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I suggest you stop "testing" your erection for about a month. Tell your wife that you need a complete time-out from all intercourse attempts.

I suspect your issue is that you are rushing your sexual performance. Stop. Wait for your erection to return in full, naturally.

You'll be fine. Give her this page:

All the best.

If you need to persuade your friends, this could be a good way to do it.

"4 Warning Signs: Is Your Porn Use a Problem?"

What do you skeptics make of this one?

Have you visited these two pages and searched for "PIED?"

I don't want your money, but I do hope you'll stop trying to fool yourself that this phenomenon isn't real or that people don't heal from it regularly. Evidence of both show up in the research too. Start here:

All the best!

Success Stories / Re: YES SIR!
« on: November 17, 2017, 10:31:30 AM »
Thanks. Congrats on your progress.

Success Stories / Re: YES SIR!
« on: November 16, 2017, 07:14:48 PM »
How old are you? Any other benefits? How long have you been experimenting with this?

Porn Addiction / Podcast on Porn Addiction and PIED (with Gary Wilson)
« on: November 05, 2017, 12:43:54 PM »
"Porn Addiction: Dopamine, Disgust, and Erectile Dysfunction"

Porn Addiction: Dopamine, Disgust, and Erectile Dysfunction


A new study makes a lot of the same points about the "perceived addiction" claims as Gary has.

"Do Cyber Pornography Use Inventory-9 Scores Reflect Actual Compulsivity in Internet Pornography Use? Exploring the Role of Abstinence Effort": Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: (

Gary's write-up about it: "Study invalidates the CPUI-9 as an instrument to assess either “perceived pornography addiction” or actual pornography addiction" | Your Brain On Porn (

Well done. Thanks for sharing. How old are you? Any other benefits?


Sorry you're struggling with anxiety at the moment. I think you should consider revising your goals so you ease your distress around sex. The sooner you make friendly contact with potential partners, the more relaxed you will feel.

Standard advice for anyone with sexual performance anxiety is to take all performance pressure off of yourself at first when you're with a partner. Just tell the person you want to go slowly and get to know them (for a month even). Any kind of affectionate touch and kissing is beneficial for you both, but don't try to have intercourse or even receive oral sex until you feel completely ready.

There's no rush, and the easy, relaxed contact is very good preparation for enjoyable sex. This page may have useful tips for your partner:

I think it's also good to tell a prospective partner what you've been experimenting with (rebooting). Most will be very sympathetic...and impressed.

You'll be fine. All the best.

Success Stories / MOVED: i liked this one
« on: June 06, 2017, 03:15:02 PM »

Have you watched this video? "Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction,” (on YourBrainOnPorn website)

Great post. Keep your courage up. Also, the Green Crescent, a charitable organization in Turkey, understands that internet can be addictive. Last year, they invited Gary Wilson to give a talk at a large international conference on internet addiction (including problematic porn use), and their addiction journal published a peer-reviewed paper by Wilson:

I mention this because the Green Crescent has resources to help you if you need additional support. Check them out.

All the best!

Porn Addiction / Re: I'm Sorry
« on: May 12, 2017, 10:36:27 AM »
Hey, better late than never. Thanks for explaining your actions. Hope your health problem is nothing serious.

Humans generally seem to learn important lessons the hard way, so lighten up on yourself.

If you're in the UK and you need a good recovery coach, try Mark Drax.

Success Stories / Re: success story and questions
« on: March 26, 2017, 11:34:55 AM »
Did you go back to porn fetish fantasy when you were masturbating once a week between relationships? If so, I think the porn influence could be the issue for you. Train your sexuality for what you want to engage in later in your life. If you want to respond to real people, train your arousal to real people...or at least your imagination of real people...not "remembering (fetish) porn" that seldom matches real life.

Be consistent, because it gets tougher to retrain your brain as you age.

BTW, these kinds of problems are very common in today's porn users. You may find this article interesting:

How old are you, by the way?

Finally, some people are just more sensitive to the fallout from too much ejaculation. This can be affected by stress and other factors. You may find this page interesting too: If you think this might be your issue, experiment with another approach to sex with your partner for a while:

Success Stories / Re: 80 days...
« on: March 26, 2017, 10:15:21 AM »
Great to read this. Have you and your wife considered experimenting with karezza? I ask because it may find it stops the mood swings you're still experiencing sometimes. If you're interested, here are two links:

Sorry you're hurting. If you're interested in reading others' withdrawal stories:

Try getting an accountability buddy or check out this guy's site:, or a support group IRL for porn addiction. You'll be fine. Just don't give up.

You seem to know this, but research shows that all of these things help return your brain to healthy balance: exercise, meditation, time in nature, socializing, staying offline, and beneficial stressors like cold showers or intermittent fasting. Have you watched this vid? "Your Brain On Porn: How Internet porn affects the brain" YourBrainOnPorn website is good too.

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