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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #25 on: May 23, 2016, 10:47:59 PM »
I'm not exactly how this is supposed to work, but I am looking for an AP.  About me, I am an openly gay 43 year-old man, just so you guys know where I'm coming from.  Thanks.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #26 on: May 31, 2016, 10:12:54 PM »
Good luck.
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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #27 on: June 01, 2016, 08:56:18 AM »
I'm 51 years old and 43 days into my hard reboot.  After eight years of addiction to free porn on the Internet, I have trashed my life and my relationship to my beautiful wife and daughter.  I am fighting to regain my soul, my self, and my love.  Despite some symptoms (headaches, mood swings/spikes, sleeplessness), the process of abstaining has been good - with no desire to go back. 

Want to keep it that way - and through SA meetings, I've heard stories of successful reboots falling apart when stress or depression works its way through.  I have not found a sponsor yet, and it seems to me that an accountability partner might be more in line with what could help me - not just to stay on track, but to focus on helping someone else do the same.  Porn addiction for me has been a kind of toxic narcissism - I want to focus on other people and of being some use in the world after taking so much away from it.

I look forward to meeting and working with a partner on this recovery.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #28 on: June 02, 2016, 02:04:30 PM »
^ So I just read your journal, P2Bm, and realize that we're basically starting up at the same time. Coming from different places. Not so radically different as to not find some common humanity. (Your list on what you ended up watching - and how mortified you felt by this list - could match mine for remorse, believe me. I mean, how's that happen?) If you wanna read through my journal and do this accountability partner thing, I'd be open. Also new to this, somewhat confused, but enthusiastic for some fixin'! If you've got other options or don't see the mesh, also good; still cheering you on, bud.

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Fj6, thanks for taking the time to reply.  I have an AP now, but we're all in this together.  Hopefully, you can find an AP soon.  I'm telling you, having one makes a difference.

I relapsed twice since I joined mid-May, but now that I have an AP, he's kept me from PMO'ing (and even MO'ing) twice within as many days now. I'm determined to get through these next 3 months via the Hard 90 route.

Stay positive and strong, my brother!  We will conquer this!

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #29 on: June 04, 2016, 10:12:47 AM »
I am a 53 year old married male, father of two, seeking an accountability partner. 

Today, marks seven weeks that I have been PMO free and I want to keep it that way.

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« Reply #30 on: July 12, 2016, 07:10:14 PM »
I am 62 years old, masturbating from the age of 5, sexually molested by a male OR tec. Would like an accountability partner that is Christian, just believe that we would be on the same page. Married for 37 years, she's a good woman, and she knows of the porn. Other programs are outside my ranch. As I am not the only one who needs help with little to work with. On good days it mite be 7 to 10 days return to porn, but it keeps coming back. Was a part of this form 6 months ago and pride ran me off. Not this time. Would like to connect with two others, for that makes for a three cord accord that not easy to break.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #31 on: July 14, 2016, 02:07:52 AM »
I've started my reboot and I am committed to my recovery.  I have been following some journals and participating in others and my own recovery but it would be nice to have a dedicated accountability partner.  I use support where I can find it but I am ultimately responsible for my own reboot.

I have found that I have been connecting with men of across the board in this shared community but I relate on other life experiences as:

-a gay man
-a secular Jew (no God here)
-a WeHo or gay ghetto/boystown resident
-someone whose sexual awakening occurred in or around the early 1980's as AIDS was taking root

If you are new here and looking for someone that will challenge you in your recovery and you are up to the challenge, please reach out!



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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #32 on: July 16, 2016, 05:31:25 AM »
Help

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #33 on: September 05, 2016, 11:00:19 AM »
 mid 50's, great wife and family, married 29 years, enjoy fair health and am successful in my career.  I've been addicted to porn my whole life. Progressed last year to acting out, with men.  Porn and sex has dominated my life since I was 13. All consuming.

More of my story on my journal page.

Looking for someone around my age to be accountable with.


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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #34 on: September 21, 2016, 04:47:34 AM »
Hello, i'm looking for an accountability partner.
I'm 40 years old, married, and new at rebooting
I am a christian, but ill keep my beliefs to myself

Stay strong
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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #35 on: November 15, 2016, 03:05:17 PM »
Hi,

New here. I'm 54, married with 2 young kids. I've been addicted to porn as long as I can remember. Did therapy etc., but really need accountability to someone in the same boat.

Spiritual, but not religious.

Porn is threatening to destroy my life, but I'm confident I can move through this.


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« Reply #36 on: December 14, 2016, 04:22:22 PM »
I am 50 years old. I had been a constant user of all forms of (non-paid) pornography for years. My wife discovered this last spring and initiated a divorce. She forgave me, and I foolishly thought that I had the wherewithal to simply abandon decades of conditioning. I backslid beginning about three weeks ago. I was discovered. My wife now wavers between telling me that she will only stay around until the children have finished high school and telling me she loves me. I know that I don't even deserve for her to stay around another day. I do not know how an accountability partner works, but I am willing to try it. To make matters more difficult, my employer has changed their HRA policies so that I can no longer use my card to directly pay the coach/counselor I had just started using, beginning January 1. Given what that costs, I may be adrift without professional assistance.


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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #37 on: February 28, 2017, 11:55:23 AM »
 Looking for an accountability partner. 
I am 43 years old, I am married for the past 11 years and have been struggling with porn for probably 35 years.   I haven't used porn in a few weeks, but now that I have been reading this website I have understood that by me going on YouTube and Facebook and kind of trying to see women is just as bad.  I quit in July 2016 and during that time I would perv on Facebook and YouTube etc. and then finally relapse in December 2016.  From then until now I would continue doing this perving on YouTube etc.   Now from what I've read here I realize that I need to rewire my brain and quit it all and all, no YouTube/Facebook perving.

 I have had an affair on my wife and was caught, I am really lucky that she is staying with me and working it out.  I believe that the affair occurred partially because of porn. What I am unsure of is how to do this reboot while I am married, obviously I am sexually attracted to my wife, what do I do not give her any sexual attention at all during the 90 days?
 How do I deal with the sexual temptation of touching my wife, even though we are not having any sex, she is not ready due to the affair 

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #38 on: August 31, 2017, 06:00:05 PM »
47 year old newbie here on the forum. I'm on day 5 and have done fairly well in my reboot, but I'm not gonna get too over confident with it. I realize I'm subject to slip at anytime. I need an accountability partner to help me through this. Please if anyone can commit to this send me a message. Thanks you, Blaze

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« Reply #39 on: October 26, 2017, 05:57:52 PM »
I'm a 67-year old guy with a relatively new porn and P.I.E.D. problem. I didn't start watching heavily until my divorce about two years ago. When I lost my "adult supervision" and got my own place, it was just way too easy to go on my computer and PMO for hours and hours at a time, sometimes not getting to bed until 5 a.m. or so, and then having to call in sick for work. I had an accountability partner until about six months ago, and our relationship was very helpful to both of us. But he finished his reboot and moved on, totally understandable. Since I've been without an accountability partner all summer, I've slipped back into my unhealthy habits. I would welcome anyone of any age to p.m. me and see if we can help each other out.

Thanks very much.
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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #40 on: October 30, 2017, 11:11:22 PM »
I just posted my intro and am definitely looking for an accountability partner. I could really use some help getting this under control.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #41 on: November 02, 2017, 07:36:26 AM »
 Hey man I am also looking for an accountability partner, if you want to send me a private message we can take it from there let me know  or if anyone else is interested in an accountability partner send me a private message



I just posted my intro and am definitely looking for an accountability partner. I could really use some help getting this under control.

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« Reply #42 on: November 07, 2017, 04:36:01 AM »
Hi Everyone,

I'm looking to team up with an accountability partner to support eachother. In 2015 I recognised that I have an addiction. I have made significant progress since then but finding an accountability partner is the next stage. You can read about my journey here: http://www.rebootnation.org/forum/index.php?topic=10090.msg105000#msg105000

What I would expect from an accountability partner:

1. Take over admin on my filtering softwares. This is just to ensure I don't change the passwords.

2. Also, if I could ad them as my accountability partner on my Fortify program so they can see my 'battle tracker' i.e see my progress.

3. Communicate with eachother on a weekly basis to see how we are getting along (if you need more often then weekly that's fine, we can figure out what suits us best). 

If you would like to team up with me please PM me and say a little about your journey so far.

Peace.

UPDATE: I opened up to a close friend about my recovery and he is now my accountability partner. I am not looking for another accountability partner anymore.
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« Reply #43 on: January 04, 2018, 09:29:08 AM »
Hello
I am a 61 year old who is just starting my re-boot. I just came to grips with this about a week ago so feel overwhelmed by most of it. I think it might be helpful to have a friend here to help keep me honest.

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« Reply #44 on: February 23, 2018, 12:44:15 PM »
Hi.  I'm new to the site.  I'm a few weeks shy of 49 years old, and I've been addicted since I was about 20.  Been struggling to beat it by myself with ups and downs but no long term success.  I've been experiencing the porn-induced ED for several years and have to take viagra to be with my wife.  She knows nothing of my addiction.  It's the only thing I've ever hidden from her in the 30 years we've been together.  I'm at the end of my rope, and I'm hoping I can finally overcome this with the help of a community like this one.  If there is anyone looking for an accountability partner, I would welcome the opportunity.  I've finally come to the conclusion that I am never going to beat this on my own. 
5Dawgs

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« Reply #45 on: April 20, 2018, 10:36:15 PM »
seekinghelp:

I would be willing to be your Accountability Partner.

I am a 60 year old virgin with an addiction to PMO.  I also have a couple mild disabilities but I am a good
athlete.  It was the disabilities that kept me from hooking up fulltime with a lady.

I am 100% Heterosexual though!!!

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« Reply #46 on: June 29, 2018, 09:24:43 PM »
Looking for an accountability partner. I'm 66 and using porn since I was 14.  Have been in SA in the past and therapy several years ago. Had some success, but have relapsed. Back in therapy to work on underlying issues as well as stopping, but I want to work with someone who's also going through what I am going through. I'm married and told my wife about this, and have her support, but I'm not comfortable accounting to her. If you are available, message me. Thanks.

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Re: **Accountability Partner Requests**
« Reply #47 on: September 12, 2018, 05:03:45 PM »
I would be interested in finding an accountability partner -- preferably someone who plans to incorporate their faith into their recovery. I am a 46yo Catholic, married, father of four.
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« Reply #48 on: December 03, 2018, 04:06:37 AM »
Hi, I'm looking for an AP to help,and be helpful to,in my struggle to reboot successfully,and sustain my recovery as I have failed on many occasions over the years.I have watched porn every day,but I am on day two of being away from porn. It isn't easy and I need help with the withdrawals,(and believe me they are bad!).I also have engaged in cyber sex, with both sexes,although I enjoyed it at the time,it wasn't long before the guilt and shame set in. My porn addiction has grown worse over time,and I find that I have to watch more and more "warped and darker",subject matter to achieve the same stimulation. If you are looking for an AP,or think that you could help me, then contact me either by reply, PM, or email me. Thank you.
Hi, my name is Jethro,and I am 63years old I'm married, and between us, we have so many children that they all have numbers now instead of names, and don't even think of asking about the grandkids!!. Both of us have been married before. I'm very glad to be here.

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« Reply #49 on: December 13, 2018, 01:30:17 PM »
I am new to this forum, but I have been involved with "Men's work" through an international organization for almost 20 years. I meet with a group of men, and we practice accountability, and hold each other accountable when neccessary........SO, I know how having an accountability support system works.
     That being said, I would really appreciate having an accountability partner, and being one for some one who is also interested for the right reasons. How do I do this?