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Ages 40 and up / Re: VICTORY over PMO
« on: April 26, 2015, 03:59:17 AM »
Thank you Gracie

We need to share more success stories on this forum.
Glad to hear that you and your husband are doing well!
This is very encouraging!

Stay strong and be BLESSED!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: VICTORY over PMO
« on: April 24, 2015, 07:13:35 AM »
Hi to all Rebooters

I'm still around and doing great.
The counter is ticking and I'm nearing one year free of PMO.

This has been one awesome journey.
A lot of positive things happened during this last year.
I have made new friends here on the forum, all having the same challenges and one desire... to beat the dragon of PMO in their lives.
The struggle for some were more challenging than of others.
However our goal is the same.

Over the last couple of months I was not as active here on RN as I wanted to be, as I dealt with a lot of challenges in my business, traveled and were on vacation a couple of times. This all had it's influence in keeping me from posting here.

Thinking back on what triggered all of this more than a year ago, I can hardly believe that living a live PMO FREE could ever be possible!
Today I can vouch that I rarely think about porn anymore.
When it makes it's rounds in my head it is easy to brush it off.

I know I am worth more!
I know I am better than that!
I know that I don't need porn as a crutch to help me cope with things in my live!!!
I know to PMO is a bad excuse for my shortcomings and that I can deal with those in far more constructive ways!!!

To all who encouraged during the difficult times, you will always be remembered!
Words of encouragement.
Private messages.
All these helped in a time when I thought that it is not worth the effort.
Today I can say to all that struggle and are thinking of giving up...

STAY STRONG THE LITTLE EFFORT YOU HAVE TO PUT IN TO BE PMO FREE, IS FAR LESS THAN THE REWARD!!!

I need to also thank my Heavenly Father for the strength He gave me and the privilege of prayer and the power that it gave in strengthening my faith and efforts!

As always...

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!!!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: SMS -
« on: January 01, 2015, 12:20:46 AM »
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The commitment is something I talked to my husband about.  When we discussed this addiction, I told him what would make me feel secure and he did it without hesitation.  And now he can sense the least little bit of wonky I am feeling.  He keeps me grounded.  Tuning in to your loved one is the greatest gift of all you can give them!

Gracie, thanx for sharing this with us! This is the crux of not having anything occupying our sexual desires but our partner in our life's.
Pure, honest commitment!
The way it is designed by our Creator!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: SMS -
« on: December 30, 2014, 11:57:01 PM »
365

Hi SMS

Congratz on reaching your goal of being FREE from PMO for 365 days. You are an inspiration to all of us! I hope for you that the next year will be the one when all your desires and what you are working towards of a PMO FREE LIFE will come full circle and beyond!

Be blessed Brother!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: Barry's Journal
« on: December 25, 2014, 02:52:56 PM »
Hi BarryL

First of all welcome!

This forum defenitely is the place to be if you want to get and stay motivated giving up porn and PMO. A lot of guys make the mistake by wanting to give up PMO for the wrong reasons e.g. To cure their PIED. This should be a good motivator thoug not the best reason to do it!
Like you said...

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While there were other things (both her issues and mine) that were causing a strain on the relationship, I think porn killed it.

I can tell you there is nothing better to be in a relationship for the right reasons and be guilt free, with no junk of porn in your head.

Keep on journaling this is a great way to clear your mind and have tabs on your progress. Keep on reading and educating yourself...

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 40 YO, never married, addicted to porn since 14.
« on: December 24, 2014, 02:14:15 PM »
HTDT

Glad that things are working out for you!
As you know I've been following you from the beginning or you posting here.
You have came a long way and this is just awesome!
Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« on: December 21, 2014, 11:37:30 PM »
Well done brother.

And congratz on hitting day 45.

Yes PORN IS NO OPTION!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: chicken strikes again
« on: December 21, 2014, 11:33:44 PM »
Hi chicken

Addiction to PMO is very real and a strong addiction. We formed this addiction over many decades. The pathways in ur brains are like super highways leading to PMO. Trying to build new pathways over this highways are not easy. Perseverance is key here! I can see that you are dedicated to it!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 40 YO, never married, addicted to porn since 14.
« on: December 21, 2014, 11:30:17 PM »
Hi HTDT

One of the most dangerous things you can do is to think that you have gained control and then start to run on auto pilot.
You must remember you on 30+ days trying to break an addiction that are so strong. On top of it all it took many decades to build those neuropathways that are like highways leading to PMO.

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: Age 45 - Last Chance Saloon
« on: December 20, 2014, 11:16:36 AM »
Hi lyon03

Firstly you gave me the chuckles with your finger error!
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"What's more important? My c*ck or the person attached to it."

Then it made me think... the spelling is not correct but it could also read My kick.
so one can also phrase the sentence like this.

"What is more important? The kick from porn or my d*ck."
Just another twist to it but with a lot of truth in it...

strintner

Glad you are on another streak and that you are more motivated!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« on: December 19, 2014, 03:02:51 PM »
Hi Jaystock

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My wife and I are getting  so close lately, it's nice I feel like I have a life partner.

This is awesome!
And part of the reboot!
You see you are working the rubbish out of your system, there are no place for PMO any more. Sooo, it is a natural thing tho all of a sudden have so much spare time that you want to spend with your Wife, kids, family, etc.
There are going to happen so much more awesome stuff to your if you stay strong and beat the PMO Monster for good!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 40 YO, never married, addicted to porn since 14.
« on: December 19, 2014, 02:56:28 PM »
HTDT

I'm happy for you that you are doing so great, It's been quite a bumpy road!
But things are changing for the better now!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

PS Congratz on 33 days! 8)

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Great post Challenge
I appreciate your reply Toofat

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Women / Re: "Special" sex on "special" occasions
« on: December 15, 2014, 11:21:30 PM »
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I could have been anyone. I was just a vehicle to get him off. Not the person who loved and honoured him with my thoughts an actions. Nope.
PA's have themselves convinced that it's "normal and OK", because to some degree, society has normalized it so much that this behaviour is acceptable!

Guys listen to what the ladies have to say!
This makes so much sense!
Thank you for sharing it and putting it in such plain simple words.
If anyone does not understand this, they will never get it.
I wish for every man to get this. Hot only will it make your lady feel that she is the most important to you!
And trust you me, if a woman feels she is your everything she will connect with you in ways that you could never imagine to be possible.
But by being true and honest in your relationship, not having anything coming between the two of you. The act of making love will be the most precious and beautiful thing that you can share as a couple!
You will not have sex with your lady anymore.
You will make love to her, and she to you!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Women / Re: "Special" sex on "special" occasions
« on: December 15, 2014, 03:08:59 PM »
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SORP and I want the men here to know you should go through this together with your SO.  I think it is hard for a lot of men to understand it very much feels like an affair.  I know, I know there is not a person there.  but there is.  It's the one performing "for just you".  But really it is not, it is for millions.  We realize that there has been someone else in bed with us.  Someone else in our house.  PA's tell us we still love and loved you.  But it feels very much that we were not liked and valued.

Thank you for this valuable information Gracie!
I believe if more men can realise this they will never look at porn again!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Women / Re: Women's Addiction
« on: December 15, 2014, 02:55:27 PM »
Well done Kaybee!

This is awesome news!!!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: What will your 2 questions be?
« on: December 15, 2014, 02:53:15 PM »
Interesting to see all the different questions!

Thanx to everyone!

Please keep on bringing those questions. We are so diverse and receiving the questions are a reflection of just that.

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« on: December 15, 2014, 02:49:05 PM »
Well done brother, this is good news. Not just for you but for the both of you!

Remember to do the reboot for the right reasons, not just to cure PIED or ED.

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Women / Re: "Special" sex on "special" occasions
« on: December 13, 2014, 05:13:48 AM »
I can not agree more with anyone about this than with what you have said SORP!

Thanx for sharing it with us.

This is why it is so good and important to have woman on this forum!
Only you can give us the insight that we need so desperately!
This we will not get from our SO in the clear well worded way that you have put it, and even if we did would we listen...?
This is funny but true, a person will only validate something that you hear from a third party.
A flaw in our design as fallen man, from childhood engrained in us...

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Women / Re: Year of the Dragon - SO Reboot Partner's Journal
« on: December 13, 2014, 05:00:13 AM »
SORP

Like I have said before. I'm sad for you that things between you and your husband did not work out, and that his addiction is controlling him to the extend that he is not willing to see, or not even capable to see what he is doing and by that losing the most important "thing" in his life. The "thing" I'm referring to actually is more than one thing. 1. You as an understanding partner, desiring him to change, having the marriage you deserve. 2. The understanding, supportive wife that desires nothing more than a happy normal marriage that you deserve. 3. The wife, mother for his/your children. 4. His children. 5. The respect he should naturally have from his children. 6. The business partner, secretary, etc. that you were for him. In short I think the "thing" that he will be losing is a happy balanced normal life.
His addiction to porn has robbed him from being objective and seeing life for what it really should and could be. As a whole, he will be the one that is loosing out big time, while he thinks he is the one that is gaining.
No one else, that will come after you, will tolerate what you have tolerated. None will have the love and compassion that you showed towards him, not even to mention the commitment you had, especially over the last 500 days!
At the end of the day he will be all alone, miserable and lonely. Looking at pixels on a screen, thinking this will give him the company and life that he deserves, with a limp dick in his hand, all miserable... (I hope that I'm not to harsh by saying this. But this is reality.)
I believe that if he can see this picture in his mind, and experience the pain that this might bring him, he might re-consider his actions and catch a wake up. It's all about pain and pleasure. If the pain is more than the pleasure he might change for the better. But he is deceived and the thing about deception is that the deceived does not realise that they are deceived.

This is not only true for your husband, but to all and this is a law of nature...

On the other hand, I want to salute you!
You are strong, you have worked through a lot, and you have come out stronger and wiser than what you have ever been.

I'm convinced that you will find the perfect job for you! If not the one you have went for the interview, another. You are advancing in leaps and bounds. You are doing great and this is what's important now. You now need to focus on yourself... and this is what you are doing already!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: Getting help now
« on: December 13, 2014, 02:28:39 AM »
Hi Nicksam1

Interesting post and some interesting points and observations you make.
For me it is not easy to give you any advice on most of it coz I have no reference to it, either by experiencing it myself or that I came across similar situations. However I want to say that you are on the right track. Staying away from PMO, not knowing what to expect next but eagerly awaiting the next change in the rewiring process. Still being positive and by keeping on posting on your journal is key and very necessary for this process as a whole.

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Sometimes I think that I am only able to abstain from porn now because I am 47; because the bad experiences and the lessening of libido that comes with age have combined to shut the door to the world of physical lovemaking for me. Now THAT is a depressing thought.

I don't think this is necessarily true. You might just be flatlining and this may be due to the lack of libido. At 47 you know what you want and how to get it. You know that PMO is damaging you and you are abstaining from it. That might be why it is easy for you to abstain from it. Once you have rebooted, once you have new pathways in your brain that are rewired, you will experience the physical in a new way....
Trust me on this and yes there are a lot of rebooters that can vouch for it.

Stay string and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 40 YO, never married, addicted to porn since 14.
« on: December 12, 2014, 04:56:03 PM »
HTDT

This is great news. I am happy for you and want to congratulate you on accomplishing what I think is your record...?
Well done!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: What will your 2 questions be?
« on: December 10, 2014, 03:13:03 PM »
Thank you for all the posts.

Some interesting conversation going on. Perhaps some more guys/ladies want to join in the conversation.

Some interesting observations and statements by both challenged and olafthewise.

I'm proud of all your accomplishments and determination.

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Teens / Re: Chasing the Thrill; My Reboot Diary
« on: December 07, 2014, 06:40:13 PM »
Congratz, you have made a significant breakthrough in what you have realized... Thanx for sharing!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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Ages 40 and up / Re: 43 year old tired of pmo
« on: December 07, 2014, 06:36:13 PM »
Well done Jaystock

This is what rebooting is about. Not easy, but the reward after withstanding the temptations, come what may, is the best feeling ever! Nothing compares with it!
i'm proud of you!

Stay strong and receive the Blessings!

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