Author Topic: Can porn make you think about being a girl in a relationship with a guy?  (Read 2486 times)

General290

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Hello everyone I'm here because I have the most weirdest thing that ever happened to me. Idk if its normal or not. I'm happily in a relationship with my beautiful girlfriend. I've been battling porn addiction for 5 years. I had the weirdest random thought that popped up in my head. It was about me being a girl in a relationship with a guy. I started freaking out because Its weird. Yes I have viewed gay porn before but not that much. I quit though because it was weird and I was mostly into my porn which is straight and lesbian. I'm 100% comfortable with my sexuality as a straight male to admit that I watched gay porn. I know some straight men view gay porn its normal for porn addicts to escalate into that genre. Nothing new ,but can someone just let me know about these thoughts. Does porn cause these thoughts or is it just normal for guys to think like that sometimes? I have OCD naturally so that might be the case too. It gives me so much anxiety when I get the thoughts. It makes me not even want to do anything.
« Last Edit: June 15, 2017, 12:55:21 AM by General290 »

General290

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I feel like my brain is being clogged up. I can't focus on anything anymore :(

Big H

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Most likely the porn

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Thanks @Big H

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if you watch too much straight porn you will start having fantasizes whenever you see a girl that you find attractive. you will also start having random sex thoughts. if you watch gay porn i guess you will start having gay thoughts.

if it was your choice you would never choose to think about being a girl in a relationship with a guy (that sounds funny though) so the thoughts that pop up are not under your control. there is no need to stress over it. porn addiction and escalation in taste is the reason for all this, not your true natural sexual orientation or preference.

another if.. if you have been battling porn addiction for 5 years, it means you must have some streaks and you use porn a lot less than you would if you did not started battling with it. seems like it is not helping too much... you are now developing gay thoughts and thinking about sex with a man, which is (for a straight guy) escalation in porn use. i experience this escalation too (not this specific one) even though, while trying to quit, i reduced my PMO at least 10 times. this is how important it is to completely cut off PMO.

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Whats funny about that? Lol
« Last Edit: June 17, 2017, 09:12:13 PM by General290 »

Numez

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Whats funny about that? Lol
i dont know i just laughed when i imagined it  ;D i guess i was not imagining sexual consequences of that ;D

General290

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Oh lol. Hey @Nikola Numez I let the thoughts come and go. Its not bothering me anymore. I feel more happier now that I learnt how to control the HOCD. I know the thoughts will fade away completely.  I read so much about it. Thanks.
« Last Edit: June 18, 2017, 11:41:25 AM by General290 »

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thats really good because HOCD sucks. you are not alone, many people seem to realize that porn induced fetishes like gay fantasizes are fake and induced by porn addiction. that is really great to hear.

if you feel bad about your sexuality, its because of porn. you never felt bad about liking girls so if you feel bad about liking guys (in sexual way) its obvious that its because of heavy porn use    ;)

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You're 100% correct @Nikola Numez. I'm glad you are here to help others.

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I have have the gay thoughts etc. But i know it is the porn so really i don't think i have HOCD? If I have the thoughts i honestly don't care and try to focus on not relapsing.
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General290

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@Stevew You will go back to your normal straight tastes when you finish your reboot. All the  gay thoughts and fantasies will fade.

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Glad to read this post as I was just questioning fetishes developed over the course of watching porn.

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I do not believe that the homosexual (not 'Gay') thoughts are not entirely about the porn but are in fact part of my sexual self.

I find it impossible to believe a man can have an idea if they consider themselves attractive or not without comparing themselves  to something or someone.... basically another man.  Once you open yourself up to the idea that we can compare ourselves to something (another male) then we must therefore have an idea of what attractive is by comparison.  Then.... what about that man is interesting/attractive?