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Reboot Nation Forum => Porn Addiction => Topic started by: Quercus on January 19, 2015, 11:20:21 AM

Title: 60 y/o newbie
Post by: Quercus on January 19, 2015, 11:20:21 AM
Had sex with my wife this morning and, once again, didn't orgasm although I enjoyed it immensely.  Came back to my private office (separate building behind our house) and did a search on the effects of porn on "normal" sex lives... and here I am! 

About 11 years ago, my wife was taken off the pill (she's a bit older than me) and WHAMMO... menopause and no more libido.  Overnight.  She was only on the pill to control her periods.  We've tried many things over the years - she's missed sex, too - but none of them worked.  Seriously, we had sex three times in 10 years... and I remember everyone of them.  I still love(d) her very much during all that time and would never leave her because I don't blame her, she wanted her sex life back, too.  As a result, I turned to internet porn.  Over the 10 years + it was a pretty regular thing, multiple times a week and had progressed into some dark areas.

We had spoken to our PCP and other doctors about the sex problem but nobody seemed to take it seriously.  My wife had HRT for a short time but didn't seem to help.  It's like, it's "normal" for these old people to just not have sex anymore so don't worry about it.  Then about three months our PCP got interested in hormone pellets and we both had them inserted into our butts.  HOLY CRAP I didn't feel much difference but my wife made a 180 degree turnaround!  I could barely keep up with her in the bedroom.  It wasn't until then that the effects of too much porn stimulation became apparent.  I literally enjoy her multiple orgasms enough to call it good but I recognized pretty early on that I had retrained my brain and wasn't functioning properly anymore.  This was confirmed by watching a couple of the videos, one from this website and one from TED.  I could masturbate with her or by myself but no orgasm through normal sex as before. 

Just this morning, after learning all this new info, I've deleted my porn sites and swore off porn! I'm so thankful to have found this information although I was kinda suspecting this was the case already.

Not sure what benefits there are for no masturbation but we'll see.  That's a practice that I've had somewhere in the neighborhood of 50 years so not sure about that one. 

Title: Re: 60 y/o newbie
Post by: Innocence on January 19, 2015, 11:44:02 AM
Welcome to the forum bud!

We're glad to have you here and you've got quite a story why I get you're swearing off porn.
Some people could consider their selves lucky for rebooting early, you can consider yourself lucky for being older.

In your case you could call yourself lucky too, as you were younger you probably already have yourself wired to real girls and not porn.
Therefore your progress may go quicker and I would like to recommend to try it 90 days :)

Feel free to also keep a journal where you post and maybe even read other people their journal, after all we're one big community and supporting each other in our long journey.
Also, on there are many interesting videos/articles/blogs to read to educate yourself on the topic and boost your motivation.

Good luck and stay strong!
Title: Re: 60 y/o newbie
Post by: Quercus on January 19, 2015, 09:25:21 PM
I feel VERY lucky to not have become wired on porn at a younger age, very lucky indeed!  I had no idea how dangerous it was - really - until this morning when I stumbled upon all this info.  Growing up, we always felt lucky to find an old Playboy thrown out or even a National Geographic with topless native women.  Seriously... things have changed quite a  bit and I completely understand the part about change happening faster than our bodies can adapt. I'm big into nutrient dense foods and garden myself to try to provide foods that are more complete like ones we evolved with rather than what many people eat. 

I understand addiction, I have a daughter who is dealing with it.  I, on the other hand feel confident in my ability to walk away cleanly.  I smoked a pack a day (back when cigs were 50 cents a pack!) for 10 years and just up and quit one day when I decided it was time.   Hopefully, I still have the same will power. 

Thanks and glad to be here and very glad to have found this information!  It all makes perfect sense but I had to see it to "get it."
Title: Re: 60 y/o newbie
Post by: ready2go on January 21, 2015, 01:22:34 PM
Hi Quercus,
Your post rang a couple of bells for me, and am glad to know you are here.  Also wondering what kind of hormone pellets go up the butt?  I've never heard of those.  Maybe we need some around our house since we're around the same age and I see the same sort of history.

We're all here to support each other, and hopefully you'll find this helpful as you move through your process.  I've been here almost constantly during my free time to learn all I can, read as much as I can, and find my journey isn't that different from the other dudes here. 

Contact me if you wish anytime.  Best to you, with love and support.  r2g
Title: Re: 60 y/o newbie
Post by: Reformed Fapper on January 21, 2015, 10:59:22 PM
Never too late to reboot mate!
Im sure youll get back to a normal and satisfying sex life with this method.
Please rely on this forum for all of your support!