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Ages 40 and up / Re: 45 and up until yesterday had no idea!?
« on: January 19, 2016, 09:06:23 PM »
Good to have you here bud.  I'll second the letting her know.  I advocate it rather strongly and it helps.  Communication is typically one of our collective weak spots, though you might be better compared to the average.   It won't hurt her more than a dick failure in bed.  I recently had a very good run without the pmo but faltered due tona reduction in simple communication.   It takes about 2 weeks before you start to come alive and a good month in the world changes. 

Keep at it bud,  nothing but good time ahead.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Yes I Can!
« on: January 18, 2016, 10:28:45 PM »
So glad to read those points Bob.  I had a hella run but funked up a little with the stress of life.  It's a funny game this but I'm glad to leach some inspiration from the good guys here.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Yes I Can!
« on: October 31, 2015, 11:34:14 PM »
You are a good man bob. 

Ages 40 and up / Re: 26 yr porn addiction stops now
« on: October 24, 2015, 08:06:58 PM »
The wife, single most defining difference between success and not.  It's just as simple as "fuck me hunny but I've let this getnoutnof control, I'm embarrassed that I can't handle it and I need help.  I feel horrible that I haven't been able to act like the man I am and I need to confess."  It will change everything, for the better if you do it after this action.

Ages 40 and up / Re: 26 yr porn addiction stops now
« on: October 21, 2015, 09:32:50 PM »

Ages 40 and up / Re: 26 yr porn addiction stops now
« on: October 21, 2015, 09:32:13 PM »
I don't post as often as I once did but welcome to the club.  People do care but the struggle is yours to own,  sadly.  I feel that you have a good handle on the situation.   We all have slip ups as you did but what one does after defines what the results will be, you sound like it will be fine.  Be a caveman and crush it. 

Read this link, I do often and it helps to keep me mentally focused 

Time and stay away from masturbation.   Sucks but that is what you need to fix it and nothing else will work.  It helps to get more real sexual events but really it's just time away from the old hand.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Want to get my Internet under control
« on: October 01, 2015, 08:08:51 PM »
Sadly I can't help you out.  If you think it's something questionable this is a hint that you might want to drop it.  While I never felt I had a issue it wasn't until I had a issue that it became one... it both crept up sneakily and hit me harder than I expected.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Pornfree
« on: September 24, 2015, 10:22:59 PM »
All of that low feeling is a indication that you are doing the correct program.   I went through the exact phase at roughly the same timeline so just push through.   It will pass in a week or so, no worries. 

Progress is clearly at hand.

Ages 40 and up / Re: Captain's log
« on: September 24, 2015, 01:29:32 PM »
Hello Captain!

I'll agree with everything the ther guys have said and will add telling your wife will drop alot of the shame you currently feel.  It was the best move I made and kept me accountable to her. 

You can do this if you want to and we all will be happy to see you win this.

At the ripe age of 16 you should be doing everything with women except jerking off.  My wife would probably add don't be selfish and make sure she enjoys it also.  Have fun!

Ages 40 and up / Re: fell off the wagon and am pissed at myself!
« on: September 22, 2015, 08:17:15 PM »
Slips happen.  So you have gone three days without running off to the big fap, that is something right?  When was the last time this happened?   What made you slip and what could have helped to stop it?   It is better to view this as a progressive decline.  Sure it would be great to go cold turkey and some people are able to do this but this is really about a long term change.  Small steps make for big journeys.   It is good to not slip but it is better to continue onwards.

A month or more is needed before you start to see improvements.  I don't think there is anything wrong with having sex but time will help. 

Strip club is a bad idea I'd say unless your woman is going along and you get a nice hummer after but still probably a bad idea.

I'd stay away.  How did you meet this girl and, not to cause trouble, what will you do if this has been a scam to catch you whacking to a camera? 

If you are in the situation such that you have beautiful friends with benefits kicking around great but if you want to move tonthe real next step it's time to date and meet real meaningful relationships.  Fucking random women is nice but having deep satisfaction is far better, you don't have great sex with a one night stand it takes time.

Looking and drooling is the fine line.  It's clear that you have dropped pmo, have you done the same with M?  If you are 100+ days in without a fap it's time to get outside into the world of trying to land a date.  Remember you are the guy who isn't jerking off, you are the exception compared to the rest of the other guys.  You are capable, go get it bud.

You move on from that mistake.  We have all looked or clicked on something which we shouldn't have but what you do next is the question.   Close the window, click more or jerk off right then.  Or do you make a mental note of what happened with which to make a change.

You are 30 days without porn that's great.  Have you started to reduce or stop masturbation, hit the gym or something else self satisfying.  Talk with that big booty woman and find out her name and something interesting about her, she is more than a piece of ass.  Till you stop seeing her/women as tits, ass and flesh you will be that awkward guy.  When you are cool they will want to be along side so be cool.   

Success Stories / Re: I did it, 14 months, finally a success story.
« on: September 20, 2015, 12:20:48 PM »
Good job bud!   It's great to read of a young guy doing this well, make us proud

Ages 40 and up / Re: Freedom From Porn Forever
« on: September 19, 2015, 09:08:38 PM »
When you make the real decision to remove this stuff from your life you will be ome the man you wish to be. Like Bob said you need to have information on hand for what to expect.   Read the success stories and gain strength.  This is achievable when you allow it but not till you say it is ok.

Glad you are here and I look forward to reading about the transformation.

I think the consensus would be no... and now that you have your answer this thread can likely be removed.
Now I am not trying to start a war or something, by why all the negative posts? What would the point of closing the thread be?

The tone of the op sounded like a trolling.   I'm happy it's not but one can see how it might be misleading to some.

My life was deeply changed by PMO, social anxiety had finally developed into heavy brain fog and low energy, no motivation etc... Until finally I find the concept of no fap. I feel like a zombie after I develop social anxiety in late 2013. I quit PMO in April 2015. As the challenge went from day zero to day 120 (today). I don't really see any benefits that I want to have. I mean, even goes for four full months, my energy has not back to normal, I get brain fog from time to time, I do not have motivation to engage in daily activities... The benefits I got are, mental clarity seems gets a somewhat clearer and I see 50% morning woods from time to time.

So this is why I searched many information from different people. I accidentally had a fap when I was 7 years old, and I start regular (about once a week) fap habit at high school. My case is similar to gabe deem, who start to fap at 8 years old. He took 9 months to recover. So I am assuming that I will need 9 months as well. But the point is, though this process is not linear, how can I guarantee that brain fog, low energy and no motivation would disappear after around 9 months? How about the case for you? You have been doing no fap for 6 months, do you get general improvement in these symptoms?? Thank you for replying!

Do you hit the gym or do something which improves your health?  Are you in good shape otherwise?   I highly recommend working out for the added benefits it gives on top of the nofap.

Ages 40 and up / Re: My 569GB of Porn..Going Going Gone!!
« on: September 18, 2015, 01:10:04 PM »

I share this alot.  It wasn't written by myself, but it shares the hard mentality I took to getting over porn use. 

Ages 40 and up / Re: My 569GB of Porn..Going Going Gone!!
« on: September 18, 2015, 12:46:09 PM »
You can do this.  Slow and steady wins the race.

What cam said.  This just plain won't work without dropping the big M.  The therapist is wrong but none of us here are trained, still there is a overwhelming amount of guys who all say the same thing.  You could dismiss it if there aas some direct correlation between us all but there would appear this can't be the case.  This is almost the perfect blind study, random people on the net all doing different things but coming to the same results.

(I have had many girls trying).

I had sympathy till this sentence  8)  still I'm glad to see you finding positive results.  I'm not cut so I can't speak to this specific issue yet it's hard not to think that a reduction in hard masturbating won't help.

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