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Porn Addiction / Re: Starting a journal
« on: February 09, 2017, 08:12:04 AM »
Hey Stowe, my main counter, and also where I keep a journal of thoughts and urges, is on the NF Companion app. Couldn't get by without it, download it and hopefully it'll be what you're looking for.
Best of luck pal!!!

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Porn Addiction / Re: Non porn internet use hindrance to reboot?
« on: February 09, 2017, 08:10:46 AM »
Hey Matt, not really sure what you're getting at. But I would say should you need to use the internet for any reason (other than porn obviously) then just got to that precise website, look at that precise product and nothing else. Don't be swayed by temptation. I can see where you're coming from with regards to porn as I used to search and search for the right clip to "finish on"and you're right, it can take hours maybe. But being more assertive and decisive when it comes to your internet usage will make a big difference.
Sending you positive thoughts buddy!!!

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Porn Addiction / Re: Dating during reboot?
« on: February 04, 2017, 06:00:46 AM »
It's your call man, depends what your main goal is. Are you doing "Hard Mode" or just abstaining from masturbating on your own or to porn?
My personal goal is to stay away from porn and masturbation on my own. I definitely want to date girls and if sex is part of that then I believe thats a healthy thing between two people. It's all a personal preference dude, but if you're not "feeling it" at the moment then maybe it is a bit early.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Time to start again.....
« on: February 04, 2017, 05:56:14 AM »
My aim is definitely to stop watching P and MO by myself. I am at present chatting with a girl on Whatsapp, but everything is non-sexual (yes there's flirting, but I am aware of my triggers and my limits). If I get to the stage of becoming sexual with her then I believe that's healthy as it's involving another person. By myself, on my laptop, watching porn is not healthy at all. Thanks for the advice guys. As mentioned I'm using the NF Companion which is really helpful and when I look at the number of days I've done (only 4 so far) I don't want to see that figure back at zero, so thats a big incentive :)

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Porn Addiction / Time to start again.....
« on: February 02, 2017, 10:52:50 AM »
Well, firstly I'd like to reintroduce myself. I'm Ben and I was on this site around two years ago when my wife found out about me still using porn and how I truly wanted to break this habit of a lifetime. Two years have passed and my wife and I are no longer together (nothing to do with my addiction), we split up in around October last year (2016) and being a single guy again I have slipped back into old, bad habits. Mainly thinking "Well what single guy doesn't use porn??" But, I am coming to the realisation that it is becoming a problem again, and one that I really want to get out of. The first thing I did was clear all my browser history and take myself off of a couple of "Hook up" sites and then I downloaded an app for my phone called NF Companion, which basically tells me how long since my last relapse, has motivational quotes and videos to help you keep going and you can also keep a journal on there of any thoughts or feelings during your recovery. So far it has only been two days, but I thought along with the app, coming back on here for guidance and general support would be the best way forward. Thanks for taking the time to read my introduction and I hope to get a lot of support from fellow rebooters, as well as offering help where I can to those who need a bit of motivation, Ben.

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Porn Addiction / Still haven't looked at porn but....
« on: March 11, 2015, 11:51:59 AM »
My recovery has been going really well, until now  :(  Don't feel any cravings whatsoever for porn so I'm thinking that's a good thing. However, I have substituted porn by using an app called Omegle (chat app) and chatting to girls on there which obviously leads to MO.  There's no pic swapping, just chat so I feel really bad that I'm "getting myself off" to just words on a screen.  I've since deleted the app, but I'm really scared that I'll fall back into old habits and download it again.  Also, I haven't been on here for a while as I though that I was doing so well, so maybe I should go back to basics and log into here every day and get some encouragement as it's really helped me with the porn.  I've reset one of my counters, but as I said I'm glad that I haven't fallen back into watching porn. Oh well, let's start again.  Thanks for listening guys!!

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Porn Addiction / Re: A Brief Note on Pornosexuality
« on: February 27, 2015, 06:22:40 AM »
Very interesting  :) Especially as a married man I can totally relate to the whole objectifying her body whilst she only takes short glances at yours. My wife too has a great cleavage and like you it is a massive turn on for me. She usually dresses quite conservatively as she is now in her mid-40's so believes she is too old for showing off her cleavage, but I love it, especially when we're alone. I'm guessing it's the way women are "programmed" they're more turned on but what they hear, smell or feel rather than what they see.

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Fantastic news  8) Your book is incredible!! Good luck with the sales  :)  :)

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Porn Addiction / I succumbed to temptation
« on: February 26, 2015, 12:01:22 PM »
Well I thought I was doing really well.  Thus far I'd had no urges and almost got to the 30 day mark at my first reboot attempt. However, last night I went to bed early as I work shifts and was up early this morning for work.  Didn't feel particularly horny, until I lay down and had this very sexual thought about a girl I used to work with years ago.  Totally out of the blue, I don't have contact with this girl at all anymore it's really weird. Anyway, one thing led to another and I began to "stir downstairs" and because I wasn't directly looking at porn I thought that satisfying myself would be alright. My wife was still downstairs watching telly, so I gave in to the urge. Afterwards, I didn't feel bad as such more relief. I knew I wasn't breaking any rules as I didn't use porn, but on the other hand my original target was to only O with my wife. I am going to reset my counter as it's the start of March in a couple of days and I'm determined to reach the 30 days without porn or masturbation of any kind (apart from when with my wife).

Any encouragement would be greatly appreciated guys. I know I screwed up and I'm determined to conquer this addiction.

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Finished your book last night and so many points were relative to me. Thank you so much this book has really helped, and I can't believe you're only 20. It's a really well written and mature account of what us guys are going through. I urge any others in this forum to check this book out as it's a lifesaver  :) Wishing you all the best with your future, stay strong!!

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Porn Addiction / Anyone else with these feelings???
« on: February 16, 2015, 02:31:51 PM »
Hey guys,

Love checking in these forums to see what's new and how others are doing with their reboot  :)  Just wanted to ask, and I in no way mean this offensively as I'm behind all of you 100%, but when I read a post where a guy has relapsed and says how crappy he feels etc. that really spurs me on to keep going.  It's not exactly schadenfreude, but I'm guessing that if a guy wrote "I relapsed today and it was the best orgasm I've ever had, God I felt amazing!!!!" that would make it much more difficult for me to keep going.  Does anyone else see what I'm getting at??

Again, I just want to reiterate that I really love hearing about the success stories too as that also motivates me to carry on and I love the comradery and unity that we all share on this forum, it just also seems the relapses also help me in my journey.

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That's brilliant, thanks a lot.  I've downloaded your book to my Kindle and I'm really looking forward to reading it.  Again I've got to say how brave you are to document your recovery and also to allow strangers to read all your ups and downs  :)  I'm sure that it's going to help a lot of people.  I hope that you're recovery is still going well?  I'm 19 days porn free now and feel fantastic!!!!  Thanks gain, take care mate!!

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Wow that's such an inspirational thing to do. Not only to write your journal but also publish it. Very brave :) I'm in the UK an  cannot agent your book from Amazon.com a  it says it's not available in my country. I really like to read it though. I'll send you a message with my email address if you can send me a copy. Thanks a lot  :)

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Porn Addiction / Re: My Addiction and Path to Recovery Story
« on: February 10, 2015, 08:56:54 AM »
Your story is very similar to my situation. Thanks for sharing and best of luck with your journey :)

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Porn Addiction / 90 days reboot question
« on: February 10, 2015, 05:26:08 AM »
Hey guys,
I've joined this group in order to beat my online porn addiction. I'm a married man and my wife finding out not only extremely upset her, but made me feel like the world's worst human being  :( I'd just like to ask that if having sex with my wife would interrupt my reboot? I'm trying to get to 30 days, then eventually 90 days porn free. I'm feeling pretty positive about it at the moment, no cravings or urges thus far. Any guidance or advice would be greatly appreciated. Stay strong fellas!!
Ben

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