation of your life is akin to using wind as the foundation of your house. That will never work.

Why we developed this behaviour may not be rooted in the attraction, but the opposite.
Pushing responsibility, denial, unwilling to make effortful struggle lead us to find paths that fulfils our desires: dependence, denials, irresponsibility.
That is the root of this addiction

The destination is merely the place where the journey ends. It pays to understand why we embark on the journey in the first case.

Know also this route pays. A dark path only rewards in dark ways. A path of ill gotten gains pays with ill gotten behavior, outlook and results.

The path of the bright holds no secrets.
When we are willing to subject ourselves to scrutiny by others, and grow from the experience, in time we will be strong and well developed to hold our own, becoming responsible, independent and grounded.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #414 on: December 14, 2017, 12:20:43 AM »
Indulgence leads to many problems:
Decisions are poor, made based more on desire and impression than judgement calls
Desires are shallow
Interests are short term
Difficulty to endure
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #415 on: December 14, 2017, 06:30:41 AM »
Pride comes from pain.
Esteem comes from enduring

There is no need to be ashamed of ourselves if we have learnt to endure pain
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #416 on: December 14, 2017, 07:15:24 PM »
Love yourself first

Loving someone who doesn't love you is not loving yourself
Loving to do somethings that hurt you in the long run is not loving yourself
Wanting to end your life because the outlook is negative is not loving yourself
Hiding from challenge, not living life fully is not loving yourself

Irresponsibility, dependence and denial are not loving yourself.

Loving yourself is taking care of yourself, like you would take care of someone very dear to you.
Talking to them softly and gently,
buying them good food to eat
taking them to nice places
giving them nice gifts
being kind to them when they are hurt or suffering
These are things we must do for ourselves too

Also, encouraging them to take on challenges
to be strong and courageous in the face of adversity
to be loving and accepting of who they are and not compare
This too we gift to ourselves when we love ourselves

Love ourselves is the most important thing
Love ourselves now. It will lead us to the right path of life

No one can love us better, more and correctly then ourselves.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #417 on: December 14, 2017, 08:50:03 PM »
SELF RESPONSIBILITY & SELF LOVE

To love oneself is to be responsible for oneself.
It means taking care of oneself, becoming able and independent, doing whatever needs to be done to ensure good healthy and happy living.

Dont be lazy
Dont take the easy way out.
Reward comes to those who strive

Life has no meaning unless you have goals.
Without goals, even if you reach a high level, you will not be satisfied.
Without goals, you will always be wondering aimlessly
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #418 on: December 17, 2017, 05:18:40 PM »
I suspect most of us here is here because we are seeking love and attention.
But the problem is that we are dependent on external sources for that. Therefore it can never be fulfilled.

Love and attention must come from internal.
Then it will be endless and complete.

Meditation is one source.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #419 on: December 17, 2017, 05:50:33 PM »
I think contrary to what most would believe, we are actually very sensitive to our emotional and physical needs. The issue is that we took to easy substitutes instead of real world solutions.
We live in fear of failure or rejection, and prefer our imagination than seeing and embracing truth.
But truth is not all bad. It is just our negativity painting a bad color to it.
Learning to love ourselves, and not constantly picking our flaws is the first step to seeing the world in beautiful light.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #420 on: December 17, 2017, 05:54:02 PM »
Self love is self respect.
Doing what is right or good for yourself.
It begins with replacement.
Replace the poor for the better, easy for the challenging, the unsatisfactory for the fulfilling.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #421 on: December 17, 2017, 06:09:51 PM »
Masturbation is a shortcut. Its an excuse.
It takes my focus away from reality and into fantasy.

It denies my self respect of fulling my desires in reality.
By masturbating, it says:
i dont respect what i really want
I get my ways through shortcuts and artificial ways
I am unable to achieve what i want.
This is when negativity and depression enters my life.

Only reality delivers.
I either have it, or i dont.
Dont let pmo make me think i have, when i dont.
That will fuck up my life badly.
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #422 on: December 17, 2017, 07:06:58 PM »
My happiness depends on me
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #423 on: December 18, 2017, 03:44:34 AM »
indulgence runs deep:
feeling sorry for myself is indulgence
thinking I am weak and unable is indulgence
self pity is indulgence
depencency, irresponsibility are indulgence
attending to my every little bit of emotional twist, needs and wants is indulgence.

So many thing I chose not to do or rely on others are indulgences.

To stop indulgence is to stop focusing on myself and start doing what i need to do.

Indulgence is self attention
Effort is event and responsibility attention
Strength comes from overcoming adversity with my own abilities
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Re: My Turn to Start 10 July 2017
« Reply #424 on: December 19, 2017, 11:15:37 AM »
Keep doing well. Keep on reflecting, writing, and thriving.

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