canterbury18
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G'day lads.
It's been something like 110 days since I first posted on here. Back then I was not having a good time, depressed about my ED and In a hole of PMO. (for more see my journal in the Teens section). I did the 90 days no PMO and after flat line after flat line at around day 80 I had successful sex for the 1st time since I fist noticed my PIED. I've been consistently performing ever since and my reboot has saved my relationship with the first girl I've ever really cared for.
So I figured I'd share a few of the things that made it easier for me and answer some of the questions that I had when I first started.
-I kept a picture of my girlfriend in my wallet and as the background of my phone. Every time I wanted to PMO that steered my back to reality.
-Once I stopped intermittently flatlining, and I found myself getting better erections, I slowly reintroduced M (defiantly WITHOUT any form of P!!!!!). Now many people say this is a bad idea, and for them it may be true. But found that having regular M and O made it much easier to manage stress and make me feel like a normal human being. I also believe it helped my erections, and defiantly did not have any negative effects on them.
-Block internet P. Get a safesearch program or something to block sensitive content. In the very few times I found myself trying to look at P, the the Mcaffe message would come up, block the site, and also remind me why I was leaving P behind in the 1st place.
- Find a girl. The reason I rebooted, was for my girlfriend. So I could make her happier. I spent as much time with her as possible and that exposure made it 1000 times easier to reboot. Especially when I was finally able to have sex.
-Workout. Another reason I rebooted, was because I didn't feel like a man. P had taken away my virility and I felt like a failure. As well as rebooting, I have managed to put on 10kgs which Is awesome ( i was too skinny before) and now I play fly half on my schools 1st XV rugby team. The added testosterone from working out, as well as wanting to undo to damage done my porn has made me a better human.
- Get outside. Get off your computer, get out of your bedroom, go out with mates and live life. Not only does it take your mind of P, it makes you a healthier person.
- Get addicted to something else ( something good of course) get addicted to working out, get addicted to study, get addicted to a hobby.
- Do your research. Figuring out what would help my reboot meant I had to understand addiction, and what porn does to you brain. There are plenty of resources around reboot nation, like youbrainonporn.com. I also suggest you go subscribe to Noah Church's youtube channel, some good stuff there https://www.youtube.com/user/bvrningqvestions/featured
- And finally whatever you do, never go back to porn... No matter how healed you are, porn should never be an option for you. Healed alcoholics are the most likely people to become addicted to alcohol, healed meth addicts are the most susceptible to meth addiction... why would it be any different with porn? Don't reawaken the reward circuits triggered by porn. Just pretend porn doesn't exist and never go back.
Good luck with you reboots lads, have a good one
It's been something like 110 days since I first posted on here. Back then I was not having a good time, depressed about my ED and In a hole of PMO. (for more see my journal in the Teens section). I did the 90 days no PMO and after flat line after flat line at around day 80 I had successful sex for the 1st time since I fist noticed my PIED. I've been consistently performing ever since and my reboot has saved my relationship with the first girl I've ever really cared for.
So I figured I'd share a few of the things that made it easier for me and answer some of the questions that I had when I first started.
-I kept a picture of my girlfriend in my wallet and as the background of my phone. Every time I wanted to PMO that steered my back to reality.
-Once I stopped intermittently flatlining, and I found myself getting better erections, I slowly reintroduced M (defiantly WITHOUT any form of P!!!!!). Now many people say this is a bad idea, and for them it may be true. But found that having regular M and O made it much easier to manage stress and make me feel like a normal human being. I also believe it helped my erections, and defiantly did not have any negative effects on them.
-Block internet P. Get a safesearch program or something to block sensitive content. In the very few times I found myself trying to look at P, the the Mcaffe message would come up, block the site, and also remind me why I was leaving P behind in the 1st place.
- Find a girl. The reason I rebooted, was for my girlfriend. So I could make her happier. I spent as much time with her as possible and that exposure made it 1000 times easier to reboot. Especially when I was finally able to have sex.
-Workout. Another reason I rebooted, was because I didn't feel like a man. P had taken away my virility and I felt like a failure. As well as rebooting, I have managed to put on 10kgs which Is awesome ( i was too skinny before) and now I play fly half on my schools 1st XV rugby team. The added testosterone from working out, as well as wanting to undo to damage done my porn has made me a better human.
- Get outside. Get off your computer, get out of your bedroom, go out with mates and live life. Not only does it take your mind of P, it makes you a healthier person.
- Get addicted to something else ( something good of course) get addicted to working out, get addicted to study, get addicted to a hobby.
- Do your research. Figuring out what would help my reboot meant I had to understand addiction, and what porn does to you brain. There are plenty of resources around reboot nation, like youbrainonporn.com. I also suggest you go subscribe to Noah Church's youtube channel, some good stuff there https://www.youtube.com/user/bvrningqvestions/featured
- And finally whatever you do, never go back to porn... No matter how healed you are, porn should never be an option for you. Healed alcoholics are the most likely people to become addicted to alcohol, healed meth addicts are the most susceptible to meth addiction... why would it be any different with porn? Don't reawaken the reward circuits triggered by porn. Just pretend porn doesn't exist and never go back.
Good luck with you reboots lads, have a good one
