holycabbage
Member
This has always been a touchy subject for me. A subject I felt I couldn't discuss with anybody for fear of being judged, or even shunned, given the circles I grew up in.
I started dabbling in porn when I was 16 (now 33), on my parent's computer. I started searching for images once a week, then videos every couple days. I made sure to delete the history so mom would never find out, but she did eventually. She didn't know it was me, so when asked about it, I blamed my brother, got him in a lot of trouble, and felt terrible about it.
But I didn't stop. Eventually I got my own computer and realized I could access all the pictures and videos of naked women that I wanted. I felt free, and I felt I didn't have to hide anything or be careful anymore. I had my own computer, my bedroom had a lock on it, I was set for life. This went on for a long time.
Fast forward 5 years. I was talking with this girl online for a while and we started getting serious. We'd send each other pictures, some clothed, some not so clothed, and after 8 months of doing this, I decided it was time to fly out and see her. So I book the flight and go. I got to the airport, she picked me up, and we go to our hotel room. She apparently couldn't wait very long, and before I knew it she was naked on the bed, telling me to join her. So I did, I had a hard time getting it up, but when I finally did, it didn't last very long, and didn't come back for the rest of the trip, so we spent a rather awkward 4 days together. So I went back home and got a phone call from her saying we were done.
So I grew resentful of women, and I grew angry with myself. I even convinced myself that no woman would ever want me, no woman would ever love me. And I felt the best way I could channel this resentment and anger was with porn. After all, why would I go out looking for women if they were just a click away? I carried this attitude with me for 12 years. 12 years of watching porn constantly, every day, sometimes twice, sometimes even three times a day. It made me depressed, it made me angry, it made me irritable, and it made me more resentful.
I spent 12 years trying to tell myself it's a habit, rather than an addiction. Something that I could give up any time I want. But every time I tried, I'd make it 3, maybe 4 days before it came back with a vengeance.
I got tired of living this way, so about 3 months ago, I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself, and go out, and try to have sex with a real person. She started to undress me, started playing with me, kissing me, but nothing was happening. At all. Not even a wiggle. She got fed up after a while, and told me to leave. So I did what any reasonable, self-respecting guy would do, and left, went home, and went straight to porn. I got hard instantly. That was the moment I realized I needed to get this out of my life, forever. I tried, and tried for about a month, to no avail. It was then that I started thinking "I need to commit to this. I need to do this."
I started reading and researching, and I came across sites like this, and they gave some useful advice which I decided to try and follow. A lot of it worked. I haven't watched porn in 2 months, and have never felt better. Then last week I found myself looking at pictures of naked women, albeit in non-sexual poses, but that was enough. I MOed, and felt depressed right after because I felt I was making such good progress, and felt that it was all wasted.
Then I came across this site. and started reading. And reading. And, when I got tired of reading, I read some more, and felt I had to make an account, even though I haven't been on a message board in years. Now, instead of a life filled with porn and video games, and porn while playing video games (not easy, trust me), I have a life where I feel there's a way out of this trap.
I'll close this with a post I read on another board about a month ago:
If you can get an erection, you don't need porn. If you can't get an erection, you definitely don't need porn.
I started dabbling in porn when I was 16 (now 33), on my parent's computer. I started searching for images once a week, then videos every couple days. I made sure to delete the history so mom would never find out, but she did eventually. She didn't know it was me, so when asked about it, I blamed my brother, got him in a lot of trouble, and felt terrible about it.
But I didn't stop. Eventually I got my own computer and realized I could access all the pictures and videos of naked women that I wanted. I felt free, and I felt I didn't have to hide anything or be careful anymore. I had my own computer, my bedroom had a lock on it, I was set for life. This went on for a long time.
Fast forward 5 years. I was talking with this girl online for a while and we started getting serious. We'd send each other pictures, some clothed, some not so clothed, and after 8 months of doing this, I decided it was time to fly out and see her. So I book the flight and go. I got to the airport, she picked me up, and we go to our hotel room. She apparently couldn't wait very long, and before I knew it she was naked on the bed, telling me to join her. So I did, I had a hard time getting it up, but when I finally did, it didn't last very long, and didn't come back for the rest of the trip, so we spent a rather awkward 4 days together. So I went back home and got a phone call from her saying we were done.
So I grew resentful of women, and I grew angry with myself. I even convinced myself that no woman would ever want me, no woman would ever love me. And I felt the best way I could channel this resentment and anger was with porn. After all, why would I go out looking for women if they were just a click away? I carried this attitude with me for 12 years. 12 years of watching porn constantly, every day, sometimes twice, sometimes even three times a day. It made me depressed, it made me angry, it made me irritable, and it made me more resentful.
I spent 12 years trying to tell myself it's a habit, rather than an addiction. Something that I could give up any time I want. But every time I tried, I'd make it 3, maybe 4 days before it came back with a vengeance.
I got tired of living this way, so about 3 months ago, I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself, and go out, and try to have sex with a real person. She started to undress me, started playing with me, kissing me, but nothing was happening. At all. Not even a wiggle. She got fed up after a while, and told me to leave. So I did what any reasonable, self-respecting guy would do, and left, went home, and went straight to porn. I got hard instantly. That was the moment I realized I needed to get this out of my life, forever. I tried, and tried for about a month, to no avail. It was then that I started thinking "I need to commit to this. I need to do this."
I started reading and researching, and I came across sites like this, and they gave some useful advice which I decided to try and follow. A lot of it worked. I haven't watched porn in 2 months, and have never felt better. Then last week I found myself looking at pictures of naked women, albeit in non-sexual poses, but that was enough. I MOed, and felt depressed right after because I felt I was making such good progress, and felt that it was all wasted.
Then I came across this site. and started reading. And reading. And, when I got tired of reading, I read some more, and felt I had to make an account, even though I haven't been on a message board in years. Now, instead of a life filled with porn and video games, and porn while playing video games (not easy, trust me), I have a life where I feel there's a way out of this trap.
I'll close this with a post I read on another board about a month ago:
If you can get an erection, you don't need porn. If you can't get an erection, you definitely don't need porn.