porn addicts have no sexual urges. i remember i was in a sex relationship once. every time i had a spontaneous erection, looked at girls on the street and got all horny.... i called my sex buddy. guess what, it kind of disappeared. i call her and i think about her coming to have sex and it became obvious to me, every time, that its not sex that my brain was after, its just the thoughts in the head, my imagination (porn). imagination in the head = porn. now i can differentiate easily between real sex and porn craving when im horny. its summer, some girls walk around with little clothes on. if im rebooting for some time, i can get all hyped up from seeing them but then i think about actually having sex with them, knowing them and shit what not... it happened many times that in those times i had that option to really have sex and go for it.... but PIED nonetheless... numbness, its just not it. no sex drive, just fake libido. sex is like 1 position, 1 girl, 1 place, 1 point of view for minutes at a time. its nothing like you imagine in your head when you get horny... dozens of different pictures coming at you all at once, changing every 10 seconds, just craziness that you are so used to...
like Done said, quit porn first. forget about getting rid of sex urges if you are struggling with PIED. its not a sex urge, its imagination (porn) in your head. try it out. that would be the best in terms of rewiring too. try to have fun with girls. there is nothing wrong with sex relationships in my opinion, as long as both parties are enjoying it and both of you can definitely enjoy it (not just sex).
