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Success Stories / Re: 1 Month Porn Free!
« on: December 09, 2019, 03:18:24 PM »
Awesome!! Keep it up and don't forget to have a strong WHY in mind as your journey will get harder and harder. ;)

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Success Stories / Re: Day 122 and PIED healed
« on: December 09, 2019, 03:17:28 PM »
Awesome success story dude!  I'm around day 150 and my experience has been very similar to yours.  I haven't had sex with the girl yet but with oral everything is working great and I'm getting more comfortable.  Great work dude!

Awesome! I hope your journey is going great.

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Success Stories / Re: Day 122 and PIED healed
« on: December 09, 2019, 03:16:12 PM »
Awesome stuff man! really glad you posted a lot of gold here! A huge one for me is to become more aware of my "why" so I am going to aim to do that.

Great! You'll see that a strong WHY will help you. ;)

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Success Stories / Re: Day 122 and PIED healed
« on: December 09, 2019, 03:15:29 PM »
Thank you. I needed this story. I identify with your experience. I am impressed with your courage to have an open and honest conversation. I can see why that paid off for you. Congrats. You earned your success with dedication and courage. I am a grow man but I scared of sex. I am scared of disappointment. I think oral is a good way to go. Less pressure to perform. Thanks for inspiration!

Thank you! It's not easy to be honest about that with your partner but I think this is the key to unlock your full potential in your rebooting journey. Keep it up my friend.

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Success Stories / Day 134 and PIED healed
« on: November 26, 2019, 06:19:13 PM »
Hey guys! I'm happy to say that my PIED is healed but I also want to help others so here's my story from the start (I'll make it simple I promise).

Before nofap

13 y/o: I started to watch porn at least one time per day in the morning or before going to sleep (or both). Now I am 24 years old.
16 y/o: I got my first girlfriend Sara and had successful sex for years with this same girl.
17 y/o: Still with Sara but still watching porn everyday even if I have a healthy sexual life with a partner
21 y/o: Still in couple with Sara and still watching porn everyday. PIED started to show up because wasn't able anymore to have easy erections with her. At that time I didn't know what PIED was. I went to see a doctor and he prescribed Cialis to me. It didn't work. At that point, I started to have anxiety and I was afraid of having sex with Sara because I knew that I had difficulties to get hard.
22 y/o: My relationship with Sara ended and I was afraid to date other women because of my condition. At this point I didn't know the existence of PIED yet.
23 y/o: I tried to date 4 different women and experienced PIED again and it made me weaker and more afraid about having sex.
24 y/o: I discovered an interview about PIED and understood that this was happening to me for multiple years. I started my no PMO HARDMODE journey.

My nofap journey

Day 1 to 10: It was very hard to resist urges to masturbate but I understood that I needed a STRONG WHY. I needed to know why I was doing no PMO and I wanted to make sure that this WHY will always be stronger than my sexual urges.

Day 11 to 30: The temptations were harder and harder to resist so I created a exit plan that I needed to execute everytime I had a urge. My rules are: delete all sexual triggers (Instagram, tinder, bumble, facebook, youtube, tumblr, etc), if I get a urge I HAVE TO RUN AND LEAVE THE ROOM and never touch my penis except to shower or to pee. I applied those rules during all of my journey and it helped a lot. Plus, my WHY was very strong.

If you want to know my why: It is important to me to have a great relationship with my girlfriend and I think that sex is important. I am young and I don't want to miss all of my best sexual years because of porn and immediate pleasure. An other point is that I don't want to encourage the porn industry because they ruin lives, they abuse women and men and they created PIED. For me, these reasons are so strong that they will overcome every sexual urge that I have during my reboot.

Day 31 to 60: My journey was getter easier and easier. Urges were gone and I didn't even think about sex. I still didn't have morning woods or random erection during the day so maybe I was not healed yet or was in a flatline state.

Day 61 to 90: I signed up on tinder because I thought that I was ready to try sex and confirm that I was healed. I met a girl for a one night, everything was very great but when it was time to have sex, I limp-dicked her. It means that I didn't have any form of erection all night. NADA. Nothing worked. Next morning with this girl, I had a 1/4 of a boner and she felt it to she tried again and touched it with her hand... here's the result: I came in 2 seconds without any erection. You heard right: I ejaculated while my dick was at its rock-bottom (limp). I didn't understand what happened and it made me scared about sex again.

Day 92: I met a girl and had the crush of my life. I tried to have sex with her and nothing worked. I limp-dicked her too. In my mind, I wasn't healed at all and I still had PIED. But I wanted this girl so bad. You know what I did? I told her everything on this first date. I told her about my PIED experience, in fact I told her everything you are reading right now. She understood and accepted to have other dates with me.

Day 100: I am in love with this girl and she is in love with me. We tried oral sex because she was in her periods, and IT WORKED!!! 100% WORKED!! NO DICK PROBLEM. And I tell you, it worked multiple times. At that time, I realized that the fact that I told her everything deleted all of my sexual anxiety and my fear about sex. I limp-dicked her the first time because I was afraid and I was expecting PIED again.

Day 101 to 110: I experienced morning woods every morning and random erections all day for the first time in my journey. I realized that being transparent and honest with my girlfriend (yes she is) unlocked every missing pieces that I needed to recover.

Day 111 to 122: I now have successful sex (oral, vaginal, anal) without any problem and without using any pill and I can last more than an hour of intense sex with her. She even told me that she never had sex as good as this with anyone else.

I can say that I am healed now because I am not afraid of sex anymore.


Guys, don't hesitate to comment below if you have any question or if you want to know some details that I forgot to mention. Keep up the good work! YOU WILL HEAL.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Day 100 - From hardmode to not hardmode.
« on: November 26, 2019, 05:07:06 PM »
That is awesome and inspiring man!

Doing good on my end, haven't been feeling good all the time but been PMO free, so long as I keep that going I know that I am moving forward.

Yeah for sure, it's a permanent lifestyle change and something to stay vigilant about.

I'd be interested in hearing about your path to 100 days as well. Maybe at some point you may want to post about it here or in success stories?

Keep it up man! Looking forward to being inspired by and hearing about your continued success!


Good to hear man! Yes of course I'll post a topic about my path to 100 days and I'll let you know when I do!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Day 100 - From hardmode to not hardmode.
« on: November 26, 2019, 12:15:41 PM »
Hey man, hope all is well! Keep up the good work!

Hey bro! I'm 122 days in no PMO today and las weekend I had successful sex multiple times with my girlfriend without any problem, I feel no anxiety about PIED anymore and my PIED is healed!

Even if I am healed, my goal is to live a life without pmo so i'm never going back to porn!

I hope everything is very good on your side too my friend!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Day 100 - From hardmode to not hardmode.
« on: November 18, 2019, 12:28:19 PM »

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It's not supposed to be easy. Define a strong "why" and just don't pmo at all. If you have PIED, you don't want to touch your dick until you're healed. Be a man and stop trying to find immediate satisfaction like MO because no PMO is too hard for you! It will only set you back and you will take more time to heal.

DEFINE A WHY AND STOP TO PMO.

Tricks that helped me a lot with urges:
1. Don't ever touch your dick except to clean it.
2. If you have a urge to masturbate, know that a urge usually lasts 10 minutes than go away if you're strong enough to do nothing.
3. If you have a urge, get out of the actual place where you would start PMO and RUN to the kitchen to make a snack or go outside take a walk.
4. Delete social medias (instagram, facebook, tinder, bumble, etc)
5. Share your situation with a close friend that can understand
6. Educate yourself on the subject of porn-induced erectile dysfonction because there is a lot you seem to don't know about yet. The more educated you are on your situation, the more you will be motivated to get out of that situation and you will do anything in your power to do it.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Day 100 - From hardmode to not hardmode.
« on: November 14, 2019, 10:24:33 AM »
Massive congrats bro! Keep up the good word.

From my experience, some crucial things are:

Don't do too much. Like aim to only orgasm sometimes. What would happen with me, I'd orgasm once it'd be great. Then I'd feel almost a little compulsive and would with more difficulty cum again with my girlfriend. Eventually stuff like that, could lead to me fantasizing about Porn in order to keep going OBVIOUSLY not good. So just enjoy whats going on with your girlfriend and do not push yourself to do too much and you should be good.

Be prepared for occasional chaser effect, where doing stuff with your girlfriend can actually result in urges and cravings for PMO afterward (it's all just a part of a recovery).

Also, I found it helpful to still do some rewiring type stuff. It can be really good to some nights make out a bunch, cuddle etc. without  you cumming. I found that to be super good for helping along the reboot and strengthening erection quality.

But everyone's a little different, so some pitfalls I made to avoid/ a couple things that helped me.

Congrats bro! 100 days is great. Just keep this up NO MATTER WHAT. Challenges may still arise, even major ones you'd never expect , that's life but it's still going to be awesome to be free of this issue.

Thank you my friend! I will absolutely take in consideration what you said.

I just achieved 110 days no PMO today :D

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Day 100 - From hardmode to not hardmode.
« on: November 05, 2019, 10:09:28 AM »
Im gonna cease to exist here at some point because i saw admins are simply not that smart. but. If you are talking about errors that you should not do, I would have to say self pleasing yourself. Porn use is simply self pleasing yourself. Do not do that in any shape or form and you will be alright forever and ever (regarding PIED and porn addiction).

Thank you Johnny!

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Ages 20-29 / Day 100 - From hardmode to not hardmode.
« on: November 04, 2019, 06:25:12 PM »
Hey guys! today is my day 100 on no PMO hardmode, so it's been 100 days since I watched porn, masturbated, orgasm and had any sex with a partner.

Long story short: I had PIED, now my PIED is gone (or almost) because I had successful oral sex with my new girlfriend but we didn't attempt full penetration yet. My girlfriend is completely aware of my PIED experience and everything related to it and now I want to continue my no PMO lifestyle while maintaining a healthy sexual relationship with her.

Do you have any tips and tricks for me?

Since I will continue my no PMO adventure with a partner (so not hardmode), I want to know if there's any different things I should start to do or add some good habits? What are the errors I shouldn't do?

THANK YOU.

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