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Ages 20-29 / Re: squid's journal
« Last post by squid on October 13, 2019, 10:10:48 PM »
Thanks guys I hear you.  What I'd like to do is 30 days of no fap and a 90 days full reboot of replacing gaming and mindless internet browsing with dream weaving.  I don't know if I'm strong enough to pull that off.  Let's find out.

Day 0 of replacing gaming and google news with dream weaving:
Deleted the games again and stopped procrastinating getting ready for work.
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Ages 20-29 / Re: Day 77 - WHO EXPERIENCED THIS??
« Last post by squid on October 13, 2019, 10:01:18 PM »
I tried to have sex with a friends with benefits around day 60 and couldn't get hard, you're not alone, it's a very shocking experience
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Ages 20-29 / Re: Day 77 - WHO EXPERIENCED THIS??
« Last post by momentumseeker on October 13, 2019, 08:47:38 PM »
Same here, except I was around 70 days, but I had nothing erection wise. Keep going my friend, you will see result with time.

Cool. I'll let the time do its job.
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Ages 20-29 / Re: Not gonna go it alone
« Last post by Rebooter2019 on October 13, 2019, 06:52:08 PM »
It is kind of weird to me how relieving it has been to know that other people are struggling in the same way. Of course I'm sad that other people have to deal with it, but it helps so much to know that it's not just me. And you're right, anyone can succeed if they just stick to a good strategy at all costs.

I know what you mean and I feel the same way.

As for you're day it's good to have some of those calm ones from time to time. Since I'm on my second week of reboot, I try to avoid these as much as I can. I know they feel great when you're free of urges during the day and are free to relax.

As for your night, it's good that you see the pathern and that you're able to just breath these out. Happy that you had a relax day!
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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Road to Recovery
« Last post by Freesoul on October 13, 2019, 06:39:47 PM »
Hello everyone,
I am almost a month in without porn. Unfortunately I have MOed 4 times in the month, two of which were in the same night. I need to find a way to avoid MO altogether for a little while to completely heal from my porn addiction. I have rarely had urges for porn, I have it engraved in my mind how much I hate it, but I just want to start this week off by avoiding MO and giving myself a longer time to heal and maybe give up M forever. I could use all the support I can get to support me for nofap.
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Ages 40 and up / Re: still going strong/still no career
« Last post by bob on October 13, 2019, 06:36:14 PM »
Please consider getting into a group or talking to someone.

If the shame is still there, you are not free of this thing. SA or SAA are 12 step programs that may provide some help or comfort. You deserve some support.

Peace
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Ages 20-29 / Re: My Reboot Journal
« Last post by Rebooter2019 on October 13, 2019, 06:34:24 PM »
Thanks Blue, for your thoughts and support :)

Yep, it was a really boring day. I was working at my boring job and had almost nothing to do! Now I'm home waiting to eat another meal to digest a little bit to go to sleep as soon as I can!

Had no urges, maybe one or 2 sexual thoughts(P thoughts) that I neutralized immediatly. But I'm so eager for tomorrow! After my morning training, I'll be testing my MAS in the afternoon. That will be intensely tough, but necessary to program my cardio training!

Needless to say that tomorrow will be an awesome day :)
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Porn Addiction / How to break pornography addiction
« Last post by disputes123 on October 13, 2019, 06:18:24 PM »
Hey guys. I have been addicted for almost three years now and I really want to quit, for personal and religious reasons. I've searched up help on YouTube, but most aren't really too helpful, so if you guys have any strategies you used or anything you that would be effective, please share them!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Not gonna go it alone
« Last post by BlueHeronFan on October 13, 2019, 05:59:43 PM »
Really great and helpful to see how after such a long time you're not just "cured" and stop caring, but still have to watch out and keep this a daily success. You're giving an example on how to take on this problem and I am learning a lot even from your quiet days. Sooner or later I always thought about going back to my "normal life", no matter how much I told myself to stay alert. Now your example shows how you managed this problem for over 200 days and despite a longer quiet time, there are still urges, there is still the danger of relapsing if not taking care of this process.

Just keep going as you always do! You can feel proud and happy about what you already reached now, this is a huge success and every situation of trouble you manage will help your brain to make the right decisions in the future!

Thanks, achilles! I think giving up the idea of being "cured" has been one of this biggest changes for me this time around. In the past, I would think I was in the clear after a week or two without PMO. Then I got overconfident and went back to my old habits of thought and quickly relapsed again. Now, I'm realizing that there is no "cured," just a new way of life that accepts my addiction as something I always have to be aware of and work with. There's no feeling invincible this time around, and I think that has kept me going stronger than before. It's almost like I "respect" my addiction, knowing what it is capable of at any moment. If I play by the rules, we can coexist peacefully, but if I give it an opening, it will take over and tear me down.

Yeah, I know you're right. I think I was almost apologizing to myself for thinking it would be better to do it completely on my own. I had forgot how soothing it was to see other people struggleling, but making it through nonetheless. It was a constant living proof that everyone can succeed, if they put the strategy and the effort to do so.

Btw, I'm always happy to hear from you and see your success! Keep pushing man, you're doing great :)

It is kind of weird to me how relieving it has been to know that other people are struggling in the same way. Of course I'm sad that other people have to deal with it, but it helps so much to know that it's not just me. And you're right, anyone can succeed if they just stick to a good strategy at all costs.

Thank you so much for the encouragement and support! It keeps me going day by day!

Today was pretty chill

Not much happened, when to church and spent the rest of the afternoon cooking food for the week. Meditated for a little longer than usual. Quiet day, just building up some energy to go back to school and work tomorrow. I really liked having a few days off...wish there could be a few more...oh well, if only.

Urges/thoughts have been hitting me pretty consistently for the last few days right as I'm falling asleep. I don't know what it is about settling into bed at night lately that's setting me off, but I just do what I can to breathe past them and direct my thoughts elsewhere. Then, after a few minutes, I fall asleep, and things are generally much better in the morning. It has been weird, but it's predictable, at least, so I can take care of myself and not get caught off guard.

I guess that's it for today. Not a lot going on, which I really can't complain about. Let's go see what another week will bring!
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Ages 20-29 / Re: My Reboot Journal
« Last post by BlueHeronFan on October 13, 2019, 05:47:48 PM »
Great thoughts!

I really feel like being in this group has been a life-saver for me. It has helped me think about my addiction with a clearer head and has helped me to connect with awesome guys who are on the same path. It really is helpful to know that you're not alone and to get new ideas and encouragement from people who are dealing with the same things.

Sounds like you're in pretty good spirits today, which is great. Take advantage of the boring day and do something that you don't normally have time for! Boring days can be difficult in the early days of a streak (high risk of relapse) but they become more common and more pleasant as you go along. Just enjoy it (if you can)!

Keep it going!
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