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Ages 20-29 / Re: #nothing_to_save
« on: April 25, 2017, 06:26:08 PM »
And something else that seems to make me think better: just question our self : "why would a girl love me ?"

What's my lifestyle ? Go to rebootnation, read motivation books ? That's not enough to even enjoy yourself, let alone attracting other people.

So I'm starting to project myself in the near-future, thinking what I would do to my lovely woman to make her happy, and of course be both happy.
What can it be ? Opportunities are a lot; visit places, make journeys, physical activities, romantic activities, eating, cooking, listening to music, walking, dancing.

Next update when I find the love of my life.

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Ages 20-29 / #nothing_to_save
« on: April 25, 2017, 06:15:42 PM »
Hi guys, I'm in a positive mood now as I think I finally found a simple quote/motivation to tell to myself : Nothing to save !

"Nothing to save !" means there is absolutely nothing to save from the PMO-lifestyle. The journey to come out of PMO lifestyle has made me question everything, even if my existence in this world is worth it. At last I found the answer: I think life is all about memories; the ones who have recorded more good memories in their life, are the ones to be considered to have lived a better life. So, I make this question to everyone : Do you want to "save" some day/period of your life PMO-related before dying? How many seconds/minutes was the length of the "happiness" ? What day would you want to re-live PMO-related ? I think none. A real-life hug/kiss is a memory you want to take with you in the next world, not a p. video. And you can't feel a real-life hug/kiss if you are in the addiction cycle of PMO. So what's worth in PMO ? Preventing you from real-life joy/pleasure/happiness, that is the answer. At the end of the day: if PMO prevents us from feeling real happiness & good memories, what's worth it ? Absolutely f*cking nothing.

So, why not just quit PMO from our lives & give our spirit the opportunity to feel/love again like we were kids ? There is no reason why not to (quit).

Finally, if there is nothing to save from PMO-lifestyle, let's throw it away from our lives and start to feel/love again. Anything else would be better, a hug, a touch, a kiss, a smile is what we will be remembering in out last days in this world.


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Ages 20-29 / Re: Please help did I relapse and ruin my streak?
« on: March 15, 2017, 02:42:47 PM »
Don't worry man. You've made good progress. We are not robots. Remember, rebooting is about abstaining from P, that is, artificial stimulation. But if you're ready to explode.. a quick ejaculating is not a relapse. From my personal experience, that's the most difficult time to overcome, ie. having ejaculated and feeling bad, and out of anger, start PMO-ing all over again. It's called the Chaser effect I think..
So, to conclude, just think of it as a WD, it was natural.

Good luck

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Ages 20-29 / That's it !
« on: March 15, 2017, 02:37:52 PM »
I will put it very simply.

I've been forever alone in my life because of PMO.
First read about Rebooting in the January of 2016. Back then I started immediately a streak that lasted 17 days, then relapsed.
The benefits were huge, but I thought I won the battle to easily, and to this day I've struggled to reach streaks of clean PMO up to 5 days.

Very simply:
- P. is worth absolutely 0.
- There are only benefits from quitting PMO.
So why continuing PMO ? It's just a bad habit.
In my best streaks my key to success was thinking :
-> nothing worth watching P.
-> everything will get only better
-> i've seen everything. nothing more left to see, same sh!t

And about wet dreams and need to ejaculate.. from my personal experience, the peak of the urges is at days 5,6,7, then finally the flatline starts to make things easier physically (you get used to not ejaculate/masturbate). it will get hard psychologically when you penis becomes dead, but believe me, it's not dead, it's just in recovery mode. I plan to go 100 days of clean rebooting (no P, M, O). Afterwards I plan to get myself a girlfriend, but the main objective: QUIT P. forever. It's worth 0.

I'll write only about benefits from now on.

I've read from successful rebooters that to come to the point of quitting PMO forever it might take up to 1-1.5 years to finally make up your mind.

My time is now!
A new life begins now. Believe me: I've experienced huge benefits, this time I'll go to the end !

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journey to manhood, new to the forum.
« on: October 31, 2016, 02:19:29 PM »
Exercise and read books man. Dont just count the day. Make the days count.  ;)

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Ages 20-29 / Re: personal journal
« on: October 30, 2016, 06:30:16 PM »
wow you're doing great man. Only better days coming. Keep going on !

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Hi,

Keep rememberin why you started this journey man. Remember how sh*t you've felt being a PMO-addict.
Why do it again ? Any positive effects ? None. Just feeling like crap.

So why relapsing ? Why relapsing if only better things are coming PMO-free ?

Such a shame you've a great journal and no-one replies. I'll keep an eye on your progress mate.

Good luck

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Ages 20-29 / Re: New world coming.
« on: October 30, 2016, 06:24:59 PM »
Better days will come man. Your dick is just recovering. Like everyones'. He will be up when the right moment comes.
No need to hurry up. It's part of the whole Rebooting proccess. That's why Rebooting is so interesting.

If it wasn't that interesting, we wouldn't be trying. That's why it's a challenge.

Good luck

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Here we fucking go.
« on: October 30, 2016, 06:22:17 PM »
Hi bobby,

Just take the positives from this.
Relate all this hate and anger to relapsing.
Connect all these bad emotions to relapsing.

Connect all good memories to PMO-free.

It can only get better without PMO, it can only get worse with PMO.

Worth PMO-ing ? No way.

Good luck. Just connect the worst memories to PMO, and you'll never do it again.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Stuck at 8 days.
« on: October 30, 2016, 06:18:12 PM »
Hello,

I'd reccomend to keep telling yourselves : "I'll be forever lonely if I continue PMO". And it's absolutely true.
Don't concentrate on how hard it is. Concentrate on linking bad memories to PMO and great memories to PMO-free.
That's it.
Myself I've struggled a lot, but this latest strategy keeps working day by day.
It's f*cking easy: PMO -> bad effects/memories/ bad future, no future at all, loneliness, die lonely, not getting hard anymore, unable to have sex, unable to love
PMO-free -> energy, libido, getting hard with only touching a girl, getting hard @ anything, able to have sex, able to love, to be loved

Still PMO worth ?? I don't think so.
Credits Tony Robins.

Good Luck guys.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: 2,5 years into my recovery, Getting back on track
« on: October 30, 2016, 06:11:52 PM »
Hi man,
They key to making a decision, according to Tony Robins, that I coulnd't agree more is:
Connect a strong negative effect, or pain to the act of relapsing. If you feel like sh*t and don't want to feel like sh*t anymore, you simply don't do it.
Also, I'd reccomend the key to non-PMO is reconnect. Delete porn associations, recall memories of Love, childhood crushes etc. That helps massively. Willpower isn't going to be enough to quit.
Connect positive memories to non-PMO and negative effects to PMO.

Hope this helps, also I'd reccomend to set the counter objective to infinite.

Good luck.

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Still standing here. Just completed three full 24 hours, so 3 complete days.
Telling everything to some of my friends gave me extra responsibility, so it was a good move.
But in this world is difficult to avoid every sexual content. Music Videos, Instagram etc..
I started to unfollow every model page I had on my instagram... only to see a preview of one of my favourite artists... Completely sexual content..  So it's better to avoid.

I'm starting reading Tony Robbins, but not as much as I would have wanted.. I'm a little stressed at work as I'm trying to finish a task that I've been postponing every week, and now I've exceeded every limit.
So tonight I have to work overnight, until I get the job done.

It's hard now as it's the time I used to PMO the most. after midnight. But I'm trying to keep talking to myself the reasons to quit.

I'm optimistic as I couldn't have done any worse in my sentimental/sexual life until now, and still I'm here standing.
So I suppose only better things are coming if I manage to stop this addiction.

I'm keeping telling myself:
- You know where you're going if you start watching again. You've seen it all. There's nothing more to see, there's nothing different that is going to happen if you continue watching.. But just a little ? NO WAY. Just a little means certain relapse.

I think the urge passed a little bit now.

Still a long night ahead. A battle. Critical moment. But I'm determined. PMO is not an option anymore.
It heads you to nowhere. Not worth a bit.

Thanks guys. Keep standing strong.

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Back on track !!  >:(  >:(  >:(

I relapsed badly last week. But then I did something I never dared to do before.
I told everything to 2 of my friends that I rate a lot.
One is a guy that is engaged and has a 10 year relationship with his girlfriend.
The other is a girl that has a family; a husband and a kid.

In the last year, I learned that this journey it's virually impossible to do alone.
It makes a lot of more sense to share your story. I'm 48 hours porn-free now (actually my addiction is webcams, not traditional porn), and I'm starting to feel the responsibility of what I told to my friends.

I told them I'll manage to get out of this sh*t. I'm determined to go to the end. I'm not accepting being ashamed to tell my friends that I relapsed. It's impossible for me to fail now.

The hard part of all this is, What am I going to do in my 4-8 extra hours every day ?
I'm thinking about reading, especially self-help books and relationship books, which i think I comprehend really well.

I'll tell you only positive storied from now on guys.
I'm thinking of how to design my new life.
I'm already thinking of New Life.
What did porn give me all these years ? Sh*t. Nothing. Loneliness, Anger, Regret. Why do it ever again ? Why ? Better sleep some hours more than watch porn. The worst thing ever created.

Why watch porn when we all know it has only negative and extremeley negative consequesnces ?! Why ?! Nothing worth.
So: QUIT ! I want my f*cking life back !

Se you soon guys. Good luck in your journeys.
Brian


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Try to take positives from the relapse.

Recall how shit you felt.

Determination  >:(  >:(

We should take our lives back man  >:(

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Hi everyone,

Yeah I know I fucked it up again..  :'(

I'm so ashamed of all those red marks on my counter.

BUT...

This time i decided to react. I made a step that I could never dare to take: I TOLD MY PROBLEM TO A FRIEND

This should help a lot.

I have to tell him when i relapse, and I hope there will not be a "next" time !

 >:(   >:(   >:(

God bless everyone.


We have to stop this sh*t. F*ck everyone who created p*rn. The craziest and most disgusting thing in the whole human history.

Now i feel like shit again, but after the confession I made to my friend, it's time to STOP !

As I said before, the decision is made the next time urges come, not now.. 1 f*cking hour from relapsing. I fell complete crap, empty.
But here starts my journey.


I promise to you all, that from now on, I'll write only positive things, and I'll keep my tracker GREEN

Gabe Deem, I'm on your steps  ;D

See you guys, good luck to all. Don't be fools, STOP forever. Last time I stopped for 16 days, were the BEST DAYS OF MY FUCKING LIFE.

I WANT MY LIFE BACK !!



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Ages 20-29 / Re: Here we fucking go.
« on: October 18, 2016, 07:43:32 PM »
Hi bobbyperu,

Why don't you put a tracker: https://pmo-tracker.appspot.com/

C'mon, PMO is the way.
Whatever the problem is, stopping PMO does only good.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: personal journal
« on: October 18, 2016, 03:02:34 PM »
You're doing great Nathan,

Just only 1 small advice: don't think too much about that 90th day.

I think the key is to "reconnect", i.e. reconnecting the brain with the love a man should feel towards a woman.
Day 90 is nothing special, and should not be 'celebrated', if you know what I mean..

Myself, the longest I went was 16 days, and when I relapsed, it was 'strange' to re-start my routine.. I even had started to forget the sites I used to watch every day, which was a positive sign.

Now I can only image what it's like to go 60 days, I suppose a lot of good things happen, as you have reported.

A suggestion: 'Black White Guy In America' channel in youtube.
He's a very positive guy, recovered from PMO.

It helps me, hope it helps you, too.

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Thanks man,
you're the first commenter in my journal other than myself.

I just passed another mind test: "should i open 'once' more my favourite p site, or should I open rebootnation.org"

Your message gave me a lot of good spirit.

I hope you do good also.

I QUIT I QUIT I QUIT. I'M THE NEXT GABE DEEM. NEXT YEAR I'LL WRITE MY SUCCESS STORY.  :D

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Hi everybody,

Hard day today..
Not a bad day, but just hard.
In the morning I had a morning wood, even though before sleeping i had O-d two times in a row (the relapse I had yesterday).
The would could be related to pee, but nevertheless a 'half' wood.

I took a lot of caffeine though coffee today, and was nervous all day long. I was nervous when I needed to be, so anyway I had some productive work/meetings.

Even though my most recent relapse was yesterday, during the last weeks, I've tried to quit PMO, so the number of O-s I've had has dropped a little bit in the last month. I feel I've become more fearless, talked to the directed like I don't give a sh*t.
Could be as a result of testosterone level gone up ? not sure..

Anyway, I kept saying all day today that I've quit P, M, and O for good now.
For a split second, I was just about to open my 'usual' 'web' site, thanks God I didn't.
I'ts these seconds that split boys from men.

I'll continue telling myself "I quit, I quit, I quit. I'ts over, I'ts over, I'ts over"

I recall the million times I had 'decided' not to PMO anymore, but because of 'curiosity', I went and checked what's going on in my fav 'website'. So what happened these times ? I went from 'decided', to 'fuck it let's have some fun, it's only 1 time' to feeling like crap. Real crap.

So, again as I said yesterday, it's these moments when you make dhe decisions, not after relapsing. It's the right moment, to quit or not to quit. Everyone says it's worth quitting, including myself, with real reassurances that it's the best thing to do.

So, why the f*ck not quitting ?

So, again.

I QUIT AND THERE'S NO TURNING BACK.
LIFE'S AHEAD!

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 >:( >:( >:(
I relapsed again...

This is the last time. Promise.
From 18/10/2016 I QUIT !

One thing to remember: a peek to p. is relapse.

I really QUIT. I've had enough of this sh*t now!
Gabe Deem you're a legend for quitting and not turning back anymore.
I wanna be just like you !

I really QUIT now, it's over.

You're not going anywhere with PMO. It's the worst thing in the world.
No PMO -> feel super energetic

I don't know why the hell we do it. It's worth NOTHING.

Guys, today I quit.

Now on, I'll update you only with good news.
I'm a quitter now.

Code: [Select]
I QUIT

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Just relapsed...  >:(

The good news is i didn't enjoy what i saw.

The last 4 days have been good without PMO. Read books, had energy and drive to talk to girls.
Usually when i PMOd, I would do it in 4+ hour sessions watching webcams.
If I don't watch any more today (and I won't), it's already a success.

I will analyse this failure and go on.
Before I came home, I was just convincing myself that I will not watch P.
I told myself "I'f you're going to quit, this is a match point kind of day."
I called a (girl) friend to meet before I PMOd, and I wanted to leave the house.
Stangely she didn't respond, and I went 'automatic' mode..

I feel dissappointed, but I don't feel too angry. I wish I felt more angry.
Anyway I'll keep trying and trying. Keeping in mind that the real decision is made when the urges come, and not just after a relapse.

Definitely these last 4-5 days were a progress, but the real goal is a really big task.
3-4 days it's easy. Then the really difficult moment is after..

As I said in previous posts, it's not the need to PMO that makes the task difficult, it's just quitting the habbit.
My longest streak without PMO was in March, failed on the 17th day. I remember those days as great days, I was super happy with myself. Every good thing you can imagine because of quitting PMO..

Here we go again! When hard times will come, I'll say to myself "Quit or Don't quit, there no middle way. This is the day !"

I'll keep the journal updated.


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Hello. As I wrote previously, It looks so easy not to watch, that you start worrying, "how could it be so easy?" until you relapse.
A little before, I was just about to relapse. Maybe it can be considered a relapse, but I just don't want to reset the counter. I just had a peek. I'm not saying it's OK to peek at p but I'm just trying not to be hard on myself. I'm fully aware that to properly reboot,  it should be done without any form of nudity, and I'll try not to watch anymore. Never.
The most difficult thing is to remind yourself that you're on a mission. I don't even like watching p anymore. Its just the habit. I want love. Love of a real woman. Im trying to get a girlfriend as soon as possible, that would help not thinking about p.
Working on improving myself first.

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Hello everyone,

I'm now on my 3rd day. Everything going smoothly.
But we all now that urges can come back in a split second.

I just wanted to show you sth that is really helping me in these first days.

Instead of the habit "what's new in my favorite P site today", I am creating a good habit "what's up in reboot nation today ?"

I've committed myself to becoming one of the greatest helpers here. My objective is to read one story per day and reply at least to one journal per day.

See you soon, my objective is to know every single one rebooter's story.
A far better habit than PMO

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Getting back to life
« on: October 15, 2016, 04:27:33 AM »
Hi everyone, and Hi jkkk,

I became aware of the entire community of rebooters just at the beginning of this year.
Anyway I was aware of the bad effect that P was having to my life a lot earlier.

I only read the last page of your journal and I totally agree with what you said:
"There is no third way. You either reboot or not. You either quit P. or don't"

You can see I'm just on my 3rd day, and until now everything is cool.
My very first and longest streak without PMO was back in March.
I was doing really good, quit TV, quit P memories, tried to reconnect with Love feelings to women in general, that really helped. Random 'woods/boners' but a great feeling of self-confidence and calmness.
But I failed on the 17th day.
And it all started with "a little will not do any harm"... and here we are, 7 months after, I just kept relapsing without thinking.
I don't really liked P anymore, I was just frustrated and lost hope.

So, returning to you jkk, as it's your journal: I know very well that fighting back is even harder than when everything goes smoothly. It's like this, good days and bad days.

"If you're going through hell, keep going". Winston Churchill
There is hope in the end of the tunnel. I truly believe it.

Just concentrate on your life plans, and love women and people in general.

Now with my second (and hopefully decisive) real tentative to reboot, I've commited myself to reply to at least one rebooter per day. This really helps. It's because if you want to be a good helper, first of all you should be a model yourself.

Keep going guys, and keep in mind that we're not only fighting for ourselves, but for the future of the entire humanity, seriously. P is a global problem. We should fight every day. Humans versus Virtual Reality.

#LETS GO CHAMPS





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And something else to add: I was born in 1990 and I'm a virgin too  ;D
I have never kissed a girl.
It's not like I have problems to talk or sth else. It's just purely PMO problem: Not as excited and motivated as I should be.
But PMO is not the solution. It's better 1 natural morning wood than a lifetime of PMO.
And sth else: I read that you had relatively very few days of morning woods.
I my case I've seen the morning woods are better when you "reconnect", I.e. think of real-life girls, and Love, not sex. Its completely natural and not porn-related I think.

Best regards

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