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Frand

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No Porn for 65 weeks but still not healed
« on: April 27, 2019, 04:41:38 AM »
It has now been 65 weeks since I last watched porn however I don't feel like I've gotten my sex drive back. I really "want" to want to have sex but that primal desire most of the time doesn't seem to be there.

Most of the time I can't get a hard erection to my own touch which wasn't the case back in my porn watching days on the occasions when I would masturbate from imagination. I sometimes get strong erections when fantasising about real girls or when I felt like I've been close to having sex with someone but I have little control over when.

To give some background on my journey when I first stopped watching porn, I didn't masturbate for 8 weeks. After a brief sexual encounter (my only one for last 65 weeks) I've masturbated around once a week on average but four or five times have taken a break for a month or so. When I have taken a break I've often had a wet dream after about a month. I've sporadically used dating apps on and off but haven't done so for the last 3 months.

If anyone has any recommendations for what things I should be looking at it would be much appreciated. Do I need to look at a long period of abstaining from masturbation? Should I start doing Kegels? Is the issue that I've practically been celibate for over a year and not been intimate with any girls since I stopped watching porn.

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Re: No Porn for 65 weeks but still not healed
« Reply #1 on: April 28, 2019, 07:46:26 AM »
I think to mastubate delays the process of rebooting. Because you arent teaching to your brain that you should be excited with someone else, but with yourself and your imagination.

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Re: No Porn for 65 weeks but still not healed
« Reply #2 on: April 28, 2019, 12:31:32 PM »
You are just justify something you dont need to be doing. You need to go cold Turkey... no pmo what so ever.

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Re: No Porn for 65 weeks but still not healed
« Reply #3 on: April 28, 2019, 06:46:53 PM »
Cold turkey is the way, and paradoxically, it's a lot easier than soft mode in my humble opinion. I tried soft mode several times in my life and it would always lead me back to porn and got addicting in itself. Abstaining from PMO became like a lifestyle for me and 90% of the days, I don't even think about abstaining from P or M because it has become the new norm.

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Re: No Porn for 65 weeks but still not healed
« Reply #4 on: April 28, 2019, 11:09:39 PM »

To give some background on my journey when I first stopped watching porn, I didn't masturbate for 8 weeks. After a brief sexual encounter (my only one for last 65 weeks) I've masturbated around once a week on average but four or five times have taken a break for a month or so. When I have taken a break I've often had a wet dream after about a month. I've sporadically used dating apps on and off but haven't done so for the last 3 months.


You will need to go in 'monk' mode that is abstain from any kind of (sexual) images that fact that you are using dating apps is major mistake that I have made during my rebooting process. You will need to abstain from any kind of visual image of a female (PC, Smartphone, TV, Mags) etc.

I know its very difficult in this social media age, where one can easily see sexually alluring women on so many platforms, it's best to get rid of the smartphone for a while. Of course u need to abstain from sexual thoughts and wanking !