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condoms dont hurt reboot but they lower your sensation just like to those people who never had PIED. in your case its just going to be more pronounced because you have lower sensation to begin with. too much Oing can hurt though. do you O often? do you notice increased flatline after Oing?

14 months is awesome but still not enough in a lot of cases so be patient, everything is going to be fine!

I second this.  14 months wasn't long enough for me.  It can take a lot of time to get over this. 

Yes, if I'm in a flatline even ED meds don't work.  I've heard many others report the same.

Does anyone during flatline with ed problems have moments of everything working
Then back to ed and no libido?
A few days before Christmas it was perfect high libido and my junk worked great.
 I am married and 45 trying for a baby.
Then 2 days later back to weak erections and no libido.
Does it really jump around like that.

This has been the story of my last year and a half.  Very frustrating. 

Does anyone else feel like this? If I've been very horny for a while on my reboot, I fairly quickly lose the erection I had but remain turned on and develop a feeling of pressure in my perineum, behind my dick and an increased need to pee. This can last hours. It's a bit uncomfortable, I'm assuming this is my prostate increasing in size slightly? I'm about 40 days into my current reboot without any ejaculations and I'm hoping in a real sexual situation my body allow itself to indulge and not suffer from this... perhaps this is my body wanting to orgasm to release pressure?

I'm not sure what causes this, but yes, I've experienced this too.  I know they say the body absorbs any excess semen, but in the past there did seem to be a correlation between me abstaining and having to urinate more. 

This is a tough question and one I wrestled with early on.  I'm 42 and had just turned 40 when I started rebooting.  I went to a urologist just to be safe.  Was told I was stressed and given ED meds.  They didn't work.  it took me almost a year before things started to improve.  Even after that first year I've been up and down.  Now at 2.5 years I look back and can tell you for sure I had PIED.  I'm posting this not to discourage you but to let you know that you could be in for a long ride.  10 weeks is great but it sounds like you'll need some more time, maybe a lot more, before things start looking up.  I hope you start to turn the corner soon.

Yes, this happened several times to me the first year or so.  It sucks, but it does get better

Ages 40 and up / Re: Quote: "Dude, you're 57. Could it just be ED?"
« on: November 18, 2017, 08:08:52 PM »
In reading some of your posts, you sound like you're in about the same place I was when I started this whole thing.  One thing I've learned is to take advice and comments with a grain of salt.  Some guys have been rebooting for a minute and all of the sudden think they are experts on PIED.  Don't get me wrong, there's plenty of good advice on this forum and others.  Just don't let some random dude derail what you're trying to do.  Try to be patient and you should hopefully start seeing some kind of results eventually.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Quote: "Dude, you're 57. Could it just be ED?"
« on: November 17, 2017, 08:15:41 PM »
Did you get hard to porn before the reboot?

Yeah, I think sometimes there's some jumping the gun with this whole process.  In my experience I've found that it can take a long time and it can be very non-linear.  Good luck!

It can take ALOT longer than 90 days to get it back.  I started getting it back around eight months and then lost it again.  Very back and forth.  Now at around 2 1/2 years out I get it pretty regularly. 

Porn Addiction / Re: I'm not sure I was addicted
« on: October 26, 2017, 07:58:40 PM »
I was without a doubt addicted and it was easy for me to give up porn as well.  I can thank a REALLY deep and long flatline for that.  Could just be that you're flatlining too. 

Porn Addiction / Re: My progress after 3 months
« on: October 23, 2017, 08:36:20 PM »
I agree that buying into the 90 day thing can throw you off.  It's a great starting point, but can be soul crushing when you get there and aren't close to healed.  I think the attitude you now have towards this process is excellent.  It will take as long as it takes and know one knows for sure when that will be. 

You might have been farther along, but then again, you might not.  No way to know for sure and what's done is done.  The major point is that you've stayed away from porn.  Keep doing that and you'll get there.  It just can take a long time for some of us. 

Ages 20-29 / Re: 24 y.o./ 3 years in, little to no progress
« on: October 12, 2017, 08:12:46 PM »
Hey man, I'm a little behind you in terms of time.  Around 2.5 years rebooting. It's taken WAY longer than I ever thought it would.  I think there probably is some anxiety at play.  I mean, after all this time, how could there not be?  However, I also think as you keep rewiring you'll eventually get past all this.  The fact that things get better after multiple days in a row show that your brain's at least kind of getting it.  I think if you keep plugging along and rewiring I think that switch will eventually get flipped.  Just seems like for some of us it takes a really really long time.

Porn Addiction / Re: Strange Withdrawal reboot symptoms
« on: August 14, 2017, 07:51:17 PM »
Saneagain and dellingr, I did have moments of brain fog.  I remember a friend was talking to me at one point and I realized I wasn't comprehending much of what he was saying.  This actually cleared up for me after a few months.  Anxiety, muscle tightness, frequent urination, and insomnia stuck with me for a LONG time. However, now after two years I can say things are good.  Most days I'm 100%.  Calm, sharp, and feeling pretty good. Even my PIED has been MIA lately. It's just taken a long time to get to this point.  A lot longer than I thought it would.

Porn Addiction / Re: Strange Withdrawal reboot symptoms
« on: August 13, 2017, 11:53:24 PM »
@saneagain, Everything you're describing sounds like textbook withdrawal.  I had most of those symptoms as well.  It took about a year to a year and a half for me to get back to feeling fairly normal. 

I just saw this and thought I'd reply.  Everyone is different so it's hard to say exactly what to expect.  I'm over 40 and have been at this a long time and am not still fully recovered.  Others have recovered fairly quick.  My best advice after two years is have no expectations on a timeline, ride out the flatlines, be ready for ups and downs throughout, and above all stay away from porn.  Eventually you'll see good results.

This whole thing is pretty scary, isn't it?  The flatline isn't permanent.  But sometimes it can take a long time to fix.  Two months may seem like a long time but I can assure you it's not.  There are many other accounts I've read that took longer.  I know I did.  Unfortunately, even after all this time, I still go in and out of flatline.  Just stay away from porn and lay off the MO and you should start seeing improvement.

Hey screwedup40... How much sex are you having? I'm so much better than a year and half ago but I still occasionally flat line. I'm not in a relationship anymore so aren't having frequent (if u can call it that... twice a week) sex... So now I'm anxious as hell about whether I'll be in a flat line when it comes to spontaneous sex... Damnit this shit can destroy your confidence in and out the bedroom alright! Just wondered, how often you are ejaculating mate? I'm trying to give at least a week before each encounter, but damn this new girl is so hot. Obvs I really don't want her to know about this shit as it's unlikely a permanent relationship.

About once or twice a week.  Here's what really sucks.  If it's been over a week I can (usually but not always) guarantee the sex is going to suck.  PE, not fully hard.  However, I can then go again that night or the next and its (usually but not always) GREAT.  But then if I orgasm too much that week I seem to kick back into a flatline.  It's frustrating and ridiculously non-linear.  I think abstaining for long periods my first year in was beneficial.  However, now it seems to be more detrimental.  Of course, I rarely could get an erection the first year so what choice did I have?

Here's the hope I keep holding onto though.  As long as we're staying away from porn we'll make it no matter what and someday it won't matter how often we do or don't O.  As tough as I'm sure it is with this new girl, chin up buddy. Keep plugging along and know eventually we'll be posting success stories and putting this shit behind us. 

Yes, almost IDENTICAL. Maybe not two or three months long, but still get them every couple of weeks to a month. 

This whole thing is pretty scary, isn't it?  The flatline isn't permanent.  But sometimes it can take a long time to fix.  Two months may seem like a long time but I can assure you it's not.  There are many other accounts I've read that took longer.  I know I did.  Unfortunately, even after all this time, I still go in and out of flatline.  Just stay away from porn and lay off the MO and you should start seeing improvement.

Good job man!  Glad to see you made it to the other side.

I think I am free and clear.  Now I consider it a failure when I don't get 100% hard.  Which still does happen sometimes.  Yes I had PIED.  The short version is that I'm out of the flatline portion but still not all the way healed.  I'm feeling pretty close at this point though.

Yes, I believe I was already in a flatline when I started rebooting.  Took several months and I came out of it only to go into a worse one.  Everyone's different, but you can definitely hit one at the get go.

Yes, sometimes flatlines hit well into your reboot and can come and go throughout.  Frustrating, but there it is.  Give it time and it should go away.

It sounds like you've possibly hit somewhat of a flatline.  I personally wouldn't masturbate.  Going to a doctor never hurts. At least it will give you some peace of mind when you check out ok physically.  As far as the rest of it, I think you're good to engage in any type of activity you and your wife want to.  Just stay away from porn and let your brain and body do the rest.  Just know that it can take some time to recover so be patient.  I can assure that PIED is a real thing and rebooting DOES work.

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