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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal to recovery- Could use support
« on: June 21, 2020, 04:24:46 PM »
Thanks Kopp!

Hey everyone, I don't want to just disappear with no explanation....
I've been posting here a lot less.

Anyways. I likely won't post here much in the future, perhaps for awhile. This forum was great for me! And really helped me reach some new levels. I reached a new point. But at this point SMART recovery I have been finding very helpful. It's a systematized approach that works well to me. So I am immersing myself in that.

I have not full on PMO'd since 2015! Though I had lots of bad lapses like looking at porn then moing after (at separate times) but I still count that as a pretty big win ( I have not MO'd while looking at porn, both at the same time since 2015). Looking forward to future success.

I strongly reccomend smart recovery and learning the system/ their book and tool time meetings so here is a link for those interested https://www.smartrecovery.org/community/

Take care everyone and all the best

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal to recovery- Could use support
« on: June 02, 2020, 10:38:14 PM »
Hey all Day 2 again.

I moed for two days, once per  day. With non fetish/porn fantasys. Honestly still feeling great and did not notice negative effects. MO I will eventually reintroduce but I will have this month as a break from it.

Had a very good day. Did a lot of journaling to keep myself calm and focused on things I can control, kept working and doing things throughout the day and now I feel grateful and energized as well as accomplished.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal to recovery- Could use support
« on: May 30, 2020, 08:28:44 PM »
Day 3. Trucking along. Had an urge earlier, but glad to say that I distracted myself and went for a walk and it has since passed.

Not super productive. I'd like to remind myself when I had a nice period of time  and m free, I had a lot more energy and focus, so that is one more thing to motivate me to keep this up! A big motivator.... As I'd like to make progress on some things that are very important to me.

I did a really nice stretching routine yestarday my body felt so much better. i may not do everything I planned today, but I'll do that. It's better to do it and be focused during it, but more important is to just do it! So I may watch tv while I stretch, at the least keep working to heal my body/keep it healthy.

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Success Stories / Re: Thank you
« on: May 29, 2020, 09:13:09 PM »
Congrats man, thanks for the tips!

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Teens / Re: week 19
« on: May 29, 2020, 09:07:59 PM »
Man keep up the good work! All sorts of things pop up during the reboot. But at the end of the day, you are on the right path and and if you keep this up, all this stuff will pass and you will eventually have successful sex.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Not gonna go it alone
« on: May 29, 2020, 08:22:10 PM »
Hey man, hope you are doing alright! Quarantine can be tough

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I feel you, over doing the youtube can be a issue. I think keeping it in that 2 hour chunk is a great plan

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Joyful journal
« on: May 29, 2020, 08:02:38 PM »
You are champion!! Massive congrats on beating that record bro, that's a huge win, keep up the good work!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal to recovery- Could use support
« on: May 29, 2020, 08:01:28 PM »
Day 2

Thanks man! I really appreciate that, it reminds me of the good that happened yestarday. Funny I have pined away for girls so much then I have a great date and it doesn't seem like a big deal lol. Truthfully I don't see this girl being a girlfriend, but you never know what happens! It was  a nice time and I look forward to hanging out with her again.

Today was pretty nice, I have been worn out so just stretched as far as exercise. Met with a friend and we went back and forth saying what we're grateful for. I feel like my momentum is re building. Each day improving a bit

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Kraken's journal
« on: May 29, 2020, 07:59:28 PM »
Keep it up man! At is very difficult but at the end of the day you will eventually get it. It's just about trying again and again, trying different things until you get it.

What is the smallest change you could make? What is one time waster you think you could try cutting out for a week?
Maybe starting small and building up is the way to go. Perhaps cut out one specific game or something.

You'll get it!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Joyful journal
« on: May 28, 2020, 08:17:51 PM »
Cold showers are great and so are good workouts! Keep up the good work

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal to recovery- Could use support
« on: May 28, 2020, 07:47:14 PM »
Thanks so much for the support man! Really appreciate it.

MO'd a few times with P type fantasy a few times this week. So, want to tighten things up.

Anyways, been putting it off and not on the forum much but think it could be cool to get more into it for a time. Thinking to set a 30 day goal/ day count going.

Going to make today day 1.
Day 1

Had a decent day. I was very tired but I took a nap and then went to the park, I ended up meeting a sweet girl and we went for a walk together for about an hour and a half. I am happy that I took things slow, ended on  a high note and we exchanged numbers and will likely hang out again next week

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal to recovery- Could use support
« on: May 21, 2020, 07:19:02 PM »
Hey everybody, last few days been going pretty good. Yesterday was great actually, I think I made some new friends.

Going to tighten up my diet a bit, been eating a bit too much. Nothing crazy just going to cut out a few things

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Have to start this diary
« on: May 21, 2020, 07:16:45 PM »
Hey man welcome to the forum! I read everything you wrote. For sure porn is a big issue and the root of the problems you are describing.

It's good that you now know this and you can make a commitment to cutting this stuff out of your life!
You can do it for sure

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal to recovery- Could use support
« on: May 19, 2020, 05:37:03 PM »
Hey everyone, went for a hike yesterday that was really nice. Making a few changes in my life. Thinking of perhaps logging here again, maybe doing a month ago. I just found this article which really I am finding helpful for future mindset/ preventing lapses or how to look at them:
https://www.unk.com/blog/3-relapse-prevention-strategies/?7233

It seems to be meant for therapists treating people, but I find it helpful for myself

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Teens / Re: is there any hope for me? fetish addiction
« on: May 16, 2020, 09:25:41 PM »
Man, you can definitely get over this! It may be difficult but you can do it and you are doing the right thing! Our brains are very very plastic and tastes absolutely can adapt. You will absolutely come to enjoy sex and it'll be far far far more gratifying thing this old other stuff.

Even if before porn you felt like you had that preference it is very very possible that you may have had an experience while young that you can not remember, which led to this initially. For example some people as kids (Even if they don't remember it) see a movie and a woman hits a guy in the crotch, that is the first time they see anything involving a woman touching a man's crotch and the association starts even if they don't remember it. Something similar probably happened to you with the feet then the porn expands on it substantially. When you avoid the stuff and evntually start to be with real women, it'll fade. At first you may be with a girl and all the porn/fetish junk stars popping into your mind, but it'll fade over time.

I had some crazy fetishes and they'd pop into my head but as I'd have sexual experience with women I returned to my natural roots, even if I couldn't remember them (and you will too)! Just remember to keep going! You are catching this really young so give it everything you got! You can be pretty well recovered and have a great college experience hopefully

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My Success Story - blueicetea10 Reboot
« on: May 16, 2020, 07:28:54 AM »
Sounds like all very good ideas. Keep up the good work! Reviewing the reasons sounds great. I like that phrase "isn't real no deal!" easy to remember and a great true guide!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: HumaNature's Journal
« on: May 16, 2020, 07:27:06 AM »
Glad to hear you are doing good! Keep up the good work. It's great you were able to trace exactly what caused the last lapse (half hot half cold shower) you know exactly what triggered it for you - so cold showers the way to go!

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Sounds like a solid plan! I like the post before this one, always good to remember why we are beating this! So much more time will be saved, a huge boost in mental health etc. all sorts of good things. You can do it! Just keep doing what works!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Pushing back!
« on: May 16, 2020, 07:23:09 AM »
Keep up the good work man! Very good that you are aware of what led to that urge so that you can change it in the future. Keep doing what you are doing, more and more of the positive and you'll beat this!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Miserable due to porn addiction
« on: May 16, 2020, 07:21:22 AM »
Keep up the good work! Great job getting back on the horse, 6 days is a really nice start and already positive changes are happening in your brain. I also want to point out, restarting the day count stinks but you did not completely start over. PMOing like 2-3x in a month is much much better then doing it multiple times a week or daily. Your brain is still adjusting and healing, getting in better condition then it was before.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Zander Reboot - Light at the end of the tunnel
« on: May 16, 2020, 07:16:55 AM »
Sorry to hear things are tough! Keep moving forward, the tough times always pass. You have the right perspective some tough days now in exchange for things being so much better in the future.

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Sorry to hear about the tough day! The good times will come back for sure, you are resolved to get there, you have done it before and definitely will!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: No PMO until Christmas ? Yes I can!
« on: May 16, 2020, 07:14:04 AM »
That's great that you achieved your initial challenge! You can achieve this one as well, you already did 30 days, you can use that experience and do this and then keep going onward from there

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Journal - A New Hope
« on: May 16, 2020, 07:12:35 AM »
Keep your chin up man! If you were able to do so well in April, you can do it again for June or perhaps the rest of May. Sounds like the home situation may not be ideal, but again if you can do it in April, you can do it in June.

The journey is not linear! It's still progress! Just keep chipping away at it. So long as you are constantly focused on cutting it out, you'll make it happen eventually

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