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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #50 on: December 05, 2018, 09:36:11 PM »
No orgasm is doable although it sounds impossible, and you can always cuddle with your wife or get her off in other ways.

I know how it feels to be crazy about someone who doesn't reciprocate.  I wish I knew the answer.  Backing off the pursuit seems to be the best strategy.

Young children put an enormous strain on a relationship.  Those first few years have coincided with some of my worst marital crises.  If y'all can ride it out for a while, you will be able to return life as normal adults eventually.  I know how frustrating it is.

It’s hard, but it will get better. I don’t really pursue her much is the thing. I’ve been backing off in hopes of doing the 90 day reboot, but she comes on to me and in the moment it’s hard not to stick it in even when you don’t intend to. I know I’m a blessed guy and this is hardly a problem considering how most guys marriages are.

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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #51 on: December 05, 2018, 09:38:54 PM »
33 days no porn, 1 day hard mode no orgasm, 3 days no cheating on my diet

I have just been super chill the last few days. No anxiety and super relaxed. My wife says I’ve been very pleasant to be around with zero underlying tension.

I’m not tempted at all by porn, but I have been feeling very horny. I’m very motivated on my diet as well.

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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #52 on: December 08, 2018, 01:49:48 PM »
35 days no porn, 2 days no orgasm, haven’t been compliant with diet today

Haven’t updated in a few days but things are going good. I’m closing in on 40 days of no porn and there is something Biblical about that number.

I’ve been having tons of morning wood and get hard when I pee. This seemed to all coincide with starting to take the CBD. I never thought I’d myself as anxious but the difference had been night and day. I’m still not 100% when attempting intercourse but it’s getting better.

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« Reply #53 on: December 10, 2018, 06:41:27 PM »
38 days no porn, 0 days no orgasm, 1 day no cheating on diet.

Things are going pretty well. Anxiety has been very low for the last week. Had sex with the wife last night and then a little bonus action today. Sometimes I think my sex life is boring and then I realize it’s not all the time but I’ve done things that would seem more like Penthouse Letters material. The wife visited me at work today. I’m totally unrelated news I’m not 100% yet on the ED but delayed ejaculation is gone. It usually takes a long time to come from a blowjob but most recently it’s only minutes.

Things continue to improve greatly.

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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #54 on: December 10, 2018, 07:52:56 PM »
Congrats.  Great news!  40 days is a big accomplishment.  I suffer from anxiety too.  I'd like to take CBD regularly, but it isn't cheap!

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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #55 on: December 11, 2018, 04:23:25 PM »
39 day no porn, zero days hard mode, 2 days no cheating on my diet

I’m really struggling today. I just want to watch some porn and if not some porn I want to start surfing the news websites for click bait articles with sexy pictures. I also want to cheat on my diet. Just a little bit of sugar filled junk out of the vending machines. I even masturbated today just to take the edge off but I think it made things worse. No porn and no fantasy but still was a bad idea. I probably need to really embrace the hard mode thing for a while. I think my wife is just happy with the vast improvement in my PIED and just wants to go back to our normal frequency.

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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #56 on: December 12, 2018, 05:09:25 PM »
39 day no porn, zero days hard mode, 2 days no cheating on my diet

I’m really struggling today. I just want to watch some porn and if not some porn I want to start surfing the news websites for click bait articles with sexy pictures. I also want to cheat on my diet. Just a little bit of sugar filled junk out of the vending machines. I even masturbated today just to take the edge off but I think it made things worse. No porn and no fantasy but still was a bad idea. I probably need to really embrace the hard mode thing for a while. I think my wife is just happy with the vast improvement in my PIED and just wants to go back to our normal frequency.

Congrats on staying away from the porn for 40 days.  I have found in the past that stopping the porn but continuing to masturbate and orgasm always leads back to porn.  Keep up the battle and remember that no matter how bad the urges get they will pass.  You are on a good 40 day run free from porn, keep looking to the future, let go of the past.

I'll pray for you.  Keep fighting you can do it...

Rex
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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #57 on: December 13, 2018, 03:28:17 PM »
40 days no porn

I’m still struggling with things. It was honestly a lot easier in the very beginning. Lately I’ve spent too much time on news web sites and I end up clicking clickbait trash articles. Read some article yesterday on a legit news website that was about some Sex Island where for $4500 you are assigned 2 hookers for a 5 day vacation and anything goes. It was complete with a trailer/commercial which blurred out any private parts and didn’t show any actual sex but was otherwise something you would see in the first few minutes of a porno before the action starts. So I just need to do a better job of not spending time on the Internet mindlessly reading clickbait articles. Relapses always start with that.

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Re: Time To Make A Change
« Reply #58 on: December 14, 2018, 06:39:27 AM »
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Sex Island where for $4500 you are assigned 2 hookers for a 5 day vacation and anything goes.

Who thinks up this stuff...

Well it does work. We click on it. I have. You did. And, so do the bulk of us here on RN. At lease many of us are all tempted. And it does make the site money, lots of money...

But, what if we changed our tune. What if we laughed at the site, at the author, at the thought that we were going to get sucked into that crap. After all, its all based on emotion. Maybe it's our emotional reaction that is the problem. Maybe emotion it's the emotion that doesn't provide the strength to change. And what is that emotion. Is it fear that drives us to stay away? Maybe shame? If we click have we failed?

I hear so much about willpower and strength to stay away from this stuff. Based on the research of the brain, willpower is exceptionally flawed at changing behavior.

Maybe we need to laugh.