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Hmm yeah that's unfortunate. I firmly believe us addicts are really addicts basically for life. There are similar stories to these I've read, the good news is you should bounce back quickly.

If I were you I would:
1. Zero artificial sexual stimuli of any kind.
2. Cut out M and MO
3. Continue to have sex with your wife but perhaps limit orgasm for a few weeks.

Yeah I believe so too.The urges to look at half naked women wether it be real or digital will always be there.
Those are some good tips.I have been avoiding looking at any girls online.I even skim Facebook fast to not fall in any traps.
I currently have no desire to MO,so I am fine for now.
Sex is also limited,since my wife is not really in the mood.
Might as well take this as a mini reboot of sorts.
Thanks for your suggestions.

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Well, keep in touch.  If your initial hunch was right, then we all could learn from it.  And in either case, you're right that we still have to be careful of small triggers even when it is years after a reboot. 

There just seems to be so much more going on with that one encounter with your wife than that you looked at gifs.  As you say, who knows!  You seem to have been putting yourself under a lot of stress leading up to that encounter.

Plus, erections or no erections, you can still tell your wife she's beautiful and that you love her.  If she's with child, traveling away from you soon, and you just dropped the whole porn addiction thing on her, she might really need to hear it.

Thanks.I will keep in touch,and I will also keep this in mind.

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I think you might be jumping to conclusions by assuming it is because of a relapse.  I don't know what the experience of the sex position gifs were (for pleasure, or purely academic to figure out how to navigate sex with a bump?), but in either case it doesn't seem right.

Maybe just a fluke given the awkwardness/new nervousness involved in that situation?  I mean, if you're trying to read a manual like assembling Ikea furniture rather than being in the moment, that could certainly do it, too.  Excuse my crudeness, but I'm not sure how else to express it. 

Also, congrats on the reboot, marriage and baby on the way.  All three are things to be proud of, and goals for everyone here, I think.

Thank you.Yeah perhaps your right about it.Maybe I am overthinking and overreacting about the whole thing.
I don’t know if the anxiety contributed to it as well or the worry that I relapsed and that somehow it will affect me.I don’t know.

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Crazy man, a couple questions..

How long were you looking at gifs for? And did you get into that 'seeker' mind frame of clicking and looking for the next best thing?

How old are you and how long did you watch porn before quitting?

During your initial 1-2 years without porn were you orgasming much? Either with masturbation or sex?

I was looking at sex gifs for like a few days,each about 10 minutes per viewing.And yes I kept clicking for the next possible sex gif that would grab my attention.At the same time I would avoid the hardcore gifs,since google just displays everything.

I am 34 yrs old and I looked at porn since my early teens(14-32 yrs old).I had a girlfriend at 18 and she would get me hard fast,but never had sex with her because she believed in sex after marriage.We ended up breaking up.I was viewing porn at the same time.

In my 1-2 yrs without porn I was more hornier.I was wacking off without porn and just to fantasy(thinking of real life girls).I was doing it to light touch.I was MO every 2-3 weeks,sometimes even once a week.


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Porn Addiction / Re: Relapse??
« on: June 27, 2019, 11:01:58 AM »
Same thing happened to me.I had a 2 yr streak and fucked it up by looking at sex gifs on google.(highly arousing) I guess.This morning I couldn’t get it up with my wife.
I am wondering if it’s cuz I looked at sex gifs for a few days or just the fact that I haven’t worked out due to my back Injury.I just hope this passes because feeling like you can’t perform leaves you feeling empty and a failure as a man.Its a horrible feeling.

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Been off porn for like 2-3 yrs.I managed to get strong erections back after 3 to 4 months.A year later I got married,had successful sex.A few years later,still had sex.My wife gets pregnant,ends up getting morning sickness,so doesn’t want to have sex.I end up looking at sex position gifs a few weeks ago,but without masterbation.This morning me and my wife tried to have sex.I was hard at the beginning,but once I was in I got soft,fuck! I pulled out and tried again and I couldn’t get hard.
I had to explain to my wife about my past porn addiction right then and there,and broke it down to her.Previously yeas ago I told her but briefly.I then proceeded to smack my head in frustration.
I guess I fucked up by looking at some sex gifs and that somehow messed with my reward circuits and dopamine somehow.I am afraid I won’t be able to get it up in 11 days,thats how many days I have left to go back to Canada.My wife lives in another country.
Looks like I fucked up and feel horrible about it.
This is a wake up call to me or anyone how bad porn addiction is and to take it seriously.Even looking at girls on Facebook or insta can mess up your progress.
Guys don’t fuck around with this,it’s real and I’m finding out the hard way,even after a 2 year streak.
Fuck!!

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Been off porn for like 2-3 yrs.I managed to get strong erections back after 3 to 4 months.A year later I got married,had successful sex.A few years later,still had sex.My wife gets pregnant,ends up getting morning sickness,so doesn’t want to have sex.I end up looking at sex position gifs a few weeks ago,but without masterbation.This morning me and my wife tried to have sex.I was hard at the beginning,but once I was in I got soft,fuck! I pulled out and tried again and I couldn’t get hard.
I had to explain to my wife about my past porn addiction right then and there,and broke it down to her.Previously yeas ago I told her but briefly.I then proceeded to smack my head in frustration.
I guess I fucked up by looking at some sex gifs and that somehow messed with my reward circuits and dopamine somehow.I am afraid I won’t be able to get it up in 11 days,thats how many days I have left to go back to Canada.My wife lives in another country.
Looks like I fucked up and feel horrible about it.
This is a wake up call to me or anyone how bad porn addiction is and to take it seriously.Even looking at girls on Facebook or insta can mess up your progress.
Guys don’t fuck around with this,it’s real and I’m finding out the hard way,even after a 2 year streak.
Fuck!!

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Porn Addiction / Re: Is this considered a relapse???
« on: June 24, 2019, 10:00:19 AM »
I certainly would call it a relapse - but it's only as big as you make it. There's no question you got all the necessary elements of a classic dopamine rich PMO experience. Whether it was as intense as your previous experiences is not that important. I think it just serves as a reminder to you not to let your guard down, no matter how long you've been clean. It can come and grab you again at the slightest opportunity. If you feel like it hasn't;t had any lasting effects, then count your blessings and use it as motivation not to skate too close to the edge. Good luck, man.

Yes your right,I let my guard down and failed myself.I don’t think I’m at square one with my progress,but I feel like it was sort of a set back.I still get morning wood and erections when I hug or cuddle with my wife.I just haven’t had sex with her since her morning sickness which started last week.Just hoping it won’t affect my performance.Anyway this was a wake up call and your absolutely right,sometimes we get too comfortable and find ourselves on the edge.After what happened I decided to download Gary Wilson book YBOP and learn everything I can about porn addiction and the brain.Im already half way through the book in just a few days.Im also watching YouTube videos and reading other people’s experiences and trying to soak it all in.I really want to take this serious now and not play around and let my guard down.Thanks man.

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Porn Addiction / Re: Is this considered a relapse???
« on: June 23, 2019, 10:29:23 PM »
Damn that’s scary how guys can relapse so easily.I hope I didn’t relapse too hard,it was just a few sex gifs on google images,and I didn’t M’O to it.Just later I wacked off to fantasy.What’s your opinion?

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Porn Addiction / Is this considered a relapse???
« on: June 21, 2019, 10:24:48 AM »
Hi everyone I want to keep this as brief as possible. I found out about nofap and your brain on porn a few years ago after searching online as to why I was having a ED,and of course I later found it was due to the porn I would watch in my late teens and my twenties.Anyways I went on a reboot,relapsed a few times,but then managed to go without PMO for a few months.I did have a flat line,but then I slowly started getting my mojo back.Just standing near a good looking girl would get me horny asf.Anyways I managed to go about 2 yrs without looking at porn,but I would still wack off once every 2 weeks as maintenance,sometimes thinking about a chick,but the good thing was I left the porn behind.I eventually got married in 2017 in another country and the sex was okay,it seemed I cured my ED.I had a limp dick here and there,but nothing as bad as it used to be.Anyway to cut a long story short,my wife just told me she’s pregnant and I was happy am happy about it,but the only bad thing is she is not in the mood for sex due to morning sickness,so I whacked myself off one night to relieve myself,I kind of felt bad about it,but then the next day I forgot about it.
The next day I was alone in my room and felt kind of horny,I decided to look up
Sex position gifs on google images or sex gifs,girl on top gifs and missionary sex gifs.I did this for a few days for like a few minutes at a time without walking off to the images.
The images were basically gifs of repeated sex movements from porn clips,some were animations like 3D sex positions.I later whacked off but not thinking about the images,just to my imaginations.
I later came to and felt bad about it.The question is did I relapse? Will this affect my reboot and what I accomplished in the last 2 years??? I’m kind of worried and paranoid now about it now and been thinking about it the last 2 days.Also the images I saw were not as hardcore as the porn I used to watch,and it was also just gifs.I haven’t seen a full blown porn video with moans and sounds in like 2 years,so I don’t know what kind of damage sex gifs can do.
Please give me some insight guys,I hope I didn’t ruin my streak with that stupid decision I made of looking at sex gifs.Is this considered a relapse or just a small set back?
I also don’t want this to affect my sex life with my wife,I can’t afford to go back to looking at porn or any of that garbage.I refuse to go back.I made a small mistake these few days,but I repented and acknowledged my error.
Thoughts???

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Ages 30-39 / Did I just relapse?
« on: June 20, 2019, 07:28:59 PM »
Hi everyone I want to keep this as brief as possible. I found out about nofap and your brain on porn a few years ago after searching online as to why I was having a ED,and of course I later found it was due to the porn I would watch in my late teens and my twenties.Anyways I went on a reboot,relapsed a few times,but then managed to go without PMO for a few months.I did have a flat line,but then I slowly started getting my mojo back.Just standing near a good looking girl would get me horny asf.Anyways I managed to go about 2 yrs without looking at porn,but I would still wack off once every 2 weeks as maintenance,sometimes thinking about a chick,but the good thing was I left the porn behind.I eventually got married in 2017 in another country and the sex was okay,it seemed I cured my ED.I had a limp dick here and there,but nothing as bad as it used to be.Anyway to cut a long story short,my wife just told me she’s pregnant and I was happy am happy about it,but the only bad thing is she is not in the mood for sex due to morning sickness,so I whacked myself off one night to relieve myself,I kind of felt bad about it,but then the next day I forgot about it.
The next day I was alone in my room and felt kind of horny,I decided to look up
Sex position gifs on google images or sex gifs,girl on top gifs and missionary sex gifs.I did this for a few days for like a few minutes at a time without walking off to the images.
The images were basically gifs of repeated sex movements from porn clips,some were animations like 3D sex positions.I later whacked off but not thinking about the images,just to my imaginations.
I later came to and felt bad about it.The question is did I relapse? Will this affect my reboot and what I accomplished in the last 2 years??? I’m kind of worried and paranoid now about it now and been thinking about it the last 2 days.Also the images I saw were not as hardcore as the porn I used to watch,and it was also just gifs.I haven’t seen a full blown porn video with moans and sounds in like 2 years,so I don’t know what kind of damage sex gifs can do.
Please give me some insight guys,I hope I didn’t ruin my streak with that stupid decision I made of looking at sex gifs.Is this considered a relapse or just a small set back?
I also don’t want this to affect my sex life with my wife,I can’t afford to go back to looking at porn or any of that garbage.I refuse to go back.I made a small mistake these few days,but I repented and acknowledged my error.
Thoughts???

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