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Porn Addiction / Re: desires
« on: August 28, 2016, 02:48:26 AM »
Stick to it and don't give up. I too have been trying to quit and relapsing for quite a long time now. And yes - porn withdrawal/quitting does cause a lot of low energy and low motivation, being a porn addict and/or recovering addict does cause bad memory as well, it does improve after a while though, however it is best to push the motivation on yourself by getting up and going to do something. Memory also improves and sharpens with healthy living, exercise, avoiding porn and or course, time. Eventually the motivation and energy comes more easily. I find that laying around and being lazy, or depressed and unmotivated just causes even more urges and frustration which always eventually leads to my relapses. So right now I am really forcing myself to do things and stay busy.

When you relapse, try not to binge out on too much porn use. I found out myself just how much of a drop in mood and energy it causes. It's best to catch yourself and stop as soon as you realise you are heading downhill again. And then get back onto the reboot.

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Porn Addiction / Re: From Negative to Positive
« on: August 28, 2016, 02:34:27 AM »
Running

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Yes, thank you Introspect. You're right.

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8radishes: "Weed has always had the exact opposite effect on me (increased motivation in all tasks and social confidence), so I'm conflicted."

Oh nice!, I wish it gave me energy and motivation. It is true that weed affects some people completely differently than others. A friend of mine got so badly mentally affected by it that he developed 'paranoid induced schizophrenia' and started hearing voices, believing crazy delusions and turned completely mad. Whereas some people can smoke weed every day all their lives and it will just make them feel great and energized, hah. Oh, I've just remembered an awesome night I spent with a girl when I was in my teens, I was high on marijuana and it was a great night, my stamina was amazing, it felt great.

Speaking of marijuana, I relapsed on a lot of things recently, including porn and marijuana. Oh dear, oh dear, oh dear. Not good.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Journal: 29 years old, PIED
« on: August 06, 2016, 01:20:25 PM »
Congratulations on turning 30!  ;D

Hope you're well,

Frank

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Ages 30-39 / Re: 2 weeks and counting
« on: August 06, 2016, 01:02:56 PM »
Well done mate, you are doing great. I wish I had the same strong will power as you, and hopefuly I will in time.

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I smoked daily for a few years too. It killed all my motivation. I was a mess. Just laying on the sofa, high on marijuana and watching films or porn all day - waste of a life.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: My Journey
« on: August 05, 2016, 10:04:31 AM »
Don't get upset mate. There's always a bright side to everything. I'm sure there's plenty of things you could be happy about, so think about the good points.  :)

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Ages 30-39 / Re: History of a porn addict - destruction and hope
« on: August 04, 2016, 09:25:34 AM »
Yeah,don't give up now mate. You've done well so far.

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Day 23

Today I've been feeling terrible. When will these torturous urges finally subside  :(

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Journal: 29 years old, PIED
« on: August 03, 2016, 08:22:37 PM »
Hang in there buddy. There are millions of us without a partner, without affection, loving and caring. Just don't let that cause you to relapse. You will meet your woman one day, and I believe it will happen once you are no longer a perverted porn addict - I am in the exact same boat, mate. I am totally alone and I dream of having a woman to be affectionate and loving with, but right now she's not in my life and I am willing to wait.
Take care, brother! Everything is going to be awesome in the future.

Best regards,
Frankie

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Transformation
« on: August 03, 2016, 08:14:48 PM »
Dude, you have a wife, quitting this sick habit should be easy peasy for you. Just quit watching the evil brain killing videos and show more love, respect and affection to your wife. Spend more time with her and minimal time on your computer. Start treating your wife to days out, walks, visits, adventures and excursions - that's what I would do. You are very lucky to have a loving wife. Practice gratitude.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: My Journey
« on: August 02, 2016, 10:58:53 AM »
Thats great, Mr Offaxis. Why don't you and your wife take a weekend break together out in nature, in a caravan maybe, somewhere peaceful. A change of scenery away from the city can do a world of good for someone's mental health.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Transformation
« on: August 01, 2016, 06:13:26 PM »
Set a counter, count the days, go cold-turkey and beat this shit. Stop relapsing so often! quit porn, think about the cognitive benefits and improvements for your life and start writing a recovery journal.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: Wolverine reborn
« on: August 01, 2016, 06:02:29 PM »
Hi Wolverine. How long did you last without porn? What were the main triggers and thoughts that reeled you back into using porn?

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OK, thanks. I will look into those suggestions.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: My Journey
« on: July 30, 2016, 07:16:26 PM »
Yes, I agree, it definately sounds like she is going to have a mental breakdown any day now. I wonder what the other problems that she is going through are, did she tell you? And whatever drugs she is doing, they will make things even worse. What drugs is she doing? if you don't mind me asking.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Junk food?
« on: July 28, 2016, 05:29:24 AM »
Eating too much junk food can end up being just as bad as any other addiction. Nice tasty junk food releases the same chemicals in your brain which you then get addicted to. Although avoiding it completely is also unrealistic because everybody loves a nice ice-cream, pizza, hot-dogs or cakes. A little munch out on junk food can definately improve mood, if you've had a long, depressing and hard day. Just take it in moderation, don't over do it on the junk food. Balance your diet out with plenty of healthy things; fresh veggies and fruits, nuts and legumes  :o

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Porn Addiction / Re: Switching from Porn to Browsing
« on: July 28, 2016, 05:18:31 AM »
Nothing odd about that mate, we're probably all the same, those who are trying to reboot. I spend hours sometimes just sitting on the computer and reading articles and information about rebooting, porn addictions, psychology of addictions, people journals and stories, yourbrainonporn...etc. etc. I find that it actually helps me and gets me more optimisstic and motivated about the whole quitting idea.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: This Time.
« on: July 27, 2016, 07:15:43 PM »
Dude! Stop relapsing, you need to be stronger, don't make excuses to relapse and start again writing more repetitive stuff in your journal. I want to see you beat this, and the whole website is supporting us to get there. Have you thought about getting anti-depressants from the doc? For me, they really help keep the urges at bay. One of the side effects of the ones I'm getting is "reduced libido". And I know for sure that if I was not on the meds then I would have binged out a hundred times by now.

Good luck fellow rebooter, hope all is well.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Journal: 29 years old, PIED
« on: July 27, 2016, 07:09:19 PM »
It is rewiring! Well done 8radishes, keep it going buddy.  :D  Hey you know what you could do to remove the urges and get some fresh air and exercise - Get some roller-blades. Go for a spin round the town or the park for 20 mins. Doing aerobic exercise produces BDNF (Brain-derived neurotrophic factor) and this is the stuff you need flowing round your brain in order for new brain cells and connections to form. Regular aerobic exercise is essential to get the  rewire done quicker and more efficiently.

Good luck, I hope all is well.

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Ages 30-39 / Re: My Journey
« on: July 27, 2016, 07:02:09 PM »
Well done Sir for staying away from the porn so well. Hopefuly everything will start slotting together in the right places and slowly but surely your worries and troubles will be cleared. Also, Manalo made a good point about how your wife has now permanently tainted your relationship and that thought of how disrespectful she has been to you will always be in the back of your mind. Your trust for her will never be the same again, most probably. If I were in your shoes, I would get on them dating websites and go on a few dates.  ;) :-*

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Ages 30-39 / Re: 2 weeks and counting
« on: July 22, 2016, 05:49:12 PM »
Im nearly there too! Just a couple more days and I will hit the 2 week checkpoint as well. Woohoo!  :) Great job guys, well done, you're doing it for the right reasons.   

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Ages 30-39 / Re: History of a porn addict - destruction and hope
« on: July 21, 2016, 04:55:52 AM »
I too have been through similar addictions to prostitutes and porn, because of it I have wasted the majority of my life so far. I wish you the best of luck and I hope you eventually beat this, and in future you'll live a happy family life and have a happy wife. Good luck buddy!

Happy wife - Happy life   :)

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Ages 30-39 / Re: This Time.
« on: July 19, 2016, 12:03:45 PM »
Keep going buddy, it's just a little setback, we all get them. Main thing to avoid is letting this setback pull you down and cause you to be unhappy. Next time you will be successful.

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