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Ages 20-29 / Re: Journey to the Light Side
« on: December 07, 2017, 04:26:14 PM »
Don't get too worried about the urges.. Who knows if you will even have them. What's the sex life like with the ol' lady? If it is consistent enough, I doubt you will have too many urges. Stay strong brother!

Ages 20-29 / Re: 28 y/o: Back on track after breakup and relapses
« on: December 07, 2017, 04:15:56 PM »
Making sure that you only eat healthy foods will I'm sure help you recover faster!! But be careful man! I found that focusing on too many things at once caused me to get stressed out and give up on some of them. IDK how important kicking this addiction to you is, but for me it was my #1 and only, so focusing on it was not at all difficult.

Of course everyone's level of commitment or stick-to-itiveness is different. I feel like I'm just rambling at this point haha... Good luck mah dude!

Yeah, its happened to me. Usually whenever I have strong MW I mess around with it unconsciously right after waking up

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: December 01, 2017, 06:23:46 AM »
I'm getting a lot more sensitive

That's interesting, can you elaborate on this? Is this a life thing, or is it a result of the reboot?

Honestly I think it's a combination of me giving up PMO and also being open to different ideas like being in a committed relationship with girls instead of one night stands.

Also, I look at the nofap website every once in awhile and heard that "No-Nut November" is a pretty big deal over there... Well if you ignore the wet dream I had on the 12th I completed that "challenge". So that's cool.

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 30, 2017, 02:57:55 AM »
Day 126

I don't mean to sound like a panzy in this post but I feel like I'm getting a lot more sensitive. I just had a very interesting conversation with this girl that is really amazing. She has a boyfriend. But she told me the story of how she met him and what their first couple of dates were like (I am terrible at thinking of things to do on a first date) I think it's why I keep getting ghosted.

But anyways... the jist of what she said was that if you want to get a really good girl it might be a good thing to avoid the sexual part for awhile.  Hangout, romance her. If she's cool she'll stick around. Don't make her uncomfortable by moving things fast.

I'm going to get to know girls better before trying to move into the sexual part.

Also, you guys might want to avoid The Punisher TV series that just came out on Netflix. There are a few sex scenes throughout it.

Ages 20-29 / Re: "Building The New" A Nofap/New life Journal
« on: November 29, 2017, 09:38:47 PM »
Eran, your approach seems very good, you can't give up and disappoint yourself. We were in this shit together and we will come out of this together. In my opinion it's better to MO than to watch P in extreme sitaution (it could be an ultimate weapon) because you (=brain) don't remind yourself how much you like watching P. But it's only my opinion.

Stay strong!!!

I agree 100% man. I think M'ing, without the use of fantasies is perfectly acceptable. I'm not even sure that not M'ing will even accelerate your recovery, definitely avoid fantasy though!

I'm also curious about this! I'm a little over 4 months in without PMO. Can you please go get a girlfriend and then report back in like a week and tell me how it's going?

Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal -- age 21
« on: November 28, 2017, 12:47:26 AM »
It is freaking sweet waking up with MW isn't it?? I don't wake up with it super consistently either and it is pretty annoying, but honestly I attribute that to know longer watching porn and over sexualizing girl. That's because when I got sent a naked picture from this girl I got a wet dream that night. I heard that you dream about what you were thinking about last before you fall asleep, so if naked women are no where in your thoughts then you won't get MW.

Maybe. I don't really know what I'm talking about.

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 24, 2017, 03:44:20 PM »
Day 120

OK sweet! It has been 120 days since I've used porn or masturbated. I am thankful I haven't given in to urges because in all honesty I wasn't super dedicated to ever going for this long. I feel like I have gained a lot in this new lifestyle I am trying to adapt to. Just being in this community makes me want to do things that are better for myself like reading, lifting weights, eating healthily, and overall just avoiding complacency. I think a major key to never relapsing involves avoiding complacency. I mean, I of course can understand having a super active day but then at the end of it just being in your room next to your laptop and giving in, but this I believe is when you need to have a good reason to not give in.

So how I'm doing in terms of my PIED: Unfortunately the ladies aren't really coming too frequently. I haven't O'ed in over a month and it fucking sucks. I feel like I'm at the phase in my reboot where going without M'ing isnt really helping me progress anymore. Now, that doesn't mean I'm going to start M'ing again, I just really need to find myself a girl. I've never been good at talking with girls in a boyfriend-girlfriend type of way though so IDK how this is going to go for me.

Ages 20-29 / Re: My journal -- age 21
« on: November 21, 2017, 06:45:39 PM »
I just read your last couple of posts and I really like the progress your making! A couple of thoughts on them:

When you said you lacked desire towards women that might be because your sex drive is in a "hibernation" of sorts. Not jerking off for 85 days can send your libido to sleep I've read, and that might be the problem you're facing. That is also my current problem I'm facing and I'm trying to deal with it by finding a girl that I like to help me awaken it back up again (not successful in this yet). But starting up MO'ing occasionally sounds like an interesting idea! I wonder if that'll awaken your libido

And when you said you got weakass MW. I'm in pretty much the exact same position. But if I even rest my hand on top of it for 30 seconds I will get to 100%. So IDK what that is about but there are definitely changes happening.

Congrats on the 90 day mark man! Most people can't do it!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 19, 2017, 04:40:07 AM »
Day 115

Staying steadfast towards your values and goals during emotional turbulence is, to me, a sign that the problem you are facing is actually important to you. I have a couple of things in my life right now that I value and am working towards and a couple of other things in my life that I wish I'd value higher.

Things I value:

No PM - Being 115 days sober from masturbation and 129 days free from pornography it is apparent that I value this whole nofap lifestyle.

Lifting weights - While I'm nowhere near having a big muscular physique, I have been getting a lot stronger this year and I love to see my progress.

Passivity - It's not a positive thing I value. I spend large chunks of time doing nothing (youtube, mindless movies, distractions). I need to start cutting down on these activities. I heard this guy (don't remember his name) that was talking about how a person would behave differently if a camera crew was following him around and documenting his life. I guess that idea is just about being accountable for your actions and to your future self.

I don't want this journal to drag on and become boring so I'll just cut it off there for tonight.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Quote: "Dude, you're 57. Could it just be ED?"
« on: November 17, 2017, 09:03:50 AM »
57 is pretty old, maybe not just a "young punk". How's your health and diet?

I mean, don't people start using ED drugs around that age anyways?

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 16, 2017, 11:15:10 AM »
Day 112

I'm still doing good.. No overly harsh urges and my energy is back to normal from the wet dream I had (it was back by like 6 hours after). I won't go back to porn

I still go to the gym 3 times a week and have been getting a lot stronger which is great. I can now bench press the 50 pound dumbbells for 3 sets of 10 which is rad because I've been trying to do that for like 3 weeks. The gym I go to has dumbbells that go up to 60 pounds so that can be a goal for the end of the school year (May).

Schoolwork has been a bitch as of late. I don't really want to write about it now but it is just really sucky.

Dating sites, to me, 100% are becoming a porn sub. Everytime I get on them and just start browsing the pictures of different girls I can feel myself getting a semi. I meet up with the girls sometimes so I guess I can sort of justify it. It definitely still feels wrong though...

Ages 20-29 / Re: Here I am.
« on: November 15, 2017, 06:12:20 PM »
I mean, It's not ideal to be looking at sexual pictures. I think a lot about learning how to give up porn though is about self-control. As long as you don't look at the pictures longingly and really fantasize about it I think you'll be fine. Just try not to do it too often and make sure your friends know that you don't like it when they flash these pictures at you.

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 13, 2017, 09:19:53 AM »
^sleepking69: Kind of, it was my first wet dream where I O'ed in my sleep. What I've had happen more frequently (besides the past 2 years) was having precum in my underwear when I woke up.

I also jerked off a lot as a kid so it would've been impossible for this to happen when I was younger haha..

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 12, 2017, 06:43:21 PM »
^elephantricity: Yeah dude! There aren't too many people on this forum that I have a similar experience to either, you should definitely send me a message if you have a question about anything! I've been trying to learn everything I can about this problem.

Day 108

It happened.. I had a full on wet dream.. It was not nearly as cool as I thought it would be haha. At like 4 in the morning I woke up literally while O'ing. Since I haven't O'ed in 30 days, you guys all know that a ton of semen came out. It was a mess and not something I necessarily wanted to clean up at 4 in the morning. But all the while a part of me was thinking "look at you little man! You did it!". My inner dialog can really crack me up sometimes :).

After I that wet dream I could definitely feel my energy levels drop. I am more irritable, emotional, and just not the same person I was earlier. It's strange that I didn't get that same feeling though when I had sex last month. Do any of you guys have thoughts on the subject?

Ages 20-29 / Re: Finally moving towards recovery!
« on: November 12, 2017, 06:23:55 PM »
Dude! that sounds freakin awesome! And I can't wait to live by myself, I can't stand being judged by my roommates so it's gonna be sick when I'm in your position.

Also, you're not missing out on anything by having not had a wet dream. I woke up at like 4 in the morning literally O'ing last night. And since I hadn't had an orgasm in about a month a lot of semen was coming out. Plus I was at my mom's house when it happened and she does all the laundry, so I had to hide my sperm filled underwear in my closet and hope she doesn't find it until next time I come back to visit...

Yeah... there were probably better ways to handle that situation, but oh well. Anyways, congratulations on the sex with a condom!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 10, 2017, 04:08:51 AM »
It wasn't like I full out blew a load in my pants, but I had stickiness in my pants, which after I looked it up, discovered was actually precum. And dude! This is also my first reboot! I think the first reboot is actually the easiest.

My thoughts: when you relapse you cross the line in the sand that you drew for yourself not to PMO. After you've already crossed that line you learn that it is not a huge deal to actually cross that line, so it is easier, and less thought provoking to do. Don't relapse on your first reboot! It is only downhill from here! Of course you're right and you probably do learn a lot from it, like with your opiates, but I just see it as better not to relapse at all :).

I'm sure your addiction to opiates would be a lot more difficult to give up than PMO, but I mean, you've already got those good habits in place so it should be a breeze! Not meaning to put additional pressure on you here but you definitely got this!

And I'm also having sex during my reboot. Though unintentionally, I have almost gone 30 days without an O. I just can't find a girl to get down with :/ Oh well...

Welcome to the community dude!!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 09, 2017, 02:33:21 PM »
I had a wet dream last night. I can only expect that it was related to that picture I got and from talking to that girl.

Wow. As this day goes on I think I'm coming out of the flatline. My penis has gotten bigger than it was previously. This is cool.

Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: November 09, 2017, 12:54:37 AM »
Day 105

Trigger Warning

I went to the bars last week and I met this girl there that I sort of hit it off with. But, like the idiot I am, I started hitting on her friend that was right next to her. Anyways, somehow I got her phone number and i texted her that night. Out of the blue today she texted me picture of herself spread out on her bed naked. She has tattoos of flowers and Chinese symbols up the side of her rib cage. I tried to setup a date for this weekend but it was to no avail.

I looked at those naked pictures for a bit but then I realized that I wasn't going to MO to them so there was no point in even looking at them. I hate that PIED is a problem for me. I'm also pretty pissed that I let this girl take hold of my emotions like this, I mean, every time a girl talks to me I go head over heels for her. I need more options in my life I think.

Teens / Re: 100 Days challenge for Great Life !!!
« on: November 08, 2017, 12:27:20 AM »
This is just something I've been thinking about for awhile about relapsing...

So every time you relapse, you go against what you said you would do. You drew a line in the sand and said "I will not PMO or MO again" (or at least for 100 days in your case). You drew that line and then you stepped over it. I believe saying and going against what you previously said is terrible to who you are as a man.

I just don't believe you are in a place right now to consider rebooting if you are going to relapse. I personally think you should take a break from this site and really re-evaluate your life.

What do you want out of this? How bad do you want it? Why? If you don't have answers to all of those questions then I'm not sure that a rebooting forum will be beneficial to you. Wow, that made me sound like an asshole. But seriously, ask yourself those questions whenever you get a serious urge to PMO and follow your truth.

Ages 20-29 / Re: The Importance of Rewiring (22, PIED)
« on: November 07, 2017, 10:03:06 PM »
I've heard someone say that when you get into a flatline you go into a "sexual hibernation" and you no longer are sexual, idk it's kind of how I feel now at day 103

Ages 20-29 / Re: And now for something completely different
« on: November 07, 2017, 10:34:30 AM »
I think it was around the second week for me too when I'd have little arguments with myself saying how often I would allow myself to masturbate. And idk, for me, after awhile those arguments just seemed to lose control. You're probably right that an occasional release is better for you than not, but the body has safeguards setup for when you don't get off.

Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction/Delayed Ejaculation / Precum?
« on: November 07, 2017, 12:20:42 AM »
I was making out with this girl and afterwards I noticed I had some precum in my shorts. I don't remember having precum since   I was like 13, waking up with little drops of it in my shorts. Is this a forward movement?

Ages 20-29 / Re: 10 Year Struggle - My Current Status and Goals
« on: November 07, 2017, 12:13:23 AM »
I totally understand the craigslist thing. A couple weeks ago while being bored on the internet, without thinking I typed "po" into the address bar. I took a second look at it and thought "what the fuck am I doing?" luckily I had deleted my browsing history a long time ago or I might've seen the auto-fill show "".

I could have unconscionably ruined my streak and all that I've worked for. It's scary how you can just unwittingly go into autopilot mode like that.

Since you've made it to day 54 already I can't really give you any advice because I bet you've already got it all figured out, but be careful!

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