skipper
Member
Well, this is my journal.
I'd want to start from the begining, but first i want to tell you my native language isn't english, so please excuse my grammar and orthography mistakes. Also, i hope i won't give too many triggers to other people and myself.
I'm 44, addicted to porn and masturbation since 12. I started masturbation on my own (no one told me how to do it) and very soon i found out using pictures from lingerie and swimsuit catalogs increased the pleasure i got. Then about 17 i changed it to erotic magazines i bought near home and i had very hard time hiding them to my parents. In time i gathered a big number of material and i used to masturbate watching many mags at the same time spreading them over my bed.
Internet came to my life when i was 27 (that was in 1998), and with it a massive amount of an ever growing quantity of porn resources that has never stoped. At that time Internet wasn't the high speed thing it is now, but i managed to search and find many web pages with erotic and porn material.
Before that, in the old times of magazines things weren't good, but at least there was a limit of the amount of porn i could access. But when Internet arrived my masturbation cravings were going worst and much of my life downhill; spending so much time in front of the computer's screen and wasting many life opportunities.
Despite that, i managed to keep an active sexual life with my then girlfriend and later wife, although we only had sex about once a week (she kept complaining that wasn't enough for her, but i couldn't and wouldn't do more about it).
In 1999 i move by myself and i bought a TV just to put porn DVD's and VHS (yes, i still had those at the time). And amassed a huge number of CD i burned with the P material, but i never saw them, i always craved new stuff everytime. But for some reason i had to keep the pics and videos and couldn't just delete them.
I got married in february 2003, i kept the same amount of sex about once every one or two weeks, i noticed then i prefered much more watching porn and masturbate than having sex with my wife. At the time i was so numbed that it didn't bother me, i said to myself at least i was having sex with her.
Oh God, i can't help feel shame and anger towards myself!!!, but i know it has no point here and now and it's detrimental to my success' chances.
In 2006 I finally it got full speed internet at home, i used to spend most of my weekends in long sessions of masturbation and edging. My tastes started scaling up to more kinky and extreme, many times very self degrading. At that moment i didn't know it was because i need it to feel the same pleasure i used to.
I tried to reboot on my own many times before. Because something inside me kept telling me what i was doing was very wrong. So somtimes i destroyed the porn, thrashed the CD, DVDs, magazines and so on. But less than a week later everything started again.
Last sunday 20th was the moment i decided to do things a different way. I decided to join this Forum. Why was that?
We had long long weekend, it started on wednesday 16th til sunday 20th (i took one day from job's vacation and the rest was for national day and regular weekend). But I simply couldn't have sex with my wife any single day!!! I masturbated everyday and everytime i finished i said to myself "this must stop, i want to have sex with my wife", but it was useless i repeated the cycle many times those days.
Finally, on sunday morning, i made my wife climax using my fingers. Sad.
Later that day, i decided i had left things go too far too much time. I have to do something.
I'm doing something right now; I'm sharing this with you and even with myself.
I'd want to start from the begining, but first i want to tell you my native language isn't english, so please excuse my grammar and orthography mistakes. Also, i hope i won't give too many triggers to other people and myself.
I'm 44, addicted to porn and masturbation since 12. I started masturbation on my own (no one told me how to do it) and very soon i found out using pictures from lingerie and swimsuit catalogs increased the pleasure i got. Then about 17 i changed it to erotic magazines i bought near home and i had very hard time hiding them to my parents. In time i gathered a big number of material and i used to masturbate watching many mags at the same time spreading them over my bed.
Internet came to my life when i was 27 (that was in 1998), and with it a massive amount of an ever growing quantity of porn resources that has never stoped. At that time Internet wasn't the high speed thing it is now, but i managed to search and find many web pages with erotic and porn material.
Before that, in the old times of magazines things weren't good, but at least there was a limit of the amount of porn i could access. But when Internet arrived my masturbation cravings were going worst and much of my life downhill; spending so much time in front of the computer's screen and wasting many life opportunities.
Despite that, i managed to keep an active sexual life with my then girlfriend and later wife, although we only had sex about once a week (she kept complaining that wasn't enough for her, but i couldn't and wouldn't do more about it).
In 1999 i move by myself and i bought a TV just to put porn DVD's and VHS (yes, i still had those at the time). And amassed a huge number of CD i burned with the P material, but i never saw them, i always craved new stuff everytime. But for some reason i had to keep the pics and videos and couldn't just delete them.
I got married in february 2003, i kept the same amount of sex about once every one or two weeks, i noticed then i prefered much more watching porn and masturbate than having sex with my wife. At the time i was so numbed that it didn't bother me, i said to myself at least i was having sex with her.
Oh God, i can't help feel shame and anger towards myself!!!, but i know it has no point here and now and it's detrimental to my success' chances.
In 2006 I finally it got full speed internet at home, i used to spend most of my weekends in long sessions of masturbation and edging. My tastes started scaling up to more kinky and extreme, many times very self degrading. At that moment i didn't know it was because i need it to feel the same pleasure i used to.
I tried to reboot on my own many times before. Because something inside me kept telling me what i was doing was very wrong. So somtimes i destroyed the porn, thrashed the CD, DVDs, magazines and so on. But less than a week later everything started again.
Last sunday 20th was the moment i decided to do things a different way. I decided to join this Forum. Why was that?
We had long long weekend, it started on wednesday 16th til sunday 20th (i took one day from job's vacation and the rest was for national day and regular weekend). But I simply couldn't have sex with my wife any single day!!! I masturbated everyday and everytime i finished i said to myself "this must stop, i want to have sex with my wife", but it was useless i repeated the cycle many times those days.
Finally, on sunday morning, i made my wife climax using my fingers. Sad.
Later that day, i decided i had left things go too far too much time. I have to do something.
I'm doing something right now; I'm sharing this with you and even with myself.