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Well done. Thanks for sharing. How old are you? Any other benefits?

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Hisself,

Sorry you're struggling with anxiety at the moment. I think you should consider revising your goals so you ease your distress around sex. The sooner you make friendly contact with potential partners, the more relaxed you will feel.

Standard advice for anyone with sexual performance anxiety is to take all performance pressure off of yourself at first when you're with a partner. Just tell the person you want to go slowly and get to know them (for a month even). Any kind of affectionate touch and kissing is beneficial for you both, but don't try to have intercourse or even receive oral sex until you feel completely ready.

There's no rush, and the easy, relaxed contact is very good preparation for enjoyable sex. This page may have useful tips for your partner: http://yourbrainonporn.com/boyfriend-quitting-porn-5-tips

I think it's also good to tell a prospective partner what you've been experimenting with (rebooting). Most will be very sympathetic...and impressed.

You'll be fine. All the best.

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Success Stories / MOVED: i liked this one
« on: June 06, 2017, 03:15:02 PM »

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Have you watched this video? "Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction,” (on YourBrainOnPorn website) https://youtu.be/EHHyt6z0osA

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Great post. Keep your courage up. Also, the Green Crescent, a charitable organization in Turkey, understands that internet can be addictive. Last year, they invited Gary Wilson to give a talk at a large international conference on internet addiction (including problematic porn use), and their addiction journal published a peer-reviewed paper by Wilson: http://addicta.com.tr/makale/eliminate-chronic-internet-pornography-use-to-reveal-its-effects/

I mention this because the Green Crescent has resources to help you if you need additional support. Check them out.

All the best!

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Porn Addiction / Re: I'm Sorry
« on: May 12, 2017, 10:36:27 AM »
Hey, better late than never. Thanks for explaining your actions. Hope your health problem is nothing serious.

Humans generally seem to learn important lessons the hard way, so lighten up on yourself.

If you're in the UK and you need a good recovery coach, try Mark Drax. http://www.deepcoachinginstitute.com/find-a-deep-coaching-professional-3/mark-drax/

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Success Stories / Re: success story and questions
« on: March 26, 2017, 11:34:55 AM »
Did you go back to porn fetish fantasy when you were masturbating once a week between relationships? If so, I think the porn influence could be the issue for you. Train your sexuality for what you want to engage in later in your life. If you want to respond to real people, train your arousal to real people...or at least your imagination of real people...not "remembering (fetish) porn" that seldom matches real life.

Be consistent, because it gets tougher to retrain your brain as you age.

BTW, these kinds of problems are very common in today's porn users. You may find this article interesting: http://www.sash.net/unprecedented-rates-of-sexual-dysfunctions-in-young-men-may-be-related-to-internet-porn-use/

How old are you, by the way?

Finally, some people are just more sensitive to the fallout from too much ejaculation. This can be affected by stress and other factors. You may find this page interesting too: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/men-does-frequent-ejaculation-cause-hangover If you think this might be your issue, experiment with another approach to sex with your partner for a while: http://www.reuniting.info/karezza_porn_addicts

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Success Stories / Re: 80 days...
« on: March 26, 2017, 10:15:21 AM »
Great to read this. Have you and your wife considered experimenting with karezza? I ask because it may find it stops the mood swings you're still experiencing sometimes. If you're interested, here are two links:

http://www.reuniting.info/content/lovers-ultimate-sex-hack-karezza
http://www.reuniting.info/karezza_porn_addicts

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Sorry you're hurting. If you're interested in reading others' withdrawal stories: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/what-does-withdrawal-from-porn-look-like

Try getting an accountability buddy or check out this guy's site: https://youtu.be/ZJp1E2vNMUc, or a support group IRL for porn addiction. You'll be fine. Just don't give up.

You seem to know this, but research shows that all of these things help return your brain to healthy balance: exercise, meditation, time in nature, socializing, staying offline, and beneficial stressors like cold showers or intermittent fasting. Have you watched this vid? "Your Brain On Porn: How Internet porn affects the brain" https://youtu.be/7oFVOJf0TzY YourBrainOnPorn website is good too.

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Success Stories / Re: Success story with few valuable TIPS
« on: February 09, 2017, 02:49:05 PM »
Great tips. How old are you?

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Success Stories / Re: 34 days and seeing results.
« on: February 09, 2017, 02:40:30 PM »
Congratulations on your improvements.

FYI, urologists who measure erectile dysfunction don't just ask if you can get an erection. Inability to sustain an erection  during sex is also evidence of "erectile dysfunction." Typically it gets worse if you keep using porn, so it's great you stopped when you did. This is a really common problem today: http://www.sash.net/unprecedented-rates-of-sexual-dysfunctions-in-young-men-may-be-related-to-internet-porn-use/

Just know that when you recover, it's not "safe" to use porn again. If it caused sexual dysfunctions once, they will develop again if you go back to internet porn.

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Success Stories / Re: trust can rebuild and forgiveness is possible
« on: January 13, 2017, 08:30:13 PM »
Recovered addicts can be amazing, wise, humble, loving mates. Well done having a heart big enough to make it through such a difficult time.

Not sure if you would find this useful: http://www.reuniting.info/lazy_way_to_stay_in_love

All the best!

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Success Stories / Re: First time having sex in a year
« on: November 22, 2016, 01:17:23 PM »
I'm confused. Did you quit because of sexual dysfunctions, or did they only show up when you flatlined during recovery? How old are you? Any other noticeable benefits since quitting?

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Sad story, brilliantly told. Sorry for what you and Rachel went through. How old are you?

It's sad that humanity doesn't realize how important careful management of sexual energy is in terms of our perceptions and priorities.

Hats off to you sister for being a well informed therapist, rather than a crackpot like many "sex therapists" today who are making their careers by ignoring the solid science to promote the schlock "science" that the mainstream journalists are purveying for the most part. So many young men and their partners are suffering needlessly.

Thanks for telling your story.

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Success Stories / Re: Becoming the best version of myself - 1
« on: November 21, 2016, 11:21:37 PM »
You  aren't alone. Happens to most guys. It's hard to accept that it's really the porn, with the mainstream press and even some crackpot scientists lying to you. You might like this page: http://yourbrainonporn.com/what-is-it-like-to-experiment-with-porn-after-recovery

How old are you? What benefits did you see after you quit? Did you have any sexual dysfunctions when you decided to quit?

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Porn Addiction / Re: The fear of porn's negaive effects
« on: October 31, 2016, 12:58:11 PM »
Emerald Blue, your post makes me think of this recent talk by Gail Dines to a large conference of pediatricians. [WARNING:  may be triggering for some]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ma70AlG2mDY

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Porn Addiction / Re: The fear of porn's negaive effects
« on: October 31, 2016, 10:44:18 AM »
The largest porn giant, Mindgeek (which owns 9 of the 15 largest free porn hubs), is the porn producer/distributor with the deepest pockets and the greatest interest in having people continue to believe porn is harmless. They are the ones pandering the free porn, knowing that kids (as well as adults) are viewing their vids...a lot. They are the ones who make money from every click, due to ad revenues.

Also, keep in mind that the sexual enhancement drug makers never before had customers under 40. In less than a decade, they now have billions of dollars worth of sales from young men...thanks to streaming porn on tube sites causing severe sexual dysfunctions.

Are we up against some Very Big and Unethical $$$$ when it comes to efforts to suppress this message in every way possible?

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Porn Addiction / Re: Reboot turning weird
« on: August 20, 2016, 06:58:17 PM »
Can you find a therapist to help you at this site? http://www.new.sash.net/

It's not unusual for cravings and weird fantasies to get stronger at first, during a reboot. But giving into them makes them worse. They will settle down as you get your brain back into balance. The things that help the most are exercise, meditation, time in nature, socializing, staying offline, and beneficial stressors like cold showers.

Meanwhile, when you have cravings, try these things:

•   Urinate, which can reduce the urges. (Drink a lot of water if you need to.)
•   Splash cold water on your junk.
•   While you release your breath slowly contract your butt/hamstrings as hard as you can so that you feel like you're lifting up and keep it like that until you can't anymore and release it slowly.
•   Hold your breath for 30 seconds.
•   Avoid fantasizing.
•   As a single movement, practice contracting and pulling upward the entire floor of your pelvis, including the anus, perineum, and genitals. It should feel like you are trying to stop yourself from going to the bathroom. You can practice this in sets of 15 or 20 contractions, holding them as long as you can. Kills boners.

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