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Remington.22

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Edging?
« on: May 20, 2019, 08:24:12 PM »
Noob question here - what is "edging"? What's that mean. I've seen it posted here many times but in all honesty am not sure what's being discussed.
On other note, today marks day 416 porn free. And I'm a 40 year addict. So it can be done!

Pete McVries

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Re: Edging?
« Reply #1 on: May 20, 2019, 08:31:01 PM »
Edging can be two things:

Either watching porn for hours without orgasming or orgasming after a very long period of watching porn. Or it can be delaying the orgasm while masturbating or having sex as well. Like getting really close to the point of no return (or edge...) several times over a long period of time in order to achieve a really strong orgasm.

For us PMO addicts it is mostly the former.
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Remington.22

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Re: Edging?
« Reply #2 on: May 21, 2019, 01:26:03 AM »
Like getting really close to the point of no return (or edge...) several times over a long period of time in order to achieve a really strong orgasm.

This happens? I can't believe that in 50 years of life I've never known about this. So if one gets close to orgasm,...backs off, get close, back off & does this over a long period (not sure what justifies "long") when you finally do orgasm its noticeably stronger? Can't see how this is a 'bad' thing...assuming its not done within the confines of the PMO which we're all at varying stages of struggle with.

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Re: Edging?
« Reply #3 on: May 21, 2019, 05:03:46 AM »
Oh yes this is a thing. I guess a healthy man can achieve orgasm within a couple of minutes while masturbating. But stopping right before will kind of pile up the orgasm to be become stronger. It has some similarities to the epikurean thought of denying immidiate pleasure to experience more pleasure later.

But it can have downsides as well. Beeing too rough stroking your dick can overstimulate it and eventually prevent you from cumming at all. And of course you can desensitise yourself to normal stimulation which can result in PIED such as delayed or premature ejaculation.

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Re: Edging?
« Reply #4 on: May 21, 2019, 07:49:19 AM »
From Gary Wilson's Porn Experiment:


The good ol' dopamine high...
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Re: Edging?
« Reply #5 on: May 21, 2019, 07:52:18 AM »
Novelty is the damn problem.

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Re: Edging?
« Reply #6 on: May 25, 2019, 05:20:44 PM »
First of all, congratulations on making it so long without porn. You're an inspiration to us all. Second, "edging" is the process by which you give in a bit to your cravings and slowly "edge" closer to PMO and stop on the "edge" just before O. Basically, it's an extremely unhealthy and counterproductive coping technique for porn addicts. You don't want to look at porn, but you can't resist the cravings. "Just a little bit", you say. So you look at porn and the next thing you know you're masturbating. You know it's not good for you but you can't stop. You feel yourself about to orgasm, then the last ounce of sense left in your brain yells, "STOP!!!" and you stop. You feel like it's a small victory. After all, you looked at porn but didn't orgasm, so it's better than you usually do, right? Wrong. Throughout the next day, your brain tries to sexualize everything. Your anxiety is through the roof. You don't know what is happening, but it isn't good. You're suffering because of edging. You gave your brain the imagery it wanted and released a high amount of dopamine, then stopped. Your brain didn't stop, it's still soaked in dopamine and trying to get a fix, and now it's affecting your daily life even more. It's like if you starved a dog then put out a huge pot roast dinner in front of it, then, right as he's about to chow down, you yank it away from him and put it on a shelf high out of his reach. Now he's even hungrier than he was before. You've increased your craving now and they'll come back stronger again and again until you relapse. Then the cycle continues anew. Edging is wishful thinking. It's taking the easy road and giving into addiction with the hopes of getting out of it. Never edge.