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Success Stories / Re: My Struggle, My Story
« on: January 05, 2015, 02:20:49 AM »
thanks for sharing your story man. I also suffer from anxiety but I can tell you that you are at the right place. This programand Nofap has helped me a lot. the longer you stick with it, the better it gets. Good luck.

Success Stories / Re: Need Motivation? Hear Me Out! Short and Sweet
« on: December 31, 2014, 07:53:20 AM »
thanks for posting this. its very helpful. can you be specific about the type of social anxiety that you experienced. what kind of symptoms did you notice in yourself. Also, was their a specific game that you were addicted to as well? i play an online computer game called runescape and its been very addicting for me as well.

Porn Addiction / Re: Why no masturbation ?
« on: December 31, 2014, 07:49:13 AM »
it all varies from person to person. nobody here is telling you what to do. Honestly, each person knows what they need for their reboot. if you feel an urge to porn. then dont do it. if you dont have the urge to masterbate and want to do it anyway, then that is on you. your brain is normally pretty good at letting you know what it wants but its not always good to give in, especially if you are in need of a "reboot".

Porn Addiction / this is the hardest thing ive done
« on: December 21, 2014, 05:52:02 AM »
i just want everyone to know that this is the hardest thing ive ever done.

Porn Addiction / Re: SA
« on: December 14, 2014, 12:20:41 PM »
Dude, that's awesome that you found something that you feel is helpful. Even better is that you chose to share it here. I personally have taken something away from that-so thanks.

This sort of reminds me of something I recently learned about call "Inverse Narcissism". It's not the same by any means, but it does remind me of it. Perhaps the path to healing the social anxiety may be to take some ques from the path that inverted narcissist often have to follow.

Who knows.

interesting concept. i have found though that staying busy helps but once im not busy my mind wanders and i go insane thinking negatively. i also have bad performance anxiety with anything. body shakes, trembling, shaking, tight chest and cant talk without gasping for air, sweating, flushing in the face, and more

Porn Addiction / relapse?
« on: December 11, 2014, 08:58:35 AM »
is having sex with your spouse considered a relapse? could someone explain me why or why not also please. thanks

Porn Addiction / Re: Need a little heads up!
« on: December 09, 2014, 01:53:44 PM »
the only thing i find weird is the men being used as toilets thing but everyones into something different i guess.. whatever floats your boat.

Porn Addiction / Re: I need professional help with this
« on: December 09, 2014, 01:52:20 PM »
ask yourself what the main goal is to sticking with the program everytime u think of pmo and do it everytime and then u will lose focus on pmo and only focus on your goal. just keep repeating it and repeating your goal and it will stick with you.

Porn Addiction / Re: SA
« on: December 09, 2014, 02:30:56 AM »
This was a quote off just wanted to share something else with the rebootnation community as i know we are all on the same team.

Quote Originally Posted by Willingness  View Post
Something that has helped me a lot in regards to feeling anxious is I will take an interest in other people. I find that when I'm feeling nervous or self-conscious, afraid, whatever it may be, it's because I'm too focused on myself. What do they think of me? How should I be? What should I say? Am I being cool? These thoughts all have one thing in common, they're thoughts about me! Shift the focus, think about other people in a way that doesn't come across as you wanting something from them. Ask them a question without placing any significance on their answer. Be completely indifferent to the way they respond. Don't be arrogant about it. Just feel good about the fact that you actually did something, as opposed to just thinking about doing something and not doing anything. Don't place expectations on the way they respond, just enjoy being around others. It's not all about you!

and then this is what i wrote:

I feel like this is very much me a lot of the time and im always thinking about people looking at me and judging me. im not the most handsome guy so i feel kinda nervous when people start looking at me. i especially hate sitting at dinner tables now cause i feel like im being judged the entire time i eat and people are looking at me then i start sweating profusely and my hands shake and its hard to control. its embarassing and i start judging myself and everytime i have to go to the bathroom and splash some cold water on my face but thats only a temporary relief till i sit at the table again. i am just really fed up with this. i can talk to people fine if we are just sitting in the living room or something but with the same people at the dinner table i start looking inward at myself and my heard starts racing and i get very hot and the above mentioned side effects hit me.

thanks for your input. i just really need help and i dont know what to do. i am in the military and i dont want to go to a dr or anything cause it may hurt my career. i dont want to take any meds either. i want to fix my brain without any kind of substances. if anyone has any suggestions please help me lol

Porn Addiction / Re: Well I hit 90 days! I'm cured!
« on: December 09, 2014, 02:22:55 AM »
hey congrats! was it  pmo abstinence  or 90 day hard mode with no orgasms at all?

Porn Addiction / Re: SA
« on: December 07, 2014, 03:44:53 AM »
i am physically active. normally work out for an hour a day + my job has me all over the place as well.

That's really awesome that you are already physically active. Just in general. Part of me wants to say that it's too bad, but it's not the right words. Those words want to come out because I had high hopes that adding some physical activity would be an easy and straightforward thing to try and would work. Not that it's too bad that you already are.

As far as materials on these things being related goes, have you found anything so far that you've found helpful? I hope you have. I wish I could provide you with more information than what's already provided through, but honestly, I haven't really looked elsewhere since it's been enough information for me. (I'm just a spouse.)

Maybe this is just me being nosey, or maybe it's also because my husband has a lot of the same anxiety issues you have, I'm not sure. Either way, I would love if you don't mind keeping this thread updated with how things are going for you on this specific topic (anxiety). Most of the stuff I have been seeing around really focuses on the erectile dysfunction aspect, and-even though it's a concern-many of the things you've listed here seem just as important and I feel deserve some attention as well.

I may even make a suggestion to the moderators!

(side note: I think the biggest reason I had high hopes that adding physical activity would help is because it's one of the things my husband has been working toward incorperating)

I feel like this program is helping a little. I havnt PMO in like 10 or 11 days now and i feel a bit better. I really just think that I need to try and stick with this for the long haul. I have never been able to make it for more than 21 days. The longest I went without PMO was when I deployed a few years ago, and honestly, I think i felt less stress cause i didnt have that type of material to look at.

Porn Addiction / Re: SA
« on: December 06, 2014, 04:31:42 AM »
In one of the videos that Gabe guy made, he made a comment along the lines of "just try it." And I believe the point was that the only thing you have to loose is a porn addiction, and yet with that lost comes the chance to gain so much more. That includes overcoming some of those problems that you feel you have now.

This site and a few others are full of material and I'm sure you are going to have no hard time in finding them so I'm not going to fill this post with a bunch of links. I will say that from a psychological/physiological and not addiction related stand point that keeping physically active helps leaps and bounds with a lot of the things you've listed. For that reason alone I would strongly encourage you to seek out ways to be more physically active. You could join a gym or try to find community fitness centers like at colleges. I know it's getting cold out, but when the weather's warmer you could consider taking up running.

The plus about this is that if your addiction is the problem staying physically active is a great way to help in getting over that addiction. And if it's not, then do it anyways because there is a strong connection between an increase in physical activity and improvement in those problem area.

i am physically active. normally work out for an hour a day + my job has me all over the place as well.

Porn Addiction / Re: SA
« on: December 03, 2014, 02:39:17 AM »
i feel like its only became worse with porn though

Success Stories / Re: Very good results after 65 days and question
« on: December 02, 2014, 12:49:08 PM »
hey cognrats. glad good things are going your way with the reboot.


could you explain the dopamine and confidence thing to me? i didnt quite understand what you wrote there.

Porn Addiction / SA
« on: December 02, 2014, 12:09:59 PM »
have huge big time social anxiety, performance anxiety, and stage fright, excessive sweating and a whole bunch of other anxiety related issues like worrying too much, always tense and nervous. body shakes, cant pee in public around anyone.... most of the time im a wreck on the inside. i know that i am addicted to porn. i always think about it when im on the computer. and i get this feeling in my gut of excitement or something. i just wondering if maybe my addictions related...

anyone have any material that related no pmo and any of the above problems.

any kind of inspiration or self experiences would be cool

Porn Addiction / Re: HeRe PleaSe.. i neeD yoUr thOughtS !!
« on: November 30, 2014, 05:28:54 AM »
where are u from

Porn Addiction / Re: Strongest Trigger
« on: November 25, 2014, 03:50:20 PM »
dont let them get to you. keep it up

Porn Addiction / Re: Depressed, is it the reboot?
« on: November 25, 2014, 03:49:56 PM »
either way. you have done a great job so far. keep it up

Porn Addiction / Re: how to avoid relapses??
« on: November 25, 2014, 03:49:33 PM »
read books. get away from electronics

was a good watch. ;D

Porn Addiction / Re: PMO and Music
« on: November 01, 2014, 09:13:07 AM »
everytime i pmo i had the urge to eat or drink something with sugar whether it was candy or a soda.

Porn Addiction / Re: Can smoking slow down the reboot?
« on: October 29, 2014, 11:13:00 AM »
no, smoking will not play any role in your reboot. treat it as a separate issue. once you start tangling all this stuff together then that's when the real problems begin and you start to lose focus and start blaming yourself for all the bad decisions that you think you are making...and it goes on and on.

Porn Addiction / the urge
« on: October 15, 2014, 07:26:40 AM »
hey all. i just want to know how you all feel when the urge is pulling you to porn and what makes it so strong that alot of us give in. for me i can definitely feel a warm/somewhat tingly sensation in the front of my brain (maybe pfc) and i also just feel like a magnetic force pulls me to my comptuer as i am saying "f it" .

Porn Addiction / Re: I cant do it
« on: October 11, 2014, 09:38:30 AM »
u can do it. just try not to think about it. dont even visit this forum.

great advice man. very logical and i agree with you

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