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raylangivens

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Libido only with one kind of woman?
« on: October 14, 2016, 08:14:26 PM »
Hello guys,
For those who already had a lot of experience helping people rebooting or reading the website, a think my situation is not normal so please help me.

Shorten,I am 20 and I discovered reboot nation 1 and half year ago. During that time (when I discovered the website), I was dating a girl. I never had problems with porn addiction, I was suffering only from PIED and I told her about the problem. She helped me and I had a very good improvement, of course with some roller-coaster effect, which is normal. About 6 months ago we broke up. Then I started having sex with many girls, and about 1 or 2 months after we broke up I started having sex with 50/60 year old womans. I realized that my libido was being way up higher with those than with girls of my age (20/30 y.o.). So I decided to cutt of older woman because i thought that it could decrease my progress with normal girls/PIED (during the time sometimes I was still having to masturbate to get erection). I stopped even thinking on them.

This week, I could not hold it. I stayed like 3 days in row thinking about the sex a had with older womans, and then I had sex with one of them today. The difference between older womans and girls of my age is that my libido is WAY UP HIGH with older womans. With those I stay like the entire day having spontaneos erections, thinking about them (not trying to), and to meet them I don't care about traveling 2 hours of high way, or go after them despite I am stressed or tired. I don't give I damn if they are fat, have scars or don't have all teeths. My libido are always way up high. The only thing is that I feel king of bad after the sex with those.

With girls of my age, I want to and I go have sex but it is not the same. For my lucky, most them are very cute, intelligent, have I nice body, energic, funny,  young and everything. But my libido before I meet them is almost zero. The desire of having sex come only during the moment I am with those girls (despite 30/40% of the times I need to masturbate to get erection and then have sex).

I admit that when I used to watch porn, older woman were one of my favorite "actress". But after I started rebooting, I never more watched porn and I don't even have the desire for it; I don't even masturbate, my brain already saw that sex will come only with real people. And before me and my exgirlfriend broke up, I never had sex with older womans. Never in my entire life. Sometimes I already had to masturbate with older womans, but it is rare. The thing in this situation is called LIBIDO: when I am alone, in the car, at the work, watching movies or sports, eating, whatever, I almost don't have libido when I think about girls of my age, and then when older womans is my thought, bang: steel erection and even get distracted of what I am doing. Have the REAL DESIRE.

Like I said, I thought that stopping having sex with older woman would increse my libido on young girls. I did it for about 3 months, and it didn't work. I am afraid of wanting to have sex with only older woman for forever of my life. Is that a case of rebooting? Having libido and having sex with older womans could heal my sexuality in general, including girls of my age? Or as much as I think on them or have sex, less libido on other girls I will have?!

I don't know what to do, help!
STOP RUNNING AWAY! Stop taking the easiest route. Stop hoping more from life if you are simply doing the same things over, and over, and over.


21 years old, 2 years rebooting.

pikeCounty

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Re: Libido only with one kind of woman?
« Reply #1 on: October 14, 2016, 09:33:12 PM »
Hey Man. I am no expert here at all, but it sounds to me like you just need to do two things:
1. Do not ever PMO (like the rest of us)
2. Only have sex with girls you really like and want a relationship with. Sex for any other reason will usually hurt either you or the other person in some way.


raylangivens

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Re: Libido only with one kind of woman?
« Reply #2 on: October 14, 2016, 10:17:17 PM »
Hey Man. I am no expert here at all, but it sounds to me like you just need to do two things:
1. Do not ever PMO (like the rest of us)
2. Only have sex with girls you really like and want a relationship with. Sex for any other reason will usually hurt either you or the other person in some way.

About the number 1, I never watch porn and I only masturbate if the erection doesn't come naturally when I am going to have sex.
About the number 2, where I live it's not true all the time, there is a lot of girls that asks only for sex and to keep it secret. I don't make promises.
STOP RUNNING AWAY! Stop taking the easiest route. Stop hoping more from life if you are simply doing the same things over, and over, and over.


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Re: Libido only with one kind of woman?
« Reply #3 on: October 14, 2016, 10:27:15 PM »
You're trying to relive your porn experiences with those milfs, lol.
pikeCounty is right, what you need is a real relationship, or no relationship at all.
I'm determined to never watch porn again.

raylangivens

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Re: Libido only with one kind of woman?
« Reply #4 on: October 14, 2016, 10:39:20 PM »
You're trying to relive your porn experiences with those milfs, lol.
pikeCounty is right, what you need is a real relationship, or no relationship at all.

About the real relationship, it has been hard to find a decent girl for it. Even when I did (6 months ago), I still was having few or any libido about my girlfriend while I wasn't in her company.
Also it has not being too bad about the erection: one month ago I had sex with one girl in the morning and with another at the night (same day), both with natural erection. In the other hand, last week I had sex with three in the week but I had to masturbate to get erection with all them.

My question, my doubt is about the LIBIDO. You guys think my progress could being delayed having sex with those milfs? I mean, if I stop maybe one day I will not have libido about them?

STOP RUNNING AWAY! Stop taking the easiest route. Stop hoping more from life if you are simply doing the same things over, and over, and over.


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Re: Libido only with one kind of woman?
« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2016, 10:44:52 AM »
Wherever OP lives sounds like a happening town  8) ;)

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Re: Libido only with one kind of woman?
« Reply #6 on: October 17, 2016, 01:27:15 AM »
I have experienced something similar. My girlfriend is very beautiful and sexy but I have had very low natural libido for the most of our relationship. Instead I ended up cheating her with a couple of girls who were not nearly as sexy as my gf. They were "random" girls with whom I could have sex without any emotional connection. One of them was also much older than me. This felt much easier than sex with my gf and I was also able to perform much better with these random girls. But now as our reationship has progressed and I feel more and more relaxed with my gf, sex has become easier as well. And now I also have natural libido for her as well. However, I still have these urges to have meaningless sex with meaningless people sometimes... I am trying to resist the temptation because emotionally I care for my gf and I don't want to cheat on her.