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Wow... Just realised you've already clocked 31 days PMO free :o ... You should be the one giving me advice! Get over to my thread and tell me what I'm doing wrong aha :P

Great first post man, I'll be interested in following your reboot. I've had a temporary set back past couple days - expect them. Thanks for the book recommendation, I'm going to have to check it out. When you're starting out it can seem daunting, especially if you have a long history with porn like you've stated - but don't let it discourage you. You can do this! Hang in there and you'll see improvements real quick in terms of erection quality, it's really incredible and encouraging when you start noticing. I wouldn't attribute your difficulties entirely to porn either, like you said self-confidence plays a huge role, and although I haven't experienced what it's like to be in the closet personally, I imagine the pressure must be quite considerable. Porn is in the safe confines of your own space, with your exact tastes etc. there are no expectations, it doesn't have any of the anxieties face to face intimacy poses - be comfortable being you Annex, that's a huge part of sexuality too. Anyhow, keep us posted ;D

Ages 20-29 / Re: Second try
« on: April 29, 2014, 08:20:50 PM »
How did I just find this thread? Great job V, keep it up man! (No pun intended)

Ok, ok... Set back. Watched porn and PMO'd today and yesterday, maybe 3 times but they weren't long sessions like before my reboot. I was doing so well, had almost 3 weeks without PMO, but I don't feel upset about PMO'ing. I know I can do without it now and don't have anywhere near the same urge to watch as before. I'm going to strike this up as a temporary glitch, forgive and grow. I've also started to think that some of my PIED was contributed by general low mood and being unhappy, in a way I think porn acted as a pick me up (quick shot of dopamine) when I've been low in the past - I'm on the way to fixing that now too, and have made changes in my life that have made me much more content.

How's everyone else getting on?

Easy for you to say, Robust! :P

You're not alone sir. Your title pretty much describes my last two encounters with the ladies. But we can banish this embarrassment!

Oh man, totally makes sense swapping one visual aide to an (albeit softer) alternative. Having said that, I've only done that once so far. I'm just going to stop the MO'ing from now on >:(

Cold turkey has been my method so far emperor and I can confirm it is both balls hard but totally rewarding. I've only been successful at staying cold turkey for a super short period of time, like 5 days? (reboot has only just begun for me) but already got back up to 90-100% erections without any fantasizing - the biggest challenge for me is edging, which is all I seem to want to do. What I'm going to do moving forward is to aim for cold turkey, learn what works/doesn't, as I go, and make adjustments until I get there. I'll keep an eye on your reboot for sure, so let us know how it goes and keep posting!  ;D

Ages 20-29 / Re: Conquer.
« on: April 15, 2014, 05:07:00 PM »
You're on the home straight dude, surely. I would love to get to the point that my biggest obstacles were wet dreams! Your discipline must be insane. Ps. Can someone explain the 'chaser effect'?

Since my last post I could not stop edging, maybe did it once a morning? Yesterday I MO'd twice to 'clothed' pictures, making sure to push out any sexual fantasies or thoughts. Today I came across a nude account on twitter totally by chance... That was it. PM'd but managed to stop before the O. As stupid as it was getting to that point, I'm glad I had the strength to stop. Boy was that shit the bomb, though. I have noticed my erections are pretty much back up to 90-100% and have a lot more staying power, but I'm sure that was more that I'd been holding out on the O for so long, rather than my brain chemistry doing a 180. From this point forward I'm going to resolve to stop edging as it really is doing me no good, and to IMMEDIATELY avert my eyes from any nudity, as I had learnt from twitter, I can't be trusted to view it at all! Going to try not to MO too, as I kinda think it helped. Keep strong, Duders!

Shit, well now I'm really not going to do it! Since going cold turkey I am fantasizing all the time, any tips to help kerb that?

Good news and bad news.

The Good: Still have not looked at pornography. Nor have I masturbated to climax.

The Bad: Had a dream that was full of sex, and have since masturbated without climax a couple of times today. I haven't looked at porn, but a few photos of hot female friends on facebook (clothed) stood in during this time of need.

I considering this somewhat a relapse, although it's not as bad as looking at hardcore porn and PMO'ing. But, still, I'm going to avoid this behaviour going forward as I think it's only steps away from the real thing and probably more damaging than helpful.

Ages 20-29 / Re: Conquer. /40
« on: April 10, 2014, 01:54:30 PM »
Congrats on hitting the 40 mark man, you seem like you're on a massive high - and may it continue! Very inspirational thread dude, looking forward to reaching your level of success. :P

On another note, someone had mentioned intermittent fasting. Sounds pretty great for nothing if not strengthening discipline. Seems like dudes here got some good results doing it.

Stayed strong so far. It's been pretty darn tough though. If you're on a reboot, don't try and catch up on the last series of Game of Thrones - beautiful women, sex, breasts and bare arses, almost every episode(!) - that stuff is hard (pardon the pun.) Same too when watching a bit of WWF. Getting on towards day 3 now still no JO and feeling pretty good, I think I'm becoming more receptive already (this is going to sound weird) but just receiving a flirty text from a friend got me going. So (honestly, last pun) things are looking up. Cold turkey seems to be working for me, just need to ensure I don't break next time a big urge comes on! Going to the Cinema with a girl tonight, reminds me why I'm going for the reboot - I need my junk ready at a moments notice for my next encounter (fingers crossed.)  ;D

Ages 20-29 / Re: Cultivating A New Habit - The Journal
« on: April 07, 2014, 07:53:14 PM »
I hear you man, noticing the triggers and finding a distraction immediately is key. We need a break-for-emergencies fallback plan. I'm thinking something quick and totally mind altering like a tonne of pressups followed by rapping the entire lyrics to a strange hippity hop 70's rap song or something. I mean, even the strongest PMO craving must be thrown through a loop by that.

Ages 20-29 / Re: flatline
« on: April 07, 2014, 07:45:21 PM »
V4V, how do I rep you man? Jesus H that post was incredible! Guys in this place are super knowledgeable on the mechanisms for stuff, but you broke that down and distilled it to a tee. Hang in there hk, we'll get our grocery run boners. Soon enough.

Ages 20-29 / I've realised I have a problem. Now I'm going to fix it.
« on: April 07, 2014, 07:14:36 PM »
I think I was pretty normal, up until the age of 18, when I'd split up with my first girlfriend of a couple years and ended up getting pretty hooked on porn. For the past three years I wouldn't even want to hazard a guess at the hundreds of hours I've watched porn - it became a problem. After moving to an area with high-speed internet, I found a pretty intense website that basically had everything that appealed to me in bucketloads! (I won't mention the site, as it will trigger the ruckus on you guys.) I began downloading and hoarding the videos and pictures that I liked, filling external hard drives with the stuff - literally hundreds of gbs. About a year ago I got into a new relationship, not through want - it just sort of happened. Man, I couldn't keep my shit up - it was a constant battle in my head, and something I hadn't ever noticed until that point - why the hell was it becoming more and more difficult to fuck this beautiful young women? We even talked about it; she saw it as a problem - yet I still couldn't abstain. I managed to get by, when she was on top we could go all night, but I'd have to close my eyes and fantasize of other things. Looking back it's clear how desensitized I had become. And yet, the porn use (even whilst in the relationship) continued. That relationship ended for other reasons, I've had a fling since then (same ED problems embarrassingly enough, but still, I managed to eek by) and was only put onto this whole subject following a video on The Young Turks youtube channel. Basically research had been published suggesting porn and ED in young men, and they were berating the piece - 'how ridiculous, what a load of crap, I watch porn and I'm perfectly fine' etc. but as soon as I heard the words uttered it set off a bazillion alarm bells in my head. I googled 'porn related ed' tonight to read up on it a little more. After watching Adolescent Brain Meets Highspeed Internet Porn it's become blindingly clear. I'm going to make a declaration, right here, right now, that I'm going to change, and I'm going to quit. The porn has been deleted. My bookmarks have been deleted. My internet use will be restricted. I'll do whatever it takes; I'm not giving up, I'm not giving in, this is the end of this sordid and shameful abuse of my brain and body. I'm here to make the rest of my life, the best of my life - I hope I can achieve that with the help of you guys. I'll try and keep this thread updated with honest and regular posts on my progress until I've beaten this. Thanks

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