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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #25 on: November 25, 2014, 02:34:45 PM »
Glad to read about all the positive progress. You guys rock!

You are already reaping the benefits. Don't let you minds start playing tricks on you!
It will so be prepared!!! ;)

Decide well ahead of time what your will do when the urges come, when your mind wants to hijack your will.
This is the single greatest way of succeeding. Pre determining your actions.
Remember if you want to make decisions on how you will handle the situation when the urge is there, you will make the wrong decision!
Knowing in advance what you will do and sticking to the plan of action is VITAL!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!


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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #26 on: November 25, 2014, 10:31:57 PM »
Thank you lyon. I'm 18 days. I've been thinking  a lot about p, today certain  scenes. I've been  trying  to block them out, and I've been pretty  successful.  They only get about 5 seconds,  then I purposely  just think about anything else  not p related.  I know every day I beat this, I'm closer to getting  back a normal  life. Can't wait to see what  tomorrow  brings.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #27 on: November 26, 2014, 12:39:40 AM »
My pleasure brother. We're all in this together. Find a counter trigger, like reading, standing up, talk to someone, or I've read others just visualize a giant red X appearing on these porn scenes. Porn is the opposite of love. Every time we give in to porn, we're taking love away from ourselves. Be well. 

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #28 on: November 26, 2014, 11:44:51 PM »
Damn it  I keep thinking  about p scenes, I'm starting  to remember  certain ones, it's getting  hard to get them out of my mind. I'm going for a nasty mountain  bike ride tomorrow  morning.  Maybe  that will clear  my head a little

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #29 on: November 26, 2014, 11:49:01 PM »
Yes, so true. Our minds is the biggest pitfalls to our success.
It can also be the contributor to our only success!
The choice is ours. What we chose on a daily basis is what will make us victors or victims.

I chose VICTORY!!!

What About YOU?

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!


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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #30 on: November 27, 2014, 01:12:53 AM »
I find my favourite scenes pop back into my head during sleep, just last night in fact. But I put a giant 'family feud' sized X on them, complete with a loud mental horn, and that seemed to help. Biking is a great idea. Take that urge and turn it into something positive.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #31 on: November 29, 2014, 09:53:03 AM »
I don't  know what the deal, I feel  like crap. I'm kind of feel  like I have anxiety.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #32 on: November 29, 2014, 02:52:07 PM »
Totally normal brother. Two days ago at the gym, I cried when hearing Sia's "Chandelier". How f*cked up is that? Think of your brain like a 2-year old. When it doesn't get the regular porn fix, it gives you headaches, the shakes, spontaneous boners...the works. And when that doesn't work, it screws with your emotions. It's all part of recovery. Stick with it brother. Your mind is f*cking with you because you've stopped its porn diet. Starve that part of your mind but feed it something else: music; books; knowledge etc. Stay strong. We're all behind you.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #33 on: November 30, 2014, 07:06:25 PM »
Thanks  lyon. I feel almost  like I'm having  panic  attacks. I have to keep that in mind. My brain  is absolutely  starving  for porn. It's almost  a month. I'm not hardly  thinking  about porn. But subconsciously I must be, and not realizing it. I've keeping  very active. I took my son hiking, for four  hours. I'm honestly  thinking  about getting  a shower and going to bed. Thanks for the support

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #34 on: December 01, 2014, 02:44:25 AM »
You're a beast brother. Don't let this control your life. I'd recommend having someone to call when you get the urge. I went from withdrawal to a very fragile emotional state (hence crying at the gym to Sia's 'Chandelier'). We're all here for you and rooting for you. When the urge starts, have a plan to counter it: cold shower; push ups; read; call someone. PORN IS NOT AN OPTION!

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #35 on: December 01, 2014, 11:57:29 PM »
I was feeling horny today, but nothing  happened. I was at work anyway. That's all I need, is to get caught  m,o ing at work. No thanks. After work I got to go play pickle ball, with a bunch of oldies.  I had a blast. It's funny,  when people  introduce themselves I can remember  their names (mostly)
I feel really confident in public. It was fun. I'm proud of myself,  for getting  out and meeting people. Stay strong rebooters.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #36 on: December 02, 2014, 06:23:40 AM »
Well done brother! I agree rubbing one out at the office is a bit creepy. Strange you should mention names. I've experienced the same thing. I want to interact with people more, particularly at the gym. I put away my phone/earbuds, shake hands, ask names, and interact with people. It's called being a human being I guess. Stay strong!

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #37 on: December 02, 2014, 07:22:33 AM »
The name thing I can also resound with. Strange!!!

The following I shared on the forum with some other rebooters. I think this could be helpful to you as well.

"You already know what you don't want, and you know that it is affecting you in a bad way. Remind yourself of how bad it is and that the down side is far greater than the gain of what you want to accomplish.
Relate the bad to Pain.
And the good to Pleasure.
When the Pain is more than the Pleasure, it will be easier to make the transition to stay away from the pain.
If you still find it difficult to do that, imagine yourself a year, tow, five, ten, years from now, not making that change.
Will there be more Pain than Pleasure....?
This should motivate you and keep you motivated to make the right choices and stick to them."

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!


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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #38 on: December 02, 2014, 09:39:12 PM »
Thanks  guys for the reply
 I'm feeling  better  today. I've had a lot of anxiety the last couple  of days
 The best thing  for me is socializing, and exercising. That seems  to be the cure all. Other  than being sore than hell, I've had a great  day
 Everyday  rebooters,  we are getting  stronger.take care, and have a good night

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #39 on: December 03, 2014, 01:03:58 AM »
Well done Jay! Work on that good person every day and your former PMO self will just die off. I enjoy reading your posts and support you 100%. Be strong brother. PORN IS NOT AN OPTION. 

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #40 on: December 07, 2014, 10:32:46 AM »
I got back from the ufc fight last  nigjt. I wanted to look  at some porn. I could've edged all night. I kept thinking  of how much crap I've been through  the last month, and decided  I really  didn't  want to reset my pmo counter. I'm so proud  of myself
 I also thought  about everyone in the reboot  nation. I would  have felt like crap  today. Thank  you all for being  here, and helping  me through  this. Stay strong  rebooters

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #41 on: December 07, 2014, 06:36:13 PM »
Well done Jaystock

This is what rebooting is about. Not easy, but the reward after withstanding the temptations, come what may, is the best feeling ever! Nothing compares with it!
i'm proud of you!

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #42 on: December 09, 2014, 12:46:08 AM »
I ran heavy equipment  all day, and porn didn't  criss my mind at all.when I got home u rubbed my wife's  butt over her jeans.she was very receptive  to my rubbing.this weekend  our kids are going to grandma's  house..I think  it's time to see how much process  I've made. I'm looking  forward  to it very much, so is she (it's gonna be naughty  time).

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #43 on: December 09, 2014, 04:49:17 AM »
Yeeeaaahhh brother! Glad to read about you enjoying some clean fantasies with someone you love. Happy for you both.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #44 on: December 12, 2014, 12:46:01 AM »
Thank you so much for the encouragement lyon. I've been trying  to post on your wall, it's not letting my post go through. I'm doing good, I do miss surfing  the porn. I think this will get better. I'm just so ready  for this shit to be over. The cravings, and the dopamine  drops. Have a good day. Not much longer,  and you'll  be on vaca.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #45 on: December 15, 2014, 12:21:51 AM »
My wife and I had a great time, I was harder, than I've been in years. All the sh*t I've put up with in the last month  was waaaay
Worth  it. At first  I had a little stage fright, but I just figured  if it didn't  work, I'll  try again  in a month. But it worked  good. My wife was so impressed, she almost  started crying. She even wanted  my to try again  today...I did, and it was good too. I'm so blessed  to have found the reboot  nation. Thank all of you for your stories.  I don't feel like a freak  for the things  I've done in the past. Stay  strong PORN IS NOT AN OPTION

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #46 on: December 15, 2014, 12:38:35 AM »
Well done brother! Sounds like you rocked her world so much she came back for more. Keep feeding the positives and starve the negatives. Porn no longer has a place in your new life as it would just get in between the two of you. Be well my friend.

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #47 on: December 15, 2014, 02:49:05 PM »
Well done brother, this is good news. Not just for you but for the both of you!

Remember to do the reboot for the right reasons, not just to cure PIED or ED.

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!


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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #48 on: December 16, 2014, 03:53:16 PM »
Thank you guys for the support. Having  you guys here makes it so manageable. The more I'm away from porn, the less I miss it. After  being with my wife this weekend (twice ). Hehe.  I'm mad at myself  for missing  out on REAL sex. Damn it was so nice. I have a good woman. Thanks again  rebooters.  SEX IS NOT AN OPTION, EVER

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Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« Reply #49 on: December 16, 2014, 04:29:49 PM »
Bravo! I think you meant to write, "PORN IS NOT AN OPTION". If this website has now switched to "SEX IS NOT AN OPTION", I'm handing in my membership card...TODAY. All kidding aside, we celebrate in your victory. Having someone to connect with is a beautiful thing, especially after all the sh*t we've been through because of PMO addiction. Again congrats!