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Teens / Re: Yo kiddos! Read this!!! It'll help
« on: October 29, 2018, 07:55:20 PM »
yeah, sorry guys. I guess I was in way over my head in offering up my advice to a porn addict forum. It worked for me though, so I thought I'd offer it up.

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Teens / Re: Yo kiddos! Read this!!! It'll help
« on: October 28, 2018, 10:45:26 PM »
My message wasn't just directed at you, this is a forum. I do believe other people can get value out of my message though.

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Teens / Re: Yo kiddos! Read this!!! It'll help
« on: October 28, 2018, 12:50:10 PM »
What I'm saying is the whole idea of going for a long streak of avoiding masturbation is pointless. On all of these journals I'm reading people are going for long streaks and get upset when they break them. Having a long streak will not fix your problems.

And you seriously don't see a problem with identifying with PIED? Not being able to get it up is mostly your nervousness level for most people and thinking you have a disease definitely will not help with that

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Teens / Yo kiddos! Read this!!! It'll help
« on: October 27, 2018, 09:42:24 AM »
OK, so I'm starting to realize that this website is like the WebMD of "I was losing my virginity and I couldn't get it up", looking over some other people's journals. WebMD meaning you have a little cold so you google it and then think you have some serious illness. A lot of guys don't get it up on their first times, it's natural. Nerves are so high, and if you watch any porn it can look like a super easy and effortless thing to get hard in a second and pound away for like 15 minutes. It's kind of similar to if you've never played basketball and you only watch NBA games and then are told to play with them. I can tell you that you would be nervous as shit and probably wouldn't be able to play well. Except with sex it's different because if you are nervous it has a direct relation to your dick and if your dick isn't up you're not even playing.

So I personally believe the solution to that problem is to just not be so god damn nervous. Easier said than done though lol. Find a girl that you can be with for awhile and try to avoid sex for a bit. Feel her, embrace her, just be with her. I don't believe this current hookup culture we are in is a good thing, especially for guys with nervousness problems. Don't identify with PIED. Admitting you have a problem should not be the first step, at least for younger guys. Saying you have a problem will only make you more nervous for next time you attempt to have sex. Avoid porn, as it promotes unrealistic standards for both men and women which will only further your issues.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: October 27, 2018, 09:36:25 AM »
Day 18 (This is what I wished I would have known before starting all of this)

OK, so I'm starting to realize that this website is like the WebMD of "I was losing my virginity and I couldn't get it up", looking over some other people's journals. WebMD meaning you have a little cold so you google it and then think you have some serious illness. A lot of guys don't get it up on their first times, it's natural. Nerves are so high, and if you watch any porn it can look like a super easy and effortless thing to get hard in a second and pound away for like 15 minutes. It's kind of similar to if you've never played basketball and you only watch NBA games and then are told to play with them. I can tell you that you would be nervous as shit and probably wouldn't be able to play well. Except with sex it's different because if you are nervous it has a direct relation to your dick and if your dick isn't up you're not even playing.

So I personally believe the solution to that problem is to just not be so god damn nervous. Easier said than done though lol. Find a girl that you can be with for awhile and try to avoid sex for a bit. Feel her, embrace her, just be with her. I don't believe this current hookup culture we are in is a good thing, especially for guys with nervousness problems. Don't identify with PIED. Admitting you have a problem should not be the first step, at least for younger guys. Saying you have a problem will only make you more nervous for next time you attempt to have sex. Avoid porn, as it promotes unrealistic standards for both men and women which will only further your issues.

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I would definitely say to be wary of calling it PIED.  It's common knowledge that guys don't always get it up their first times because of nerves and if you start calling it PIED right away then that will only compound your nerves when you start thinking that you have this serious dysfunction.

I mean, porn isn't a good thing, sure. But to say you have a dysfunction is pushing it a little hard. I would just say to get a girlfriend and then avoid sex for a little bit. Embrace her, be with her. Your problems will be behind you soon. Good luck man

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: October 24, 2018, 10:55:36 PM »
Day 15

I'm having few struggles with all of this. One of the biggest though is my levels of lust, I pretty much stare down a lot of girls now and it makes me feel creepy haha. (trigger warning) There was this girl that came to my juggling club and hung out for a bit and she was wearing one of those crop top things. She wasn't wearing a bra so you could pretty much see and imagine what her boobs looked like. Worst of all she had nipple piercings which you could clearly  see through her shirt.. I was going crazy, it feels good to relieve the tension I had through writing in this journal though. I dont know if you guys will be triggered by what I just wrote so I'll put a warning before it.

But I guess my problem is that things like that happen all of the time. I get obssessed with it, can't stop thinking about it, don't know how to get my mind off of it. Literally all the fucking time, I am part of this French club and want to have sex with every single girl in there. Is there something wrong with me or is this how everyone is? Maybe I need to go 100% overboard and just go all into the club lifestyle and sexualize everything until I get it out of my system or maybe I should just go zen monk mode and ignore everything until it goes away. The latter is impossible and I know the former is not the best for my development so somewhere inbetween I guess?

Ummm.. so dick health: morning wood is sprouting like a spring flower every morning. That's good.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: October 21, 2018, 03:05:37 AM »
Day 12

I'm not sure im going in the right direction rn. I went over to a friend's house for a beerlympics tonight and didn't really talk to any girls that were interested in me. Now usually at a bar I would find at least 1 baby to bring home and talk to, but nope, not tonight. Maybe that's good though, cathartic even? Maybe I should be avoiding sex, thoughts? I definitely have not jerked off despite wanting to.

If you read this, respond lol

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: October 16, 2018, 03:53:45 PM »
Day 7

Holy shit. I had the most realistic dream ever that I broke my streak. I literally had to check my browsing history to make sure I didn't. I didn't though :)

1 week though, that's cool.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Venting and maybe starting a Journal
« on: October 13, 2018, 09:48:08 PM »
If you think you can just avoid PMO then great! But something that helped me a lot on my first streak was to M like every 3 of days without porn for a couple of weeks before going all in and giving up everything.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: October 13, 2018, 09:45:02 PM »
Day 4

Things are going well. I haven't had any serious urges to PMO and I've been waking up with some steady MW so I'm happy. I think on Tuesday (1 week) I'm  going to start trying harder to get a girl friend. I have a couple of prospects in mind so I'll hit them up and then tell you guys how it went lol (if anyone even actually reads this journal haha). I think I'll try to do at least one thing a day that moves me in the right direction... Anyways, I'm pretty excited about all this so wish me luck!

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Venting and maybe starting a Journal
« on: October 11, 2018, 12:54:01 PM »
dude! the media is the worst thing ever lol. You can be doing literally anything and be blasted with sexual images. I have to avoid snapchat stories as well even.. It's everywhere!! Good luck at staying away from it though

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: October 10, 2018, 01:26:26 PM »
Absolutely dude. I gave it up for awhile last year but then it fucking snared me again haha... And I guess I should've phrased my last post differently, but I don't like to deal with absolutes. I guess on this occasion though it's like smoking where there are very few, if any benefits.

Day 1

Search history cleared. Jerk-off tissues removed from room. Room cleaned.

Hopefully that is all of the M-related things I need out of my room to reduce urges... Eh, who knows. The only thing I really need to keep out of my room when the urges hit is my brain. I'll get out quick next time they come knocking.

The main thing I have to watch out for is drinking late at night with my friends and then going off to my room alone. That's when they come hard. When I'm at my weakest. I'm sure many of you guys can relate to that.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: October 09, 2018, 04:35:34 PM »
Day 0

I'm back...

So I feel like I should update you all on how I've been doing as I want to begin posting here for the next couple of months...
My sex life is scattered at best as I don't have a girlfriend, but it is there. I am able to get an erection and have sex, I'm still pretty nervous to wear a condom as the last time I wore one (like 16 months ago) it didn't go to well, so I just don't wear them (I know, not safe..). However, when I'm having sex I feel like I just don't get those hard erections like I want. So for now I'm going to give up the whole PMO thing and see how things go.

So now for the sad part, I hopped right back into PMO once I gave up this journal. I don't really have much to say about it.

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Success Stories / IDK if I'm fully healed but I got some action
« on: March 17, 2018, 04:54:51 PM »
I posted this a month ago in my journal and then just realized that it would be considered a success story.

Day (Something. i don't really know, I haven't PMO'ed in like 7 months but MO'ed like a week ago)

I had actual sex last night, woohoo! Everything worked just the way it should, I got an erection without jerking it at all. I Just pulled down my pants and was good to go. I moved through several positions and maintained my erection the whole time.

But now for the important part... What was different this time vs. the last time I tried but failed to get fully hard? I think it was a combination of not being as nervous (I've been with this girl before and have failed to have sex with her and she didn't judge me so I knew she wouldn't if I failed again) and not watching over sexualized pornographic material that puts me into my head whenever anything slightly sexual happens to me.

Maybe this was another reason: I used to think that I had to oversexualize my thoughts and "pump" myself up to be hard for sex. The other day when I had sex though I just let myself go with the flow and move things along with the girl at a not sped up pace.

I wasn't thinking about this journal or that PIED even existed, I just carried on with what I thought was right and my Johnson did too.


So for the future: I'm done with porn. That was a part of my life in the past and I "enjoyed" it before I found out that it was hurting me. I won't continue doing something if I know that it is hurting me and it offers no upside. I drink alcohol, it hurts me, but the upside is that I have a fun time socializing with others while doing so (I should quit that too, but one battle at a time haha).

With regards to this journal, I really enjoy writing. It helps me process my emotions and things that have been going on throughout my day as well as keep a record of what I actually do. It's hard to sit on my butt and play video games all day if I know I'm going to be writing about it later. I'm probably going to keep my future journaling to pen and paper though, it just seems better suited to my goals. Thanks for everything people of RebootNation :)

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: February 18, 2018, 01:26:25 PM »
Day (Something. i don't really know, I haven't PMO'ed in like 7 months but MO'ed like a week ago)

I had actual sex last night, woohoo! Everything worked just the way it should, I got an erection without jerking it at all. I Just pulled down my pants and was good to go. I moved through several positions and maintained my erection the whole time.

But now for the important part... What was different this time vs. the last time I tried but failed to get fully hard? I think it was a combination of not being as nervous (I've been with this girl before and have failed to have sex with her and she didn't judge me so I knew she wouldn't if I failed again) and not watching over sexualized pornographic material that puts me into my head whenever anything slightly sexual happens to me.

Maybe this was another reason: I used to think that I had to oversexualize my thoughts and "pump" myself up to be hard for sex. The other day when I had sex though I just let myself go with the flow and move things along with the girl at a not sped up pace.

I wasn't thinking about this journal or that PIED even existed, I just carried on with what I thought was right and my Johnson did too.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: February 17, 2018, 04:05:58 AM »
@sleepking69:

For 1 or 2 days after I break a streak (at least 1 week) of no PMO I feel really powerful. Like my urge to talk and bang girls is up 300%. But after those 1 or 2 days it pretty much goes back to normal.

How have things been going with you? I haven't really been keeping track of the journals on this site anymore but remembered you had a pretty long streak going on.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: February 10, 2018, 10:22:51 PM »
Hi guys, if you are in a position where you think rebooting is pointless and want to live a life where you PMO or even MO frequently just because it fits your habits and it "feels good" you may want to read this.

I went 173 days without MO'ing or using porn so you think I would've had it all figured out. I just MO'ed twice in my bathroom without porn, and wow, the first one felt glorious. About 10 minutes later though, a darkness crept over me and I went back into the bathroom to get my "fix".

That is what I'm not going to do anymore. If I'm not inspired out of happiness to MO, I will not MO. When I MO out of desperation and darkness I feel dirty afterwards. I don't think there is much more I can say on this subject so I'll just leave you guys with this:

MO while happy = Good
MO out of desperation and a lacking feeling = Bad

Learn the difference and you will be golden.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: January 18, 2018, 11:09:23 AM »
It's over.

After 173 days of not looking at porn or masturbating my streak has come to an end. I will probably never go for another streak, atleast of this magnitude. So, was it worth it? I guess just to learn about how my urges come and go was interesting, and my relationship with PMO was pretty extreme beforehand so overall I would say it was a good thing for me to do. I'm actually writing this a few days after my "relapse" with MO and am suprised that since that night, I have had no desire to MO again. IDK, maybe it was because the decision to MO again was on my terms and not the obsessive habit that I had created for myself in the past.

From now on I think my motto will be moderation. It's funny, reading other journals in the past that had things related to moderation in them frusturated me. I assume that was just because I was trying to be so strict with my no MO habits that anything else bothered me. But now, after becoming more aware of my body's natural cycles I know I can control myself better.

I believe that a lot of the positive aspects that people recieve from rebooting and writing down their days comes more from being aware of what you are doing with your time and not so much the retention of semen by not MO'ing. Being aware of what you are doing in the day seems to be a rarity nowadays. People put their heads down and don't experience anything, seriously, look around at people next time you are out. Switching your days up with a reboot can be very changing (for me at least) thing and can snap you out of the repetitiveness of life.


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Ages 20-29 / Re: Journey to a better me
« on: January 09, 2018, 02:10:48 PM »
I love doing that! Especially when people are in a rush, I like to just take a step back for a little bit and ask myself "what is happening right now and is it really THAT important?"

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Ages 20-29 / Re: The Importance of Rewiring (22, PIED)
« on: December 28, 2017, 06:45:27 PM »
I 100% agree with you. I haven't PMO'ed or MO'ed in over 5 months and I honestly think going any further won't help me at all. I just need a supportive girl to stick by my side as I get through my problem.

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If I were you I would be wary of calling it PIED right away, that can cause further anxiety about the issue. It's a super common thing for guys to have anxiety and not be able to get it up when they are having sex for the first time.

We are in pretty much the same situation though, except I'm 5 months without masturbating or viewing porn. I honestly think for people like us, the best thing that we can do is to find a girl that is willing to be patient with us. Someone we can talk to and say "hey, I get nervous and it might take me a couple tries before I'm good to go".

You should stop jerking off to porn though just in case. Also, drinking heavily has never been good for boners haha.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: God mode
« on: December 20, 2017, 03:52:01 AM »
Good luck to you on you journey :). Only time will tell how it will benefit you, but don't worry, it 100% will benefit you.

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Journey to a better me
« on: December 17, 2017, 03:50:54 PM »
Are you trying to get a girlfriend asking all these girls out or are you just trying to hook up with them?

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Ages 20-29 / Re: Starting Now Limp to Rock
« on: December 17, 2017, 04:39:23 AM »
Day 143

Wow, I just noticed it has been a long while since my last post, over 2 weeks! I just feel weird posting updates about how my PIED and nofap journey is going when I have not had any new sexual experiences to write about, nor have I felt any extreme desires to PMO. So I guess I'll just write a little bit about that!

Finding a girl that I like, and also that likes me (very hard to do it seems), is a huge struggle. I've "talked" and hungout with 4 different girls this past semester and none of them were interested in me as a partner. I'm not very good at talking to girls, or people in general I guess. I just wish that these girls wouldn't talk to me if they weren't looking to be in a relationship with me, it's kind of annoying to get your hopes up to only be told that this is not what they were looking for. I really need to find a way to avoid the dreaded friend zone, or ideally, avoid the girls that aren't interested in me in the first place. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated!

On a bright side, while my desire to PMO is still there (I think it always will be, honestly), my levels of self control towards PMO'ing are very high.I feel like I have become much more thoughtful in my actions and PMO'ing just isn't the right move for me. I suppose that is the goal for anyone trying to abstain from this addiction.

A strange sense of melancholy is overtaking me as I write this... I feel that it is because my nofap journey is no longer new and exciting. This journey has taken me through a whole semester of school, introduced me to much healthier habits, and taught me that I can control my physical urges in ways that I would have not though possible before. I mean, I would regularly PMO 3-4 times a day, and now I haven't even masturbated in 143 days! This just fills me with the exciting idea that anyone can do it, I'm not special at all guys!

I know I've said this before, but I think I am officially going to stop posting on this site until I get some tangible results. This doesn't mean I will start to MO again of course, but I feel like I'm just beating a dead horse at this point posting journal updates with no update.

Thank You for all of your support over the past few months! It has both pushed me to succeed and helped me to steer clear of the dangers of PMO! This community is awesome and I will send anyone here that is struggling with Pornography. Good luck you guys! :)

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