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Reboot Nation Forum => Partners of Rebooters and Addicts => Topic started by: Noroomforit on October 10, 2016, 09:40:42 PM

Title: Why I cant be supportive
Post by: Noroomforit on October 10, 2016, 09:40:42 PM
I'm sure not many of you feel this way but I do. I shouldn't have to be supportive. I didn't ask to be put through this. I won't stay if he makes this choice again. If he wants to throw away 2 years and the bonds our children have made with each other and with us, then that's on him not me. I deserve better than to have the man I have dedicated my life to, make the choice to find his pleasure from images and videos of other women, epecially when I'm always ready and willing. It's cheating period. I can promise he would not be supportive of me if I went out and found a way to get the rush that he gets from porn (i can promise it won't be images on the computer or phone). I've told him as much and he took me serious. It's been over a week and no evidence of it happening since. I'm not saying I've won any prize, because he's been a bit grouchy but getting better. It would break my heart to live without him but I'll survive. I commend you all that are strong enough to stay and support these men through success and failure. They don't know how lucky they are. I may lose a lot because of my coldness but he put this on me so we will both lose.
Title: Re: Why I cant be supportive
Post by: Kimba on October 10, 2016, 11:04:37 PM
Hi, don't blame you, if I didn't have so much invested in this relationship and feel like Im bit trapped I probably would of headed straight out the door myself, the lies, deceipt, my standing by him through thick and thin, then repays me with that crap.  Good luck with everything, we all deserve better
Title: Re: Why I cant be supportive
Post by: Noroomforit on October 11, 2016, 05:12:42 AM
The investment in the relationship is always the hardest part to leave behind. Until you turn around and see you've been the one doing all the investing and all he's been doing is going behind you and throwing it in the garbage. For your sake I hope he changes or that you find happiness elsewhere