Author Topic: 28 yo: 5 months of rebooting, 5 years since last intercourse  (Read 2041 times)

anon89

  • Member

  • Offline
  • *

  • 39
    • View Profile
28 yo: 5 months of rebooting, 5 years since last intercourse
« on: March 04, 2017, 12:14:17 PM »
Background

I was never really into porn, so giving it up was not a problem at all. I did masturbate (maybe 70-90% hard) almost daily though.
First time with a girl at 21 (got ED), first and only intercourse at 23, and then nothing without ED until now.

On average, I went to bed with maybe 1 girl a year, and always had unreliable erections. I thought it was just performance anxiety, as I was in good shape and eating well.

Last autumn after yet another ED, I went to Google and got the answers I needed!

Rebooting

Giving up (P)MO made me feel more drive, and stabilised my mood at a noticeably better level, but after a few months and meeting a new girl, I still experienced ED.

Then a bit later, I met someone I was genuinely interested in, and things went way better!
I got hard relatively easily, even with a condom on, and had intercourse for the first time in almost 5 years.

I feel much more attracted to girls nowadays, but I want to be with the one I'm seeing at the moment.

Looking back

For me, porn was never the problem. Reducing masturbating to a minimum helped, but in terms of ED, I think my main problem was performance anxiety due to lack of emotional connection with partners.

I would love to hear if others have had similar stories.

You can read my full background story and journal here: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=10802.0

Thanks, everyone!

shattered

  • Member

  • Offline
  • *

  • 10
    • View Profile
Re: 28 yo: 5 months of rebooting, 5 years since last intercourse
« Reply #1 on: April 06, 2017, 07:33:16 AM »
This resonates with me.

shattered

  • Member

  • Offline
  • *

  • 10
    • View Profile
Re: 28 yo: 5 months of rebooting, 5 years since last intercourse
« Reply #2 on: April 06, 2017, 04:40:28 PM »
This was a really good post for me to read.  I have also noticed that I have ED when there is no connection or I haven't had sex in a long time, but once I start getting comfortable, things start working.

anon89

  • Member

  • Offline
  • *

  • 39
    • View Profile
Re: 28 yo: 5 months of rebooting, 5 years since last intercourse
« Reply #3 on: April 17, 2017, 05:04:25 PM »
Glad to hear! Yeah, I think connection is an important thing to consider, instead of just saying it's 100% ED.