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Ages 20-29 / I almost had a relapse yesterday...
« on: May 07, 2015, 08:22:14 AM »
  Yesterday I had a very stressful day. I have a small business with my brother and an inspector from the goverment came.  It took them 8 hours to check everything. God that is long... Nothing major came out of it, but it was pretty stressful anyway.

  That night I surfed the web for a little bit and I felt compeled to watch a twerking video. I wanted badly to see half naked, youngs women move their rounds, tights, sexy butts around, and the temptation was so strong that I did watch about 1 minute of a twerking group dance.

  I knew that this was a dangerous trigger for porn, so I focused myself and closed all internet tab. Afterward I took a pen and a piece of paper to write my toughts and understand what was going on. These past two months I was almost temptation free, so what happened today? I realized that the answer was simple, it was the stress that I experienced that caused this urge to look at porn.

  I was surprised... why did I not see that sooner... It was so obvious... I consider this an important lesson, because even if you are prepared, when surrounded by stress and to much emotions you forget everything and it is easy to fall back into porn. Before you know it, you find yourself there.

  I'm glad I did not have a relapse and I will be careful for the next time. 

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Pinky vs. the Reptilian Brain
« on: May 03, 2015, 03:52:33 PM »
Exactly! Hypnotherapy's process begin slowly, at the beginning you hardly notice the change, but after some time and repetition you defenitly see the impact of it. Because of popular show, hypnosis is almost seen as magic. Some sees it as a medical treatment, but it really is a simple thing and it can be use in self-improvement. The two things you need to get the benefices from hypnotherapy are :

-1 Want to change, work on yourself, or wathever you call it.
-2 Being able to relax, the more you can the better.

Your subconscious + any effectives sessions, will do the rest.


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Ages 20-29 / in my case, porn is part of a ''computer addiction''
« on: May 03, 2015, 09:51:08 AM »
  A couple of months ago, I checked a book on addictions and I was mind-blowned. I learned that the same patterns happen in every single addictions, and I quickly made the connections in my life...

  I checked a lot of post here on reboot nation, and I realized that a lot of people had way more symptoms than me. Before my porn abstinence, I still had regular sex, but my erections were weakers. It took me one month, in wich I had some relapses, to get back to normal, with hard as rock erections.

  My conclusion is that I have a mild addiction to porn, but also a mild addiction to gaming, and a mild addiciton to facebook, and to manga, and even to surfing on the web. All of that created my ''computer addiction''.

  For example, before I started to work on myself, when I had a stressful week, you can be sure that I would play video game, watch manga, look at porn, go on facebook / youtube, and lose all my weekend. This is an addiction pattern. To forget, to ''heal'' my stressful week, I would indulge in easy dopamine that came from the computer. I started my abstinence with porn (5 months ago) because it affected the hardness of my erections, the priority was there! I also started my gaming abstinence in april, and so far so good.

  To help myself I used hypnotherapy. It seriously helped the process of quitting porn and gaming. I use a session that is called ''transformation intérieure'' (french) wich translate to inner transformation. If you are opened minded and want to try it out, it defenitly pay off.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Pinky vs. the Reptilian Brain
« on: May 03, 2015, 09:36:07 AM »
  I was thinking about porn addiction and I came to the conclusion that it was part of a bigger addiction, at least for my case. For me, porn addiction is part of what I call the ''computer addiction'', and I want to overcome it all.

  A couple of months ago, I checked a book on addictions and I was mind-blowned. The same patterns happen in every single addictions. For example, before I started to work on myself, when I had a stressful week, you can be sure that I would play video game, watch manga, look at porn, go on facebook / youtube, and lose all my weekend. This is an addiction pattern. To forget, to ''heal'' my stressful week, I would indulge in easy dopamine witch came from the computer. I started my abstinence with porn because it affected the hardness of my erections, the priority was there! I also started my gaming abstinence in april, and so far so good.

  To help myself I used hypnotherapy. It seriously helped the process of quitting porn and gaming. I use a session that is called ''transformation intérieure'' (french) witch translate to inner transformation. If you are opened minded and want to try it out, it defenitly pay off.

  Keep going to free your mind!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: manga / anime = porn???
« on: April 24, 2015, 09:14:52 AM »
  I have been thinking a lot, I did some rechearch these past few days and I found two alternatives. I found that the korean manga, also called manhwa, do not focus on the woman body like their japenese counterpart. They have more serious and realistic drawing, wich is good. They have a few genres that I will stay away from, but the rest will be okay. Seriously, in comparison to the japenese manga, the women the Korean artist draw seem plain (that is to be expected when you compare them to overly exagerated women features).

  The second alternative that I found is lightnovel. At lot manga/manhwa are based on lightnovel, so I can find the same stories that I like in manga. Since I already like to read, I will eventually be able to stop manga and switch to them. There are no images in lightnovels, so it will not affect my porn addiction recovery and I think it is the best solution. When my porn addiction recovery will be complete, I will tackle this manga addiction and be done with it.

  Thank you for your advices guys! You have been a grat help and I appreciate it  :)

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Ages 20-29 / Re: 4 month abstinence, almost!
« on: April 22, 2015, 10:51:48 PM »
  I totally understand what you mean. Man... The last time I had a relapse I only felt guilt and emptiness afterward... Porn really is junk... The problem is that addiction are easy to get and hard to lose. Life would be better if that was not the case. Anyways...
 
  77 days is awesome, keep going you have my support bro!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: manga / anime = porn???
« on: April 22, 2015, 10:43:23 PM »
  Maybe I did not explain myself as I wanted to. What I meant when I said that manga is an addiction of mine, is that I simply read too much manga. It is the same as a video game addiction, a TV addiction or a facebook addiction. I don't read manga to look at the ''chicks'', but since they are there, I was thinking that it could harm my recovery.

  For exemple, before my abstinence, when I went on facebook and saw pics of random hot babes (that are there simply because of random publicity), that would sometime be a trigger that made me crave porn. But stopping my use of facebook because of random pics is a bit much, so I still use it. But now I know that this trigger is there, so I ignore those pics and keep busy on other things.

  For the manga topic, I did look at some hentai, but I prefered mostly real porn. My fetish was to look at creampies compilations... Over and over... I searched for hentai only once in a while, 1 time out of 10 maybe. I completly stopped japenese hentai at the beginnning of my abstinence and it was way easier to stop than regular porn...

  When I read a manga, it is for the story first. But since the majority of the artists put great care on emphasing the woman body, I am aware that it can arm my porn addiction recovery. Stopping manga would seem logical to prevent a porn relapse, but isn't stopping two differents addictions at the same time too much?

  To explain clearly what I mean, here is a last exemple: Should a smoker and gambler stop both smoking and gambling at the same time? He used to smoke while gambling, so smoking can be a trigger for his gambling addiction. What should he do? Stop both at the same time or one at a time?

   

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Ages 20-29 / Re: manga / anime = porn???
« on: April 22, 2015, 07:08:20 PM »
  I just got an other question! Nudity in manga count as porn, but even manga without nudity will count as porn (probably). I say that because even in manga for teens or kids they often focus on the big boobs and butt of the females characters... It is like a tease, or perhap even a trigger that lead to porn?

Do you guys completly avoid manga / anime for the sake of your abstinence?

  That is gonna be hard for me because I consider the manga as a completly different addiction. I want to tackle it when I'm done with porn addiction. Stopping two addictions at the same time is pretty hard... I don't know if I should do that. Maybe I should restrict my manga ''use'' to the few genres that contain the least emphasis on the women body?

  Thank to all of you who take the time to share your opinions  :)

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Ages 20-29 / Re: manga / anime = porn???
« on: April 22, 2015, 06:54:15 PM »
So I guess it count as porn. Even if it is lower, it is a sexual stimulation that come from the computer... It is a shame because I like the ''gore'' type of manga. I have a preference for the darker stories and also for the psychologicals twists that come with the genre. It is a shame that the majority of those manga contain nudity.

  Thank you for your honest answers, I will do my best to stay away from those images.


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Ages 20-29 / Re: Hello, new to the site
« on: April 21, 2015, 08:22:54 PM »
Yo!

  I'm knew to the site too and I'm 25. I saw your post and I wanted to wish you good luck bro! Calling you bro since we are both new here and close in age!  :P
Porn addiction is hard to deal with so don't give up. You have my support bro.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journey to a successful reboot
« on: April 21, 2015, 08:18:23 PM »
Don't have a clue what sexual transmutation is, but I wish you good luck bro!

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Ages 20-29 / manga / anime = porn???
« on: April 21, 2015, 08:02:15 PM »
I have a question for all of you guys.

   First, I want to mention that while I stopped porn use complety four month ago, I still masturbate regularly (I do it while thinking about real women). I had weaker erection when I was using porn, but I still had regular sex... but now that I stopped, I am always rock hard for my partner. I truly think that I was no more than mildly addict, so I did not need to stop masturbation to regain my ''mojo''. I got back my ''hardness'' pretty fast when I think about it (my first month of abstinence pretty much gave me back all of my ''mojo'', even while having 2-3 relapses).

   That lead me to a troublesome question I have been asking myself for a couple of days... The other day, I watched an anime (Japenese cartoon) that contained ''fan service'', or nudity for those who don't know the term. I want to mention that while it contained some nudity, it is not classified as ''hentai'' or porn (did not contain any sex scene).

   That night when I got to bed, I decided to jerk off as usual, but the only thing I could think of was those nudity scenes... Because of that I decided not to masturbate. This made me think... If those ''fan service'' scenes invades my thought, then is it considered as porn? I want to specify that I do not masturbate while looking at the screen, I only do so in my bed when the computer is closed. The problem is that those scene of nudity were stuck in my head when I got to bed. 

   I want your opinions on that topic and would greatly appreciate your answers!   :)

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Ages 20-29 / 4 month abstinence, almost!
« on: April 19, 2015, 08:56:32 PM »
   First, this is awesome. Hundred of peoples talking about a common problem and trying to solve it, is inspiring. Now that this out of the way, I want talk about my own experience of porn addiction and share my thougts.

   About me, I am a 25 years old guy and I live in Québec (Canada), wich mean I speak french! Don't be too severe with my english  :P

   I started watching porn as a young teen. At home, we had a ''computer room'' with three computers (we are a family of five children) and sometime I would play video game very late. When I was sure that the rest of the family was asleep, I would jerk off to porn. Man... that was freaking stupid and risky... I almost got caught by one of my brother once... Hopefully I was not... Anyways. I could not watch porn everydays because of this, but that changed when I bought my own computer and installed it in my room. From that days, I would jerk off to porn every day. 

   I had a girlfriend in high school, but it did not last very long. I got the computer after this short relationship. With this new addictive friend, three years passed and I had no girlfriend. But then I got a girl. It was at a party. I was proud and excited because she was five years older than me. We had sex on our first date and it went well. I had trouble keeping an erection at the beginning, but she was patient and we had great sex.

   After my relationship with her I got a few girls and I am still with one of them today. The problem is I always had weak erection at the beginning of intercourse. Sometime I would get soft while doing it. I was angry, what the hell was the problem! So I consulted a sexologist, but it did not help. I did some rechearch and I found out about porn addiction here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

   I was mind-blowned... How could this be... Addiction are everywhere, I though to myself (My father was a gambling addict...). There are even addiction in my fucking computer... So, I stopped watching porn four months ago. GOD IT IS HARD! The hell... I never thought that it could be this hard to stop watching porn! I had some relapses and now it has been one month since my last. I hope I won't have more.

   I also had two dreams where I was jerking off to porn. It is funny because I read earlier a story of a guy who had the same type of dream... After so much use ours brains must be trying to process all that junk.

   Since I have stopped porn I always have rock hard erections. My sensibility as increased and it is harder to last long. I can last as long as before, but I have to put more effort into it. I even have stronger orgasm man! Stopping porn really did a big difference.

   Fighting this addiction is not easy and I wish all of you good luck!

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