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Ages 20-29 / Re: Help me out!
« on: December 02, 2016, 12:17:31 PM »
Thank you bingo_69. Thanks for your words of encouragement.

Ages 20-29 / Help me out!
« on: December 02, 2016, 11:09:14 AM »
Well, it's very hard to tell about my life. Long story short: I was raped when I was 9 and I had sex a couple of times until I was 14. Then I become religious and made a commitment to keep the law of chastity since I was 15. Unfortunately, I started M'ing at 13 and watching P at 22-23 until now that I'm 29.
Even though I might have got HOCD, I don't consider myself as a gay. Think I couldn't heal some scars from my childhood.
My currently big trial is that my cousins or some friends make some jokes about my sexuality. Despite I haven't had sex with anyone for years and I live a moderate life without alcohol, drugs, sex and stuff but  they have been very judgmental with me. It makes me feel very uncomfortable because I had to deal with my pass alone, they don't know how terrible a person can feel about being raped. I wish I couldn't learnt about sex that way. However, there is nothing that I can do.
Something that breaks my heart is the lack of respect my relatives have got for me because I don't treat anyone really bad and I wouldn't make any joke about sexuality. I decided to stay away from all those judgmental people.
My usage of P feeds my HOCD, but inside of me I have got hope that some day I will overcome those weaknesses and I will marry a woman and have children. I know I need to pull my socks up and avoid all the things that lead me to PMO.
I feel very disappointed about my relatives and some friends. I have to admit PMO did destroy most of my plans and the strength to fight day after day. I do need some encouragement. I've read some good stories and met some amazing brothers here...
If you've got some advices or comments I'd be thankful to hear them.

As you help others and share from your own experience you can realice you are strong person and you've got a progress.
When you help others you forget being stuck in your own problems and you want to take care others.
Stay strong!
Let me know if I can do anything for you.

Porn Addiction / 'The Plague of Pornography' Elder Holland
« on: March 16, 2016, 11:00:41 AM »
Hey guys, a good friend of mine from my church shared with me this article about Pornography, please take a look at it!

Pornography “ought to be seen like a public health crisis; like a war; like an infectious, fatal epidemic; like a moral plague on the body politic that is maiming the lives of our citizens,” Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles said in his keynote address at the Utah Coalition Against Pornography’s 14th annual conference on March 12. Over 2,700 people attended the day-long conference in the Salt Palace in Salt Lake City.

“I can’t tell you, really, much you don’t already know about the evils of pornography,” Elder Holland said. “I’ll tell you that pornography is steadily, inexorably, unendingly, that there is more of it, that it’s easier for everyone, including children, to access, and that it continues to rend the very moral fabric of our society whether that be the family, or the community, or the very state or the nation. That is because in every case, it rends the moral fabric of the individual.”

He cited a major study by the Barna Group, entitled “The Porn Phenomenon,” to be released next month. It found that not only has the topic lost much of its taboo status in popular culture, but the attitudes of younger generations have shifted toward neutral or positive views of pornography, he said. “It is reported that 89 percent of teens and 95 percent of young adults regularly have either ‘encouraging’ or ‘accepting’ conversations with their peers about pornography use,” Elder Holland said. “That means that of those interviewed only 1 in 20 young adults and only 1 in 10 teens say they and their friends think viewing pornography is a bad thing.”

While pornography use accessibility has grown significantly in the last decade, measures taken to fight its spread have already taken effect. For instance, the Utah Legislature passed a resolution declaring pornography a public health crisis on March 11 — the first state to do so. This resolution reflects the call issued by the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops when they released “Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography” in November of 2015.

“These good bishops declared the exponential growth of the pornography industry … bordering on a ‘public health crisis,’” Elder Holland said. This position parallels his own views he said. “[No] real headway can or will be made in this battle until there is a much deeper, much broader, and frankly much more fearful concern about the actual threat of pornography than we presently see in society in general.”

Like any other pandemic infection, pornography “needs to be eradicated,” Elder Holland said.

He declared that the pornography industry in all its forms is directly in opposition to the commandments of the Savior when He taught in the Sermon on the Mount, “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery ... in his heart” (Matthew 5:27-28).

“Catholic bishops, Protestant ministers, Jewish rabbis and Muslim mullahs have all spoken out on this sin because God Himself has spoken out on it. Yes, heaven abhors this practice,” Elder Holland said. “In this work, in this conference, we are on the side of the angels.”

Because members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints believe that “the spirit and the body are the soul of man” (Doctrine and Covenants 88:15), “One cannot exploit the body without damaging the spirit because these two are inseparably connected in every man, woman and child,” Elder Holland said.

For those struggling with pornography, Elder Holland shared an acronym that he often gives to those who come to him for advice. He would tell them to “hold FAST.”

F is for ‘flee.’ Elder Holland said, “My first admonition to anyone struggling with pornography is to leave the scene of the crime.” This can be difficult with the omnipresence of filth, but “we must try to get each other out of harm’s way,” he said.

A is for ‘ask.’ Too many who struggle with an addiction won’t ask for help or acknowledge that they have a problem, Elder Holland said. But they need to ask for help from someone trustworthy. “Above all I would have a person struggling with pornography ask God for help, pleading for the mercy and grace of the Almighty to aid him or her in this difficult task,” Elder Holland said. “I would ask and ask until my throat was hoarse. I would knock and knock until my knuckles were bloody.”

S is for ‘strive.’ “Related to the tenacity of asking for help is striving constantly to win this battle once the help comes,” Elder Holland said. “It may take days, it may take years, it may take much of a lifetime, but I believe in the reward of persistent effort.”

T is for ‘triumph.’ In order to win a struggle of any kind, a person must believe that victory is possible, Elder Holland said. “They need to have and to keep that hope always — to believe they can be victorious in this battle, that they can conquer this implacable foe. We are the ones to give those people that confidence. We are the ones to give them hope.”

In closing, Elder Holland testified, “I have deep, personal feelings and gratitude for the atoning sacrifice of the Lord Jesus Christ and the power of His redemption. I declare that force, that pull, that saving grace to be infinite and eternal in its reach, a force and a grace that will save us from all kinds of bondage and lift all kinds of burdens if we but permit it, if we but seek it, and allow it into our lives.”

Ages 30-39 / Re: Restart..again
« on: March 16, 2016, 12:35:09 AM »
Hey Jasongrid,

I want to share something with you: A  real recovery isn't established by quantity, the quality of your recovery it's the most important thing.
You are doing good,

I know you are doing good man! If you M'd it's okay, but please be aware of the chaser effect and don't let those small things get bigger. Keep doing the hard mode, no matter if you didn't wrong in the past just keep fighting.
Remember this quote: "we are not responsible for our disease, but we are responsible for our recovery".

We can do it!

If you feel the effects of Porn addiction you need to quit PMO asap. If you can deal with it its up to you

Porn Addiction / Re: question for successful rebooters
« on: March 08, 2016, 10:24:20 PM »
You should visit the doctor. Are you doing the hard mode?

Porn Addiction / Depressed and frustrated
« on: March 08, 2016, 04:11:18 PM »
Today I had a job interview, and it was horrible. The interviewer told my that I was very nervous and that doesn't help me to qualify to this job position.  To be honest I've been going to different job interviews throughout this year. But nothing happens! I get nervous but it didn't mean that I'm not good. I used to PMO when things weren't right, but not today.
I'm just having bad thoughts because in some way I'm desperate because I can't find a job related to my studies. I've studied Systems Engineering - Computer Science already, but I forgot l about programming.
I'm 28 and as I was saying many things are running into my head. I don't know what to do with my life. I just had suicide thoughts once, but that's not gonna happen because I know what is my value as a person. I had some thoughts like selling myself for money or stuff like that. I haven't done it. I don't even had sex in 13 years. I think it's because I watched some scenes where people offers more money if you do what they want. Or just my PMO addiction.
I feel very frustrated, if you know some ways to earn money from home. I'd be glad if you guys let me know.
I really want to study to obtain another degree (related with computer science) in order to master the skills that I need to learn. But if I don't work I don't know what to do with my living expenses.
There are always bad ways like robbery, prostitution, and other things. I just want to do the right things, overcome PMO, obtain the stability that I need, then get married and have my own family and find happiness in this life.

Porn Addiction / Re: hispano-parlantes
« on: March 07, 2016, 01:57:29 AM »
He estado buscando con respecto a esto, pero no hay nada concreto. Sólo wikihow o cosas similares. Pero nada como estos sitios en Inglés.

Porn Addiction / I was very close to relapse today.
« on: March 04, 2016, 01:02:14 AM »
I relapsed on Monday, I didn't know what happened at first but a friend of mine told me there was a lack of something. He was completely right! I realised in that morning I was looking for a song that I heard on a Porn video. I thought it wasn't harmful but finally it was very harmful. I was checking my e-mail and trying to do homework I went unconsciously to the same page I saw that P video, and then I PMO'd.
Today I was getting home and I couldn't stop thinking about the word: Goddammit! (I watched a person saying that on a P video reaching O this Monday) and I wanted to PMO so bad, but I found some help thanks to this website.
I swear, I was very close to go to a porn website, but I didn't. I was fighting to myself all the way to home, but nothing was stronger than feeling supported.
Now I'm heading to bed feeling better than a couple hours ago. I think if I don't change my mind and my heart now, it will be more difficult do it later.

Ages 20-29 / Re: I should have done this a long time ago
« on: March 04, 2016, 12:41:40 AM »
You are doing great obknoxious! Never stop fighting. As you stop watching Porn your performance will be better.
Let me know if I can help you in some way! We can do it!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Hello Numez / My Journal
« on: March 04, 2016, 12:38:42 AM »
Hey bro!
How have you been? I saw you relapsed, I did it too! But I wanted to tell you that I saw how strong you were! Nothing changed! You can still doing great. I found this website helpful even when I'm not perfect I know I can find the encourage that I need it to keep fighting!
We can do it

Ages 30-39 / Re: first reboot, 32yo, 100 days, 2-22 - 5-1
« on: February 29, 2016, 03:26:12 PM »
Hey man! If you need some help or partner just let me know. Looking forward to help you!
Stay strong.

Porn Addiction / Re: Day 2 of no fapping challege
« on: February 29, 2016, 11:10:32 AM »
I had the same thought but it's possible man! You need to keep fighting day by day!

Ages 20-29 / Re: I want to stop . To have a better life
« on: February 27, 2016, 10:46:46 PM »
Hey! You are not alone! We are here to help you! Message me if you need for help!
Stay strong

Porn Addiction / Urges to masturbate
« on: February 27, 2016, 09:04:07 AM »
I am a person who makes lots of mistakes. And sometimes forgets what should do to stay away from PMO.
My mind wanted to masturbate and my body had urges to satisfy its needs. Yesterday I felt urges to MO so bad, but I was talking to my mentor about what's going on. He encouraged me to keep reading my NA book and do the work steps. At the end of the conversation I felt the impression to prayer and express my feelings, all those bad thoughts, even my erections went away.
I am very thankful for having a mentor and partner, he is a good guy and I ask God to bless him on his progress.
Religious or not, I found prayers as a good tool to resist and get rid of PMO in order to be healed.
Stay strong

Porn Addiction / Re: Anxiety during reboot?
« on: February 27, 2016, 01:07:30 AM »
Thanks for your works of encourage!
We can do it!

Porn Addiction / Re: Anxiety during reboot?
« on: February 27, 2016, 12:44:44 AM »

Hey bro!
You need to move forward! As you change your mind and heart you will be porn free!
We are here because we want to improve our lives!
Stay strong!

Ages 20-29 / Re: I am thankful
« on: February 26, 2016, 05:24:17 PM »
Being grateful help us to live better and enjoy life!
Best of luck!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Going crazy
« on: February 26, 2016, 10:46:32 AM »
You're welcome!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Going crazy
« on: February 25, 2016, 07:46:04 PM »
I'm not happysad but I can ask your question. Just click his PMO tracker and then you'll have to sign in with a Google account , copy the link, and finally on your profile edit you personal message and past the link of your PMO tracker.
Good luck!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Going crazy
« on: February 25, 2016, 02:10:25 PM »
Things are getting better since I stopped PMOing or MOing. I'm feeling better now, but not completely healed. I haven't big triggers neither urges, except in this morning I had some thoughts like: What if I masturbate for a little bit just to feel good? or What if I take a look a Tumblr porn page? But then, I told myself: What the heck are you doing man?!!! Recovering takes lots of effort but it's worth it. 
I'm becoming an addicted from RebootNation. Just want to read and post all the freaking day haha. Well it's better than MOing or PMOing. Isn't it?

Ages 20-29 / Re: My story and my Journal (HardMode!)
« on: February 25, 2016, 02:02:15 PM »
Hey vamp2613. It's been a while since I read a post from you. If you have free time you should write a little bit in order to hear from you and help one another.
I hope you are doing great! I found a lot of motivation talking to you. That's why I encourage you not to stop posting here!
Take care buddy!

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