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Ages 30-39 / Re: porn
« on: September 15, 2019, 07:32:31 AM »
instead of laying in bed you can get up and study a bit.

i know zero carb diet is trending so i guess its not a problem for reboot. it definitely sucks but people intentionally go on zero carb diets like it gets them some superpowers or something. i dont know of any supplements for reboot. reboot is pretty much cold turkey way of going on nofap. i never heard of supplements for reboot. everyone seems to just face it and if someone takes something its usually alcohol, junk food and other unhealthy stuff to make them feel something other than shit. not recommended.

you been doing porn since 1995, thats 24 years. over 2 decades, expect some consequences. its not up to you to afford or not afford them. whats up to you is how long and how deep you want to go. seems like you are in the sand over your head so its time to quit and face the music before it gets even worse. it will get worse, it always gets worse.

im sorry if i dont sound encouraging too much  ;D im trying, take my post lightly. as for advice, again, you could study something instead of laying down in bed all night long. and dont make yourself so special in this, its making things harder in your head. ton of other people experience insomnia. insomnia or disturbed sleep is common withdrawal symptom. its normal and expected, nothing special. it affects ton of students, workers, parents, partners etc. it fucks you up whatever you are trying to do. i seen ton of people losing 20-30 years marriages, careers etc. your life will suffer in order to reboot. thats the name of the game, thats the truth. reboot is going to break you down and count to 10. if you dont get up, you are back to square 1 but with worse circumstances. thats how you got yourself in this spot. it always gets worse.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Quitting porn to rewire brain
« on: September 10, 2019, 06:51:45 PM »
Would I be able to engage in any sexual related activities with my girlfriend during my recovery process?
your thinking about sexual related activity may be all orgasm related. that may be a problem but rewiring is highly recommended (eye contact, holding hands, touching, kissing, cuddling etc.).

if you are experiencing PIED related problems, limit Oing during sex to just once in 1-2 weeks until you feel better. this way you will be better if you keep the nofap lifestyle.

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Teens / Re: Orgasms with real girls
« on: September 05, 2019, 04:52:02 PM »
I mean like handjobs and oral sex, is that okay? And thank you for answering
its okay... try to give something back  :) :D 8)

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Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction/Delayed Ejaculation / Re: Morning wood
« on: September 05, 2019, 07:29:00 AM »
Hi, I need some info from you guys...
I started watching porn long time ago and I'm 25 now. I am addicted and recently I started watching more hardcore porn because that was the only way to 'finish'. My question for you is, can too much hardcore porn and masturbation cause my morning wood to disappear and can abstinence from pmo lead to getting my morning wood back?
More info: I had never had a girlfriend and I had sex just one time but my erection was going hard and soft and after almost an hour I did not ejaculate, maybe it was ED or just stress because it was my first time...
yes morning wood is known to disappear during porn addiction and come back during reboot, although its not a sign that you are fully rebooted.

 in your case i would bet that porn addiction is the reason behind your DE (delayed ejaculation) and inability to finish. now you need more hardcore shit to finish even with porn. i would bet its porn induced ED or DE that you experienced.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Reboot Roadmap
« on: September 05, 2019, 05:39:01 AM »
one time i was 8 months on nofap. it was my first time. i was 21 and i lost the ability to have sex (PIED). i was so frightened i did not experienced a single craving and i relapsed just because i separated from my sex partner for 3 weeks (started masturbating as an alternative for sex), so i dont even count those 8 months because i cant replicate that fear now that i know things will get better if i reboot.

i agree with you, im 17 days today. for me too, around 40-45 days is brutal. its like you gotta be a little nuts to go through that. seriously evaluated as little off the chart here and there. i dont know whats after that but whatever it is, unless its even stronger cravings, it can only get better.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Dreams Complicate My Life
« on: September 05, 2019, 05:28:22 AM »
Anyone else have porn dreams during the first few weeks of a reboot? I've been having them repeatedly lately. Always the same deal: I either get the urge to look at porn or look at porn in my dreams and fight with myself to stop from getting off to it. This actually has me mostly pleased. On one hand, it's proof that my brain is desperately responding to my sobriety and the rewiring has begun. On the other hand, it seems as though that quitting porn has become so hard-wired into my subconscious at this point that I fight like hell to resist the stuff even when sleeping.
yeah it happens to me too, every time. i also fight but sometimes i lose. feels so good to wake up after a loss  ;D i wake up motivated for rematch  ;D

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Teens / Re: Orgasms with real girls
« on: September 05, 2019, 04:49:18 AM »
I have PIED but not in a severe way, I can have erections with real girls but it’s difficult and I don’t have morning woods that’s why I started rebooting, my question is: Can i have an orgasm with a girl without having sex and still rebooting?
you can BUT... dont overdo it if you are still experiencing PIED symptoms. also dont force it, dont go rough, super fast or start imagining porn in your head just so you can have an erection during sex.

have an orgasm with girl and check out next time if you are having problems again, if you are still having problems with erection or sensation then maybe its too early for Oing. limit Oing to max once per week or once per 2 weeks until you start feeling better. keep testing, checking out and most importantly keep rewiring thats the best part. definitely dont count orgasm with real girls as a relapse.

EDIT: just now i realized you said WITHOUT having sex.... okay thats a different question... well, similar answer but just dont fap. keep yourself on nofap no matter what. that "without sex" part worries me, sounds like you gonna jerk off while she dances in front of you or something. do you mean oral sex? i dont know what you mean by orgasm with girls without sex but stay on nofap journey.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Common questions
« on: September 04, 2019, 04:09:56 PM »
you will not be rebooting if you masturbate with imagination. porn stars are also real girls so it does not matter if you imagine porn star or "real girls" or unreal girls. real sex is ton of build up, getting to know each other, lots of touching, flirting etc. and when it gets down to it its like 1 place 1 sex position 1 point of view 1 girl for minutes at a time. when you use imagination its like cut the chase, forget all the meeting each other and hanging out, its straight from one position to next to this to that. within 10 seconds you see 3 different pictures.... you may be even done with 1 girl and go to next one before you finish...

imagination is porn. its as novel as porn, you can always imagine something new and you will, as soon as you get bored with the current scene. thats something you cant do during real sex.

masturbation in itself is lonely activity, isolating, no risk high reward, extremely detrimental to your emotional state. no fear of rejection, no care for other person, no confidence needed, its all about you and its always easily available. you are programming yourself for nothing like real sex. total opposite. thats not rebooting thats going deeper into shit that you are already drowning in.

join us on nofap journey and turn another page in life. enough of fake, lonely, destructional bullshit. reboot and knock on the doors of life, life worth living.

*porn=anything that makes you artificially aroused. its not just internet videos. its magazines, erotic stories, sext, web cam, imagination, youtube, social media, pictures... whatever you use to get artificially aroused is porn. artificial is fake, no real partner involved. just to clear things up on what is porn.

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Ages 20-29 / WHATSAPP GROUP for nofap members
« on: September 03, 2019, 03:04:13 PM »
join us, share your experience, find companions and get motivated to stay on track. its whatsapp group for nofap, we welcome everyone who is about to quit fapping forever!!

https://chat.whatsapp.com/GZqmsDhfWA01ssWFoJf4Mk

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join us, share your experience, find companions and get motivated to stay on track. its whatsapp group for nofap, we welcome everyone who is about to quit fapping forever!!

https://chat.whatsapp.com/GZqmsDhfWA01ssWFoJf4Mk

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Porn Addiction / WHATSAPP GROUP for nofap members
« on: September 03, 2019, 02:52:58 PM »
join us, share your experience, find companions and get motivated to stay on track. its whatsapp group for nofap, we welcome everyone who is about to quit fapping forever!!

https://chat.whatsapp.com/GZqmsDhfWA01ssWFoJf4Mk

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Teens / Re: Our support what's app group_Motivate others to get Motivated
« on: September 03, 2019, 10:33:14 AM »
i was just looking today for some nofap group on whatsapp and here we go. thats the law of looking for it all day long.

maybe you could also post this in "porn addiction" section of the forum so a lot more people sees it and joins.

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porn addicts have no sexual urges. i remember i was in a sex relationship once. every time i had a spontaneous erection, looked at girls on the street and got all horny.... i called my sex buddy. guess what, it kind of disappeared. i call her and i think about her coming to have sex and it became obvious to me, every time, that its not sex that my brain was after, its just the thoughts in the head, my imagination (porn). imagination in the head = porn. now i can differentiate easily between real sex and porn craving when im horny. its summer, some girls walk around with little clothes on. if im rebooting for some time, i can get all hyped up from seeing them but then i think about actually having sex with them, knowing them and shit what not... it happened many times that in those times i had that option to really have sex and go for it.... but PIED nonetheless... numbness, its just not it. no sex drive, just fake libido. sex is like 1 position, 1 girl, 1 place, 1 point of view for minutes at a time. its nothing like you imagine in your head when you get horny... dozens of different pictures coming at you all at once, changing every 10 seconds, just craziness that you are so used to...

like Done said, quit porn first. forget about getting rid of sex urges if you are struggling with PIED. its not a sex urge, its imagination (porn) in your head. try it out. that would be the best in terms of rewiring too. try to have fun with girls. there is nothing wrong with sex relationships in my opinion, as long as both parties are enjoying it and both of you can definitely enjoy it (not just sex).


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Ages 30-39 / Re: Seeking advice
« on: August 25, 2019, 04:22:48 PM »
I am 30 about to be 31,Does PIED desensetise or numb your penis?
oh, for sure! thats actually why we lose erections or cant get it up at all. we dont feel anything down. its like you are about to fuck a dolphin. its totally not arousing you, you dont feel it inside your body or inside your penis. psychologically you really want to have sex but physically you are just numb. thats why cialis is not working, it just sends blood to the penis. circulation is not the problem, its desensitization in the brain.

erections will come back after some time but numbness will still be a problem for some time. you will be less numb but still kind of numb a little bit and when numbness passes too, you are basically recovered from PIED. you might have a day some time in the future where you think you are recovered and next time you are back to numb and vice versa. looking overall, you will get better with time if you keep rewiring and limiting your O during sex.

to recover from numbness its really important to stay on nofap track forever and in the beginning limit your O with gf to once per week at maximum or eliminate it completely until you feel better (have more sensitivity down there).

some people take 6 months to recover, some 9 months, some 2 years. it really depends on how well you are staying on track (whether you are Oing during sex too much) and how much brain changed during addiction.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Seeking advice
« on: August 25, 2019, 03:42:12 PM »
Man my doctor gave me those pills said they will boost my confidence but thier doing nothing in actual fact.I have a loving girlfriend and I really feel bad for her man.I feel like half a man I needed to do something or I will endup killing myself
you are having PIED, relax its not the end of the world i have it too. i think around 50% of the people who join here are having PIED. millions worldwide have it. a lot of them are yet to find out.

you need to stop cialis, its not for you. focus on rewiring and living your life to the best of your abilities (exercise, enough sleep, good diet, meditation, hydration, learning something new every day, following your passion etc). limit O with your gf to once per week at maximum or eliminate it completely until you feel better.

dont go to PRP at the beginning of your reboot. why would you want to do that. you would rather recover naturally. i dont even know what penile reju... is but it does not sound good at all. sounds like you are panicking way too soon. how old are you?


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Porn Addiction / Re: What if you ACTUALLY enjoy transexual women?
« on: August 25, 2019, 03:24:35 PM »
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I'm very confused as to where I am sexually, any advice?
i think you know the answer. quit porn and find out for yourself.

how can someone else tell you where YOU are sexually? porn is really messing you up in a lot more ways than sexually. you cant think straight, include that in the reason for quitting. make it the bigger reason because it is affecting your whole life not just sex life.

knowing your sexuality is the easiest thing in the world because it comes naturally to you, you dont have to figure it out. the fact that you are trying to figure it out is a tell that you are having the unavoidable problem with porn use.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Seeking advice
« on: August 25, 2019, 03:01:27 PM »
you are having PIED, did you knew that? why are you rebooting?

EDIT: btw daily cialis sounds like a horrible idea. why would you need that daily? you trying to have daily sex while rebooting in the first 3 months? its very bad thing that you are doing. problem is in the brain and not in the penis. cialis works in penis but not in the brain, thats why you are doing a horrible thing daily, without a hope of solving the problem by doing it.

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Do I have any hope of regaining my sexual function? What time frame are we talking about?

you heard gabe deem, it took him 9 months to have FIRST successful sex and 9 more months to get back to normal again. thats 18 months.

he was all good, good kid from good family, seeing porn as something cool like cigarettes. nothing special of a story, so guess your timeline. i would say 2 years is a max for recovery. if you need more, you are either not rewiring at all or you have a physical problem.

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eating a carrot produces dopamine. its not about what produces dopamine its about the level and intensity of dopamine. im sure you played video games and you used porn. can you tell a difference?

eating a chips can produce a lot of dopamine if you are really hungry, but try enjoying it for an hour as much as you did in the first 5 minutes. now with porn, you can switch it up forever, there is infinite novelty. you can keep your high for a too long time. 5 minutes is like a warm up.

you can enjoy a exercise, i certainly do sometimes. but compare it to porn. is it as intensive or strong as porn use? can you enjoy your jog while thinking about stock prices? can you eat chips and think about the video you are editing? but try focusing on business or family while you are watching porn. do you see how strong it is? its not even close in my eyes. i never in my life thought of anything but porn when i used porn. everything else falls aside. i love video games too, but i can spot a difference. i think anyone who enjoyed both, porn and video games, can spot a difference.

i have no experience of heroin or cocaine but what in your life causes the high like porn use? if anything, use it every day, multiple times a day for a few years and you will end up like a porn addict. i think thats the part where reward system does not know the difference between porn and anything else.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Survey being conducted on problematic porn use.
« on: August 16, 2019, 04:38:43 PM »
it does not take 30-45 minutes to do this survey. if it takes that long, you are overthinking it. maybe thats your thing though.

for a non english talker, it takes around 20 minutes but its okay, its not boring. just keep it real.

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imagine a heroin addict who stopped injecting heroin but became a weekend warrior like most non-addicts and sniffed some heroin every other weekend for 1.3 years. he is still experiencing withdrawals and what not. if he did not noticed that he is sniffing it, he would start turning to buddhism, the way his dad treated him, he would look to see if there is a connection between his shoe size and a withdrawal he is experiencing. just a desperation attempt to solve the problem.

but then imagine a light bulb going on, "HOLY CRAP, IM STILL DOING HEROIN EVERY OTHER WEEK AND WONDERING ABOUT WITHDRAWAL SYMPTOMS. FUCK THOSE WEEKEND WARRIORS THEY WERE NEVER ADDICTS ANYWAY". everything would become clear and he would know exactly that its not a shoe size, its not his dad, its not about his house entrance facing north etc. he would go to 12 steps or whatever. maybe he would fail for some time but he would at least know whats up.

-you want to keep a sex journal as a mean of recovering from PIED? so you think whether, time, mood, clothing etc. has to be right for you to experience sex? the reason you are having sexual problems is because you have not figured out the right combination of conditions that need to match in order for you to have a solid erection?
-less frequent sex is a problem? i had a friend who was virgin for 25 years, he never had a problem with erections.
-your mother is feminist? it made you look at sex so bad that you got addicted to watching people have sex. but even more seriously though, you think your mother being feminist is the reason you have PIED?
-you think more testosterone will cure your PIED? you need to find out how PIED develops if you want to recover from it. its crucial. YBOP is great source of information.
-porn is not completely bad? quitting masturbation can have negative consequences? there you go sniffing heroin, wondering if maybe eating potato is a problem.

i had people arguing with me over this but i always had a problem proving them wrong because they never really went without porn for few months... it was he say she say. but there you are, 1.3 years and still at it, getting worse of course.

i went 8 months without porn. doing good and then started to get back into MO (i thought it was okay to MO in the end). guess what happened almost instantly. next sex was horrible and few more MO sessions and i was back to square 1.


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Ages 20-29 / success
« on: August 14, 2019, 03:33:18 PM »
i just saw my crush in a supermarket. my crush is more than a girl i would like to just meet. my crush is a girl i would like to meet that kind of "tells", with the way she looks and acts towards me, that she feels the same way. my crush crushes me every time i see her because i dont act, i just dont approach and introduce myself, ask about aliens or anything really. i just die inside because im a big weenie.

this is where success part comes in. its not that i approached her, introduced myself, took her number or anything similar. i managed to recognize how much i despise myself in the moment and i asked myself if i could approve/love/accept myself because i am this way? its like i had an insight that approaching girls or doing anything outside of your comfort zone is really about loving yourself more. im really into meeting girls so its a dying feeling every time i see a girl and dont react, especially if she shows some "tells" that she is interested in me too (whatever "tells" i perceive to be true). thats like suicidal feeling afterwards. all the hate i have for myself just comes out firing at me.

going outside of my comfort zone (picking up girls for example) is just really about loving myself more and being okay with myself. its not about the outside going ons, its what going on inside. im so glad i caught myself. if i can love myself the way i am, that would mean even more than approaching girls because it would stay with me and i could do whatever i want if i knew i had love/approval whatever is the outcome. it would also be consistent, because the first time i would fail to pick up a girl or go outside of my comfort zone i would be back at hating myself, which is not good at all.

i dont know if you have this experience. do you hate yourself for engaging almost exclusively in known/comfortable day to day activities (struggling can feel known/comfortable)? does failing to go outside of your comfort zone leaves you feeling stuck and miserable? in other words, do you hate yourself when you fail to do something you really want to do, that causes you a lot of fear or anxiety?

i think approaching and meeting girls is a big part of me quitting porn. just reconnecting and rewiring with the real girls would be huge for me personally, thats why i have this example but i think loving yourself can be applied to everything else.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: 20 Year Old Guy Trying To Recover From PIED
« on: August 13, 2019, 04:55:54 PM »
how would you describe your severe PIED?

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Porn Addiction / Re: K9 is gone and there is no alternative in sight
« on: August 11, 2019, 02:10:20 PM »
@yolstoi. i know you doubt your ability to stay on track but.. did you relapsed since k9 is no longer or you are just very disappointed?

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 4th reboot
« on: August 11, 2019, 01:06:54 PM »
4th reboot? sometimes i have 4 relapses in 2 days. im in the boat with @hope2reboot. i, too, sometimes feel ever so strongly that my last relapse is my LAST one, but somehow end up relapsing again a few hours later. after few years, shit adds up to 100s or 1000s of reboots.

its a bad sign that you think you are destined to failure after 4 relapses. thats being too hard on yourself. its not even 4 relapses, its 3 relapses because this is your 4th reboot so not even 4 relapses (as if it makes any difference in the end). i see where you will struggle. you are too strong on yourself. or maybe you dont understand whats the big deal of porn addiction? its not easy to quit so if you take it very lightly you will fail for sure. its not a bad habit, its an addiction. YBOP is your friend if you dont understand the effects on brain, how addiction works and things like that.





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