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Ages 20-29 / Re: My journey to reboot.
« on: September 25, 2014, 02:13:19 AM »
I'm right there with ya brother! I'm on Day 1 as well. It's awesome that you have recognized & admitted your addiction, and its obvious that you are ready to change. Stay focused and stay positive. You got this!

Porn Addiction / Re: social anxiety
« on: September 25, 2014, 02:05:09 AM »
Hey brother, I have struggled with all different types of anxiety as well. It's easier said than done, but it all comes back to the way you think. You are what you think. One book/documentary that changed my life was "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. It teaches a very powerful concept called the Law of Attraction, which can be used to change your thought patterns and manifest positive changes into your life. It's on Netflix if you have it. It's not for everyone, but it was a life-changer for me. If you like that one, there's another beautifully written one called "As A Man Thinketh" by James Allen, which helped me tame my anxiety. Once you realize and accept that you have the power and mental capacity to change and control you thoughts, you are unstoppable. Focus your energy on staying positive, fake it til you make it if you have to. Another approach I used to help curb my anxiety, was fitness. Jump rope, running, Insanity, pullups, lifting, whatever floats your boat. A regular routine of physical activity can work wonders. It will build your confidence and gradually melt some of your anxieties away. Hope some of this helps! Stay positive!

Ages 20-29 / Re: From AA to a reboot
« on: September 25, 2014, 01:32:51 AM »
You're absolutely right about porn warping our perception and relationships. Well said. It creates this set of false fantasy expectations that no woman can ever live up or compare to. It's easy to forget that the women in porn are actresses playing a role and being paid a lot of money to do things that most everyday women we encounter should never be expected to do. It desensitizes us after awhile. In my case, I pretty much stopped respecting women and began to view them solely as sex objects who were there to fulfill my sexual desires. Super negative stuff... On a lighter note, glad you decided to join the Reboot Nation. Look forward to reading more about your experience and providing some moral support when I can. Thanks for sharing brother. Take care

Ages 20-29 / Re: My struggle!
« on: September 25, 2014, 01:19:25 AM »
It's so nice reading everyone's stories and being able to relate on so many different levels. I've ruined many relationships because of PMO addiction. It sounds like you have a good girl, whatever steps you decide to take just remember to treat her with as much respect as possible and hopefully she will be willing to do whatever it takes to help you rise above your PMO addiction. I recently had the same epiphany that you had, and it was bittersweet exactly as you described. But it's the first step on the road to happiness. Thanks for sharing brother! Take care.

Success Stories / Re: Rebooting has changed my life
« on: September 25, 2014, 01:09:57 AM »
It's great to read about some positive results. It gives me hope and inspiration. Tips #1 and #4 are awesome and very helpful. I hope you continue to progress and share your experience. Take care!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Courage to Grow
« on: September 25, 2014, 12:14:24 AM »
Nice start fella. I am on my ninth day on no PMO/MO. its kinda going well. i suggest you to set a goal. i mean there is this girl i want to be with so im trying for her. I'll follow your journal on a daily basis.

Congrats on the 9 days brother. It may not seem like much right now, but that's huge. Keep the momentum going! I am definitely working on setting some specific long term and short term goals for myself. Thanks for the suggestion. I'll follow your journal as well. Stay strong brother, you got this!

Ages 20-29 / Re: Twenty five with it all and about to lose it!!!
« on: September 25, 2014, 12:08:36 AM »
Welcome to Reboot Nation brother. I'm glad you shared your story. I can relate to it on so many different levels, I've gone through many of the exact same issues that you have had to deal with. I've essentially ruined every relationship I've ever been in directly or indirectly because of my PMO addiction. & now that I'm living the single life and meeting lots of new girls, I can't get it up with them. So now I'm here with you and many others, fighting this battle to end my addiction. Anyway, It sounds like you have a lot of good things to fight for and I hope it all works out for you. I will be following your journal and provide some moral support when I can. Stay strong brother, you got this!

Ages 20-29 / Courage to Grow
« on: September 24, 2014, 02:20:29 PM »
Whats up Reboot Nation? I'm Mike & I'm a 24 year old dude living in beautiful Colorado. I've been watching porn since I was 14, and began to realize it was a real problem about a year ago. I started noticing that I could only achieve a full erection when I was viewing pornography, & only a semi erection when I was with real girls. Which is extremely embarrassing. There were times in my life where I questioned my sexuality because of this, even though I knew I was straight. I've had ED for a few years now, and I honestly never thought that PMO had anything to do with it until recently. (I've lost count of the number of times I have failed to perform with girls. I always blamed it on "whiskey-dick", anxiety, or the girl not doing enough to turn me on. This repeated failure lead me into depression and a fear of becoming intimate with new girls. I always dread the thought of having to provide excuses to why I can't get it up.) So, After extensive amounts of "googleing" what could possibly be wrong with me, it became clear that I had a real problem with porn. I began to expect and demand unreasonable things from girls in real life, because it's what I was used to watching in porn everyday. I had desensitized myself so much over the years, that I couldn't be satisfied by anything other than extreme genres or porn. I finally am able to admit that it's a real problem, that I must overcome if I ever want to maintain a healthy relationship and lead a happy normal life. So late last night after watching Gabe Deem's videos, discovering this forum, and some other great support websites, I decided to begin my reboot journey. Today is Day 1 and so far so good. I've committed to my decision to change and I'm ready to fight for it. I'm ready to begin my new life without porn. I'm ready to respect women, and stop viewing them as sex objects. I'm ready stop being ashamed of my ED. I'm ready to experience genuine happiness. I'm working on a list of short term and long term goals for myself. I went through my instagram account today and "unfollowed" every girl that I don't know in real life, who I only followed so I could fantasize about (mostly SuicideGirl models and porn actresses). Doesn't seem like much but it felt good, and I'm ready to make more positive changes like this. My first goal is to join a gym and start working out again, I seem to have lost interest in so many things in life. I'm ready to move forward.

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