ED: total erection only by contracting the perineum

Eidan

Active Member
Hello there,

first of all. m a french native speaker, so forgive my english if it s not as solid as yours :).

Thanks to yourbrainonporn i know now that i need a reboot. I ve stoped watching porn for a week, but so far i still masturbate, i wanna do it step by step and i know m'gonna need to give up on masturbation. I ve started mastrubating very young? like maybe when i was ten, but i ve only relied heavily on porn since I m 23. I m now 29.

I have had ED for two years now, but it has never been a big issue to me because it was a partial ED. Penetration was possible, and I was able to more or less satisfy my partners. But now it s becoming an issue, and not only for my sexual and romantic lives.

I have erections but they are never at their maximum. Hard enough to penetrate, but troublesome to have a condone on it for instance. My glans, the tip of my penis would be as wide and thick as the rest of my penis while with a maximum erection, my glans is wider and thicker than my penis. I only manage to get such an erection by contracting the perineum or when I m really excited ( girl screaming, hardcore porn etc) or after some days with no masturbation at all.

I just wanted to make sure that this kind of ED could be related to the porn addiction disorders I m suffering from.  Porno and masturbation has become a way to relieve from stress, i can even ejaculate without having even a partial erection ( no penetration possible ), it seems orgasm has just become a mean to an end, and that why i need this reboot. But i also need to know if my specific ED might be related to my sexual disorder.

Thanks your for your help !
 

Eidan

Active Member
well, I didn't get any answer but anyway, I think it might be useful to others to give you some feedback so here I am.

Ive started my reboot but on my terms. So far, 11 days with no PMO. I also try  to avoid as much as possible any visual stimulation similar to porn. I didn't completely stop masturbation, but I really decreased it s rate. Only one MO every 5 days, and i wanna increase the time between each MO. I also decided that there would be no direct hand stimulation during my masturbations, only rubbing against a pillow, I think my hand grip on my sex was maybe so strong that it might have played also a part in my ED.

It has only been 11 days but I already see some benefits. i don't MO, but every two days I masturbate, only by rubbing and no orgasm. Erections are maximum, normal size, and though i still use the perineum, it also gets naturally hard just by being horny. I intend to keep on that way, but decreasing the MO tough. M not longing for porn, except if I think about it, or remember it, then the urge comes strong and i really need to do or think about something else fast.

Ive read that after sometimes during the reboot, people experience a decrease in their libido (sexual appetite, sexual need, don't know how to say that in english.) So far, i don't experience it at all, but this is maybe because i still masturbate and MO.

Have a great day
 

chromatic

Member
Hey Eidan,
I went three-weeks and slowly began to feel less aroused as days went by. At first I worried that no-fap was causing me to lose interest in sex altogether, but was relieved to hear that it's just a natural part of rebooting that comes and goes. Personally I'm not sure if I'm looking to stop masturbation altogether (if I should, I'm happy to hear good advice) but after also reading that the masturbation "death-grip" might not be helping sufferers of ED I've also been looking to stop that bad habit during masturbation. Firstly because I do feel it doesn't pleasure me in a way that feels natural or sex-like, but also because ultimately I'd like to become more sensitive to a women's touch, and I'd like to know I can perhaps climax by her mouth or hands alone. Sadly, despite feeling pleasure I've never climaxed with a girl using just her mouth or hands, I always have to progress onto sex, and I think this is because my masturbation methods have gotten my penis so used to a different kind of stimulation (e.g. rough, harsh, death-grip) that I feel good when I'm touched by someone else, but it would take forever for them to make me climax without penetration. I always feel a little embarrassed during sex when a girl asks how I'd like her to touch me, because if I showed her how tightly I 'grip and budge' when I'm alone she'd probably feel uncomfortable doing something that actually looks kind of painful for the other person.

I was recently with a girl who had the greatest oral technique I've ever experienced in my life, but even though it felt incredible I instantly (and sadly) knew it wouldn't make me climax, simply because porn, porn and death-grip have wired my brain to climax with either hard/fast intercourse or harsh/intense masturbation. If I continue to masturbate during my no-porn journey I aim to arrive at a point where I can climax through experiencing soft-touch or no hands at all. Even when I was in a relationship my partner and I were big fans of the Tenga cups. They've always felt incredible and, much like the Fleshlight toys, do a good job of letting you reach orgasms you might never have reached before vaginally. I purchased one recently thinking the soft material could do a lot to help me steer away from hard grip-like pleasure, but was surprised to find that even these cups can be a little harsh, tight and uncomfortable after all. So if you have any luck with the 'no-hands plan' I'll be happy to hear your advice.
 
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