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Dear STR,

I just want to say I respect you for you insight and logical thinking on this whole matter.  You are being true to yourself and your wife as well as your young woman friend. Much respect and I'm sure you'll continue on the right path.

Ages 40 and up / Re: religion
« on: November 24, 2014, 10:41:32 PM »
Hey bro I think this post is great and necessary. I am a person who has tried for many years to quit porn and relied on God and prayer to help me accomplish this goal. I cannot say I was without success because there was a time that I did stop the cycle for a good period and it was one of the happiest times of my life. That being said,  I can totally relate to you when it comes to the YBOP book. Discovering this book,  the website,  as well as reboot nation, all the scientific facts and understanding the physical changes within my brain at the mercy of pornography has been the point of no return for me and I feel more confident than ever before that this time is different than the others when it comes to defeating this detrimental addiction. Still, I cannot denounce God in my life because before I decided to take the religious route in life, my addiction was so much worse. It's crazy because many of the withdrawal symptoms that come from quitting this addiction, Ive experienced them beforehand when I was just relying on prayer and God. I feel good because I personally believe that God made our brains and he wants us to understand science just as much as he wants us to understand the bible so that we can defeat thsee addictions.

Disclaimer: I am not trying to force my views on anyone reading this now and who is a part of this website. I was actually one of the people who commented on that religious post with the subject matter mentioning God. I just felt that I wanted to share with someone with my religious views and I didn't think it would be offensive to anyone because I wasn't judging or forcing my religion on anyone. I love this site, I look at it everyday and I think the fact that it's so open minded and straightforward may be due to the fact that it's not a religious site because I've noticed that some religious sites don't even like using the straightforward terms used on this site. I believe that if we're going to defeat this addiction we need to be honest and we all know that crazy things we've watched in porno so how can we not talk about it. Anyway,  I don't plan in talking more about religion because I agree that this website should only be about winning against pornography and masterbation.  When the former member lashed out against the religious post I felt really bad because I kind of felt ostracized and like I didn't belong. It was like losing a friend who was a part of the same team to something really minute if that makes any sense. Again, please no one take this post the wrong way I don't think I'm better than anyone or anything like that I really just want to spread love and encouragment and feel like i am just like anyone other person who struggles with this addiction. Take care.

Ages 20-29 / Re: DAILY LOG: NO PMO, Beginning 11-20-14
« on: November 23, 2014, 05:50:39 PM »
I went through the exact same thing when it comes to studying. Pornography and masterbation has definitely impacted my college career so far in a big way. I started college in 2010 and so far have only 68 credits. I never was really able to do any major projects because whenever it came down to crunch time I would always give up on studying,  turn to porn and wack away. I can totally relate to you in amount of porn I watched to. I wouldn't do it all day every day but when I did it, even if it was one time in the day,  it would ruin my whole day. The depression and self pity that came after that one time of masterbating and finishing to porn would consume my entire day and the next. It really killed my mood and made me feel like crap. I will share my last time with porn and masterbating which was one of the lowest points for me and when I ended up finding this sight. I was watching an interview with a specific porn star who had contracted an STD. She was telling of how she got the STD by having group sex and what not. In a matter of minutes I found myself looking up videos of her in these specific acts and masterbating to them. Not only that but I was really excited to the point of being jittery while searching for these vids. Afterwards I was thoroughly disgusted by what I had just got off to and also how excited I was while looking them up. I just sat there and I felt like I was looking down at myself from outside of my body. I was this pitiful boy with my penis in my hand feeling so worthless. I was done with myself, I just couldn't take it. That was the end for me. I was depressed for like two days straight just sleeping all day. I ended up discovering an article on YBOP.Com and thats when everything changed and here I am.

Ages 20-29 / Re: DAILY LOG: NO PMO, Beginning 11-20-14
« on: November 23, 2014, 12:07:14 PM »
Hey Westcoast, I hope you are well.
I am glad that you are on day 3 and managing to keep your promise to yourself of abstainting from the cause of unhappiness for many of us men in this world which is pornography coupled with masterbation. I know what you mean when it comes to going on a streak, feeling strong and then because of this high feeling, falling back to our old ways. The crazy thing is that most of this back peddling into our same old habits can be explained scientifically. For instance, I notice we tend to lose sight of our long term goals of abstinence after a streak and thats because years of watching porn while masterbating has robbed us of our ability to focus on the rewards of fighting for our long term goals. We can't wait for the pleasure of accomplishing something that takes time and which takes fighting for because the fact that our brains and bodies are used to an intense satisfactory feeling at the mercy of instant, intense,unlimited,  fast paced, hard core pornography. I would like to reference the book on this specific matter but currently am unable to find the page. We must be aware that this addiction has robbed us of our ability to achieve long term goals we see out for ourselves,  goals that will give us a pleasure and sense of accomplishment that no amount of pornography or orgasm can compare to.  This should really make us reconsider falling back into our old ways because when we consider what is at stake here, which is  our lives and our futures, there should be no question as to whether we should fight  at that exact moment against the urges to watch porn/masterbate. I hope my words can motivate you and I want you to know i am thinking of you and am here for you. Stay strong Westcoast,  you are better than this wack ass addiction. ;)

God bless you brother and congratulations on reaching 90 days. I am glad to read another believers testimony and just someone I can relate to on a spiritual level. Learning about the science of this addiction has allowed me to understand God more and His word. There is a reason God tells us to guard our eyes and abstain from impure things and thats because they will PHYSICALLY ALTER OUR BRAINS. I used to limit God because I felt it was impossible to live a pure life free of pornography and masterbation and now that I know the science behind it, that has been the point of no return for me. God is good and the bible and science go together! Amen.

Ages 20-29 / Re: DAILY LOG: NO PMO, Beginning 11-20-14
« on: November 21, 2014, 05:07:08 PM »
Also, I am in day 2 as well!  I have to make that little calculator thingy you have. Also, I really recommend buying the Your Brain On Porn book by Gary Wilson asap. That book is my second bible and actual learing how pornography has physically altered my brain makeup has been the point of no return in my decision to eradicate both pornography and masterbation from my life. Get the book trust me! :)

Ages 20-29 / Re: DAILY LOG: NO PMO, Beginning 11-20-14
« on: November 21, 2014, 05:03:42 PM »
I have good news. The urge to masterbate because of the feeling you get upon release will decrease with time.  I can say this confidently because I am living proof. It almost as if you get used to not masterbation after some time. Right now I am in a stage where I am increasingly sensative to the little things in life. For instance,  I just came back from eating lunch with an old college friend. It felt so good to converse with her on various topics which I felt passionate about and that experience alone brought so much satisfaction to me. I felt like a normal human being who could enjoy normal life without mind altering substances and activities such as pornography and masterbation. We ate Sushi at a place called Watuwa and boy was it good!
Stay strong Westcoast,  I have no doubt this fight will get easier with time and I'm proud of your progress thus far. You give me strength just by letting me know you are in the same fight as me and that I'm not alone. Stay strong brother.
with much love, George.

Ages 20-29 / Re: DAILY LOG: NO PMO, Beginning 11-20-14
« on: November 21, 2014, 02:18:45 AM »
Stay strong Westcoast. You don't need porn or masterbation, they will only bring negativity in your life. You are not alone In this fight. Stay strong and fight the urge and win your brain, joy, and motivation for life back from this detrimental addiction that is ruining the lives of so many people just like you. Much love and strength, George.

Ages 20-29 / Finding the joy in the small things.
« on: November 21, 2014, 02:08:58 AM »
Day 2 of no masterbation or pornography.
Felt a little depressed upon waking up but quickly fought it and went on a run. I had so much energy while jogging and it felt great.

I went into my parents room and just sat on my mom's bed next to her and my step dad. I cant even remember the last time I did that. It felt so good, normal, and just right to just sit next to a family member.  To be next to them and not feel like I'm hiding a a dark secret from them. This led me to opening up about my porn and masterbation addiction for 10 years +. I cried with my mom, showed them the video of the guy speaking in front of 300 people, and read a portion of the YBOP book. I know there is strength in being honest and sharing and thats why I knew I had to tell them. It felt so good and I felt so loved. I encourage anyone who feels afraid or ashamed in sharing there addiction to let that go and be open. You need all the love and support you can get and it will be a weight lifted off your shoulders and a huge help in staying abstinent from porn and masterbation. With much love, George.

Ages 20-29 / Re: Sharing is the Key to success
« on: November 20, 2014, 08:33:05 PM »
LS90, thanks so much for your reply, it means a lot. I am glad to be a part of reboot nation. Today I fought negative feelings and went jogging. Felt so great and didn't even tire as quick as I usually do. Ive been fighting this battle on aND off for some time alone but I can't tell you that knowing that I'm not alone is the key. Continue fighting for your Joy LS90 you know there's no better feeling the being porn and masterbation free. Much love.

Wow, thank you so much for sharing your experience. Your boldness has given me the strength I needed. I really appreciate you.

Ages 20-29 / Sharing is the Key to success
« on: November 20, 2014, 02:04:42 AM »
I just purchased "Your Brain On Porn" the book and my mind was totally blown after reading some of it. I have already felt the freeing sensations which today I only compare to certain spiritual sensations I've experienced. This website and the book are so necessary I can't begin to describe my gratitude to all those who have contributed as well as to all the brave souls on this site. I just want to extend my love and encouragment to you all and thank you all for your help and support. Looking forward to being porn free with you all!!!

So I just actually read the rules for this thread and made some adjustments.  My name is George and I'm 24 years old. I have been watching porn since a young age, maybe before I was 7 years old. This has caused me to have PIED which I havent totally understood the cause until today. I have been open with my father about my issue since we both struggle and it has helped a lot. I will be writing more of my story once I get to a computer because I'm on my phone and its a little more difficult to do so here. That being said I'm connected to the community as of today and my mission is to eradicate pornography and masterbation from my life as of today!

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