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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Sexuality Path
« on: May 20, 2015, 09:24:27 AM »
Day 265 aka Day 0

I just relapsed... Actually I'm quite ok with that: I'm not proud of it but I knew what I was doing, the consequences etc, and I embrace my fall with everything that comes.
It's a transition period, being far from my girlfriend plays a huge role with my decision, but I'm happy cause I obtained a great result. 265 days on my first attempt isn't that bad: PMO will slow down my recovery process but it won't stop it.

So today I aim for 365 days, divided in a couple of sub-goals (1 week, 2 weeks, 1 month, 3 months, and so on).
I'm confused and I read this fappening as a sign of my need to figure things out, but I know that eventually I will succeed.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Sexuality Path
« on: January 25, 2015, 03:52:02 PM »
Hey man,

You should be proud of yourself, 150 is tough. Try to remember the negative feelings you had when you used to look at p. I'm sure your life has improved in many areas since you stopped. I would have to guess that normal erections are the last thing to be healed in your brain. Don't be deterred by your libido, you probably just need more time. Embrace the healing process man, you will overcome it.

-Chris

Thanks Chris, I felt way better after reading your words  :)

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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Sexuality Path
« on: January 25, 2015, 10:41:58 AM »
Day 150

I see no progress. Sometimes I can reach the orgasm with my girlfriend, sometimes I can't. I'm surrounded by a lot of pretty girls, I talk to them, I touch them. Nothing moves.

I just want to be a normal guy, I wanna feel horny when I'm with a sexy girl like everyone else. Is this a flat line? I always knew that it'll need 6+ months, let's say at least 9. But I'm trying so hard and despite all my efforts I feel so asexual. I'm faithful and I love my GF, obviously I don't want to cheat on her. I just don't understand why I don't have an healthy libido. Is it just porn, or it's just the way I am? I want to feel the same desire, the same hunger for sex that other people experience.

But I can't go back. I choose this path and I'm keeping on. I'd like to hear some advice.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Sexuality Path
« on: September 25, 2014, 02:52:52 PM »
That's interesting: Labor of Love.

Day 29

A bit of chaser effect due to the recent sex and a couple of triggers, but I found really easy to stay on track. I also get angry more easily, I had a couple of mood swings. I'm still able to face them: I know it's not me, so I allow myself to make a step back and see the things for what they really are.

If you get angry, remember: Smile, breathe and go slowly.



PS. I like to share the sites that I find helpful, I hope it will not annoy anyone.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Sexuality Path
« on: September 24, 2014, 06:41:22 AM »
Day 27

Here I am, back from a 7 days trip with my girlfriend. These days were... strange. I feel like I'm a teenager again, and I have this new body and I don't know how it works and I have to discover it. I always had a good proprioception, and changing the relationship with my body is disarming, althought very stimulating.
The first 2 days I was completely messed up: due to her presence I had a boner the 80% of the time, even when there was no reason. I never fantasized, but it was always hard. Sex was really impressive: I still last quite long, but now the pleasure starts earlier in the intercourse and it's a wholesome experience, so I don't really mind so much about my DE.
The other days were kind of normal. The time to O increased, but I think it's just because we had a lot of sex.
We also tried a couple of our fantasies: I'm sure they will slow down my reboot but it's nothing porn related (it's mainly for her pleasure) and I like the way we deal with our sexuality, so I'm ok with that. I know it will take a little longer, but it's ok.

My mindset about sex has changed. I used to view sex as O-related: a way towards an end. These days I had sex because I just wanted to do it.
Last but not least: my refractory period has drastically reduced. It went from 20 to 5 minutes, and I was able to O both of the times. I always thought it was just the way I am and now I know it was a "porn-induced LRP (long refractory period :P)".



That's all. Stay tuned!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Sexuality Path
« on: September 16, 2014, 11:38:33 AM »
Thanks Gabe! It's really nice to have this kind of welcome :D

Well, it happened that I have some free time so I decided to say something more.
I've been working out for the last 3/4 years and I soon discovered an interesting fact. When I have to do 10 reps of an exercise I find it easier if I count from 10 to 1 (or even better, 9 to 0) than if I count from 1 to 10. The reason is simple: in the first case I'm aware of the remaining reps and the fact that they decrease over time it's strongly motivating. In the second case I'm aware of the reps I've done and I start thinking "Wow, I've done 9 reps, I must be tired". It's a simple example, but if you do this with a session of 150 and more reps you'll see the difference.
So I decided to apply the same method to my counter. Here in the forum I'm using the classic one, in order to make it easier for everyone to compare our results. But in my phone I set a dashclock extension, always visible, that shows a countdown. Actually it displays 71 days until 90.
The idea is that it will make easier to stick with the decision in the latter days, when the motivation starts to drop. I will not say "Hey, I've done 70 days, I deserve a relapse". What I will say instead will be "Hey, 20 days left! I've done so much that I can easily commit for the remaining days".

I don't think that it will work for everyone, but I've posted it to give you all the idea. Maybe someone will find it useful!

Day 19 thoughts:
Sex is way more pleasurable, both for me and for my partner. I've not Oed yet from PIV, just once when she Med me, but I know It's a matter of days. I usually O every 2/4 intercourses and we're going to have a 7 days vacation ;)

Here are Dashclock and the extension, see you the next time!


Commit and don't ever quit!

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Welcome Clover!
I'm new too and I think we have similar stories. We can do it, and we will!

Congratulations for your sharing, it's hard to admit a problem and to say it out loud. I like to think about it as a kind of a "first milestone" :)

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Ages 20-29 / The Sexuality Path
« on: September 14, 2014, 03:17:40 PM »
Day 18, aka II week. 72 days to the 90 days milestone.

Hello everybody, I'm Path, 22 years old, and I'm here to report this journey.

First of all, disclaimer: I'm not english, so I apologize for the mistakes I will eventually do. I also want to thanks Gary Wilson, his wife (sorry, I don't know the name) and all the people who report their experiences here, especially the ones I read about in YBOP.



Now it's time to say something about me and the reason why I'm here. I started PMOing among 12 and 14, before losing my virginity. I always had problems with new girls: everytime I went for the penetration I lost my erection. Fortunately, I always find a way to stay up enough. After this first time, the only problem I had was DE. I read about NoFap in a male forum. I didn't believe a single word, but I tried to abstain from porn for 30 days, just to see if I was strong enough. I wasn't.

I found YBOP a few weeks ago. I had a few vacations planned, so I decided to take the opportunity and try a reboot. I had just a couple of occasion to PMO, so it was pretty easy to resist. I had some days full of mood swings, but now I'm ok.



I want to go on 90 days of reboot. It's just a milestone, and if I'll see some improvements, I think I'll go for an entire life without PMO.
I will reset whenever I'll MO on an erection coming from porn thoughts or pics of women. Normal fantasies about real life women are admitted, even tough I'll try to avoid them. MO is allowed if I get hard without any intention.

I have a lot more to write but no time, I will update after the 25th of September.



PS. I'm in a relationship, the next time I'll report some thoughts about sex.

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