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Ages 30-39 / Re: 35yo married with kids
« on: May 07, 2016, 02:38:45 AM »
Hey stoney.
I had to touch on one point you mentioned in an earlier post. You said " I feel like shit whether I PMO or not so I might as well enjoy myself." I've been there man and I know how frustrating it can be. Please just remember that you feel like shit when you PMO because of the PMO. But your feeling like shit when you don't PMO is also due to the PMO. It's the chemicals in your brain that are causing the catch 22. With time you'll feel much better without the PMO. Also I know you say you might as well enjoy yourself, but I think the real joy is not being a slave to porn. I thought I wanted to view porn but really it was the chemicals in my brain that were telling me I wanted it because my brain craved that dopamine hit. Your brain will even try to trick you on numerous levels just to get those "reward" chemicals.

Hope all that makes sense. Just stay strong and give it time.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: 35yo married with kids
« on: May 02, 2016, 12:44:02 AM »
Hang in there stone. For me it gets easier after about a week then really hard again around day 60.  I know it sounds corny but if you can just take it one day at a time it will work. I just try to tell myself I can make it through today, it's just one day.
Thanks for being honest about things. Also are you taking any medication to help with the ocd/anxiety issue. Might make things easier.  Good luck stay strong. I'll pray for you

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Ages 30-39 / Re: It all starts here
« on: December 05, 2015, 11:31:03 AM »
78 days in a straight line. They fall like water, yes I guess I fucked up again. Time to start over. I'm very disappointed in myself. The only thing I know to do is to keep trying.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Inspirational and motivation porn recovery video
« on: November 27, 2015, 05:24:51 PM »
Not what I was expecting, but wow. Very motivational, at day 71 for myself, this is exactly what I needed to see. It's a great reminder that porn is not an option if you want to live life the the way it was meant to be lived!

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Shane quits Porn and Gangster Rap.
« on: November 11, 2015, 04:22:44 PM »
Hang in there Shane. It gets easier with time. Also it sounds like mentally you are in this for the long haul. -blessings

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Shane quits Porn and Gangster Rap.
« on: November 03, 2015, 03:59:33 PM »
Shane, I have a similar story to yours in that I felt like I needed to release semen on a regular basis due to pain, discomfort, and some other issues. However I decided to try this reboot in hard mode, I must tell you that it was a great decision for me. It was painful and uncomfortable for a while but 47 days in I feel great and think that hard mode made a big difference in eliminating my triggers and giving me clarity of mind. Just my two cents. I wish you success and I will pray for you, you can do it.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Committed to end this for lifetime (all over again ) !!
« on: November 03, 2015, 03:49:59 PM »
Good for you, know that there is hope in the future. Just remember that the dopamine your brain is craving from PMO is not worth the regret and feeling of failure that will follow. It gets easier with time, so stay strong. I will pray for you.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: It all starts here
« on: November 03, 2015, 03:46:02 PM »
47 days in, over half way to 90!!! I know that 90 is not my final goal but it is a milestone along the way. I feel that the progress I've made is noticeable in my life, I'm so grateful that I found this site and I feel blessed to be doing so well. I continue to pray that the Lord will give me strength to stay strong. I pray for others on this site too. Any advice on what to expect for the second half of my reboot, b those who have been through it would be appreciated. Thanks and God bless.

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Hello fellow rebooters. I'm only about 13 days into my reboot journey but overall I'm feeling great about the progress and I'm excited to start this healthier phase in my life. I have questions about flat line though. Can someone who's been through it give me a general time line for the flat line? Is it typically gone after the 90 days? I wasn't expecting to experience it at only two weeks in, but maybe that's normal? Any opinions from people who have been through it would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Internet addiction?
« on: September 28, 2015, 10:23:43 PM »
Is your internet addiction mostly to social media sites? I think the instant gratification of clicking and the quickly changing images likely affects the dopamine signals in similar ways as porn. Maybe take 30 off of computer if you're able.

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Ages 30-39 / Hard mode
« on: September 28, 2015, 09:24:51 AM »
Hard mode sucks! Almost 11 days since I started this journey and so far so good. I know that hard mode is not easy (hence the name.) But I am convinced that this is the key for me. I must live as though porn is not an option and I  must start being the man I strive to be or it will never happen. One thing for sure is that I never realized how sexualized our world and media has become. Being away from PMO even for this short time has opened my eyes to the world of triggers out there. I know I have to be careful and it scares me to think about the young's teens growing up these days, do they have any chance at all of avoiding the pitfalls of pornography? Let's hope so.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: My Story
« on: September 21, 2015, 11:05:57 PM »
I'm glad you're going for the reboot. I encourage you to read as much on this site as you can. I know that porn induced ED will get your attention fast. Just my two cents though, I think you need to look at your reboot as a positive lifestyle change and not just a way to get your soldier to stand and salute. Remember that most men who have pied use porn as an escape or to self medicate, so porn addiction is more of a symptom than the disease. For me this is a chance to reboot me enyire life, heal relationships, and strengthen my faith. Hope this makes sense. Good luck in your journey.

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Ages 30-39 / It all starts here
« on: September 17, 2015, 11:36:49 PM »
If you're reading the 30-39 journals, hopefully you get the Goonies reference in the subject line. I'm not sure where to start. I'm brand new to this site and not very tech savvy so I hope I'll get it all figured out as this site and its videos has given me a new hope.
The last nine months have been by far the worst of my life. I have been battling major depressive disorder as well as generalized anxiety. My marriage is a mess, I haven't been the greatest father and my stress levels have been sky high. The worst part for me is that I never saw it coming, I've always been the guy that other people rely on and turn to for help and now I need help but I'm too proud and ashamed to ask for it.
I started viewing internet porn at a young age. Ever since I've gone through cycles of pmo and then being ashamed to the point that I'd stop for a while until something triggered me again. I've always felt bad about pmo but until just recently I had no idea how damaging it has been for me. I just thought I was dealing with a lot of different issues in my life. Never did it occur to me that porn addiction was at the root of it all. This is the very beginning of my journey to heal myself and my relationships. I believe that my recovery from depression, anxiety, ED, and the key to rebuilding my marriage lies in rebooting my life and reconnecting with my faith.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Antidepressants...
« on: September 17, 2015, 07:32:46 PM »
I think that the antidepressants could help for a while. They make your highs less high and your lows less low which may help you avoid your triggers when you're feeling down.

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Hello I'm new to this site, I just registered. I'm not tech savvy. How do I post a new thread? Also how do I go about getting a counter? Thanks

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