Author Topic: NEW ME,NEW YOU, STOP YOUR OWN BS, YOU OR THE MACHINE, YOUR CHOICE  (Read 84 times)

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Hey all, this is my first post ever. I have participated in NO FAP, no porn, no nothing for quite some time now. I have successfully completed 90 days 3 times now, over the past three years. I can say my life has changed immensely since I found out about the harm I have been doing to myself since 7th grade. I will never forget the first day I found porn. It was a great day, but it altered my perception of things for a little over a decade. I am here to say that will not define me anymore. I have relapsed multiple times and the people who say failure is apart of the journey are correct. I remember the relief I felt when I got my first 90 days done. It was great lift off my shoulders it showed me i could do it. It showed me I didn't need porn in my life. I also realized that while I hadn't been doing anything wasting my time, I also hadn't filled my time with anything else just focusing on avoiding porn at all cost. That is really hard with technology at everyones finger tips now. That is why I am here to fill out these post not to be accountable or to be noticed for my achievements, but to help others who deal with the same situation as me. I know how much porn has taken away from my life and I'm sure others. It doesn't have to stay that way forever. I am here to say it is possible to get away from porn and have an enriching life. This is my day one of what I know will be a new great journey of growth for me and for others as I share my tips, my failures from the past, my new ambitions, and my positivity so that we can all move forward with the life we were meant to live. Thank you porn for showing me how weak I could be but, I am taking over. You weren't worth it, you never were, I knew it then, and I for sure know it now. See ya never porn.

Post tip: for people like me who grew up with porn and the pornhubs the 89.com from the beginning of masturbation I implore you to stay away from all artificial porn whether its pictures, voices, writings, erotica, even accidental genitals or things like that. Its like going cold turkey and I know its hard, but that is what I found to be the most successful in my reboot. If you can't go straight cold turkey you need to either trim it down amount of time you spend, stop touching yourself (becomes easier after you stop watching for a while you learn wow I am not even turned on by this they just made me believe that I was), or not orgasming (thats a challenge). Any little step in the direction towards getting away from porn is a step in the right direction, I gave you some, but you can pick anything you choose. It is about you taking control of YOUR life back. It is your life in the first place who else is going to be in control of it you or the machine

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Re: NEW ME,NEW YOU, STOP YOUR OWN BS, YOU OR THE MACHINE, YOUR CHOICE
« Reply #1 on: April 19, 2019, 06:18:36 PM »
Great sounds good, I am in a similar boat. Let's aim to make this reboot the LAST one!

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Re: NEW ME,NEW YOU, STOP YOUR OWN BS, YOU OR THE MACHINE, YOUR CHOICE
« Reply #2 on: April 20, 2019, 12:35:01 PM »
thank you. I believe that it will never end as it will always be a possibility for me to go back into porn, but the way to overcome it and rid myself of it is day by day filling my time with things that are so much more enjoyable than anything porn ever game me. I only aim to improve as perfection is unattainable, but excellence is possible and even probable with this mine set. I am keeping a number but I dont have a set number of days that i want to go.ideally never, goal is a year, but i want to reverse my trend for masturbating as I believe I suffer from death grip and unhealthy masturbation techniques. Thats for in the future tho. I wish you best of luck too man

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DAY 2 PHILOSOPHY
« Reply #3 on: April 20, 2019, 01:08:12 PM »
Day 2 feeling good.

First thing that comes to mind right now is how I started to rid myself of porn. I essentially blocked them from my computer as I became a chronic mastubrator when I got a laptop in my room. If you look on google how to block websites I am sure whatever computer you have it will give you a good way to get rid of it. I also a handy tool as it allows you to get rid of the horrible time wasting websites like facebook, ESPN, YAHOO, and stuff like that. In addition, I would say my problems got super horrible when I started using omegle to start talking to random strangers and seeking people on cam. It is amazing that I let myself become consumed by that. It also caved the way for me having ED or only getting hard when I would see dicks. still a young teen I would think about if I was gay, but I know realize that I training my mind to only get hard and aroused when I saw dicks and hence why I thought I was gay. Let me say I have nothing wrong with people being gay or liking whoever love is love, but I know I definitely like women and see myself with a woman in my life.

Also I wanted to talk about the amount of anxiety, overconfidence, and arrogance that I gained from porn. Thinking I knew what girls want based off porn, thinking that they should want to talk to me, that everything was going to be easy, that I didnt have to put forth any effort. All of this slowly but surely emerged into other things in my life. I do not want to sound arrogant or bravado here, but this is how I feel. When I was younger I was the smartest child in my family, the best looking kid, the one who never got in trouble, always got great grades, and great at sports. The more and more I think about it, my life changed for the worst when I got into porn. I stopped playing soccer my best sport, still could have made the soccer team in high school even tho i didn't try out because I was fed up/lazy from my overconfidence, anixety, and arrogance. Soccer and sports probably kept me afloat while i was in middle school and beginning of high school but I know I was taking on water eventually about to overflow. That is why I exercise know. I am very big into weightlifting these days and I love playing basketball, I should probably get into soccer again, but I will once again when I have a stable job. 


all of these things happened to me really took a toll on me in school, with the girls (I used to be able to pick up girls or talk to them no problem, as I was hitting pueberty and naturally still evolving). That is when I stayed the same and nothing ever changed for me. That is where I believe i picked up my anxiety, overconfidence, and arrogance. I didn't want to change, I didn't think I needed too. I felt I was a god and everything was going to just come to me like it did before. Little did I know I took away the one great think us humans have, the power to change, the willpower to evolve, the desire to make things difference, the mindset to be that change yourself not change other people.

Getting away from porn and exercise have definitely put me back on the right track. I eventually graduate from university in 2017 with a psychology degree, so youd think I should be the perfect person to fix my own bullshit, but really I can say PHILOSOPHY CHANGED MY LIFE MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE. I eventually want to go to law school if I go back to school, and I want to own my own business.

I talked earlier about me not changing about me not wanting to change, about me not believing it was necessary. Well I was wrong and philosophy helped me recognize my own bullshit a lot more than most psychology classes did. That is not to say pscyhology wont help the next person because I had a great psychologist who helped me deal with my own bullshit. I regret never telling the psychologist about my porn problem tho. The most important thing I think she taught me was that I don't hide my own bullshit from myself. I just believe that PHILOSOPHY helped me think for myself again (like nuturing a new child to learn all over again, to have different perspectives, to feel certain things, to notice errors in the human condition, and to connect with people again). So I guess I implore whoever is reading and struggling to go read some philosophy. Any will do. The first thing I ever read was the symposium by plato. A book on love that I received from my friend. Most people think they know what love is, but let me tell you, you will never look at love the same again after reading that book. I truly believe that this book is what turned the tide for me to grow as a person, start moving away from porn as a commitment, to get a degree, and to live a more fulfilling life that I know I was destined for and we are all destined for as human beings.


Crap I wrote a lot. oh well. those are my thoughts. Hope yall have a great day.


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Re: NEW ME,NEW YOU, STOP YOUR OWN BS, YOU OR THE MACHINE, YOUR CHOICE
« Reply #4 on: April 25, 2019, 03:58:59 AM »
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