MeepMan said:
Yes, this is definitely 100% true. The first time I tried to have sex, she expected me to pretty much do everything
which was really intimidating. It was almost like a trial or test rather than sex. The whole expected male dominance
stereotype seriously sucks. I'm just not a dominant guy to be honest.
How did you get around that anxiety?
It was probably worse for me because I lost my virginity as a teen and the girl thought I was experienced.
Well, I didn't help by telling her I was experienced 8)
Long story short, I was really nervous and my performance was horrible.
But as far as getting past that, it's all about gaining experience and building your confidence in the process.
Went through the same thing when i kissed a girl for the first time when i was a younger teen.
In the act, I was just thinking about all the pointers I got leading up to it.
But I found my groove the more I did it and sex is the same way.
I think just like with anything, the more you do it, the more confident you become to
really take charge of your actions.
I also want to point out that if it's actual intercourse that triggers your anxiety, then
perhaps you can make up for it with very attentive foreplay and just make her feel
it's all about her. So you may have to put in some overtime with the carpet munching
and whatever else you have in your foreplay arsenal. 8)
Because your anxiety is based on what she thinks of you. That's what is stressing you
out. Using my advice gives her every belief that satisfying her is your top priority and
even if your stroke isn't where you want it to be, it's all good because she will appreciate
your attitude.