Hello everybody.
I've been reading some posts for a while, but now I've decided to join.
I had a relapse 4 and 5 days ago but before that, let me tell you how it started.
I started masturbating when I was young, I don't exactly remember my age, but I think I was like 8 or 9 years old. Then I found some pictures from commercials which I carefully cut out from the magazines and kept someplace secret and used those as fapping material. Then, when I was something like 16 years old, I went internet speed. Now I'm 24.
Even though I'm not satisfied and not completely free yet, I'd say I have made a big step into it.
The rebooting started years ago: I soon understood, felt deeply in my heart that fapping was not normal and not good for me. After fapping I would became nervous and rude to my family and to people near me.
The main triggers for me are: stress, fatigue, dissatisfaction with my life.
Right now I see it as a loop, i.e. you are dissatisfied, frustrated and look at porn, than you are even more dissatisfied and go back to porn, getting worse and worse and repeat. I think, and I've seen that the earlier I see it as a loop, I take awareness that I need to get out of it, take some time thinking about it, regaining my motivation and eventually I get out of it.
During the last years, when I relapsed, I went back to it for months, maybe a year; now I've understood this(loop model) and I think it helped me a lot; the ratio between the days I fapped in a year and the days of the year would be quite low compared to the 3 times per day I was used to; I think it would be no more than 30 days per year divided into 3 strikes(I took note every time about what I looked and what day was, but I lost the file and I just realized it!) This is a big step for me but I still need to walk my way out of it.
The next step I think it is to eradicate the unconscious thought out of my mind that porn is still an option. NO!! PORN IS NOT AN OPTION ANYMORE! This is for the times I'm too stressed to say no and the old habits get in the way and I need new, stronger and better habits.
The reason I'm doing this, is because it's not good for me, because it's a waste of time and so on.
We all know there are infinite reasons for stopping, but I think that everybody should think of his/her own. Personally, I have a long list written in paper with all the reasons why it's not worth looking at porn. As I mentioned, I reckon it's not good for me and in my life I want to strive to be better, to be the best version of my self. Here comes my username, and the topic's title, F4Add, fight for a different day, meaning better and I also like the acronym because is Add, I want to add better things in my life, to be able to add happiness to my life every day.
I've also experienced porn induced ED in the past,for example I didn't have morning woods which now I have and it's great.
Regarding the material, during the years I went from more extreme videos to some lighter pictures and youtube videos.
This has been my journey until now, I hope you'll be part of it in the future, and I'll be in yours (since we are here) for better results and great time sharing our stories.
We are a whole and as such a problem in one area of our lives will have effects on all the other areas, so I'll keep fighting until I'll be the winner. F4Add
So, comment, or write me and if you have any questions I'll be willing to answer you.
Thank you for reading. 8)
I've been reading some posts for a while, but now I've decided to join.
I had a relapse 4 and 5 days ago but before that, let me tell you how it started.
I started masturbating when I was young, I don't exactly remember my age, but I think I was like 8 or 9 years old. Then I found some pictures from commercials which I carefully cut out from the magazines and kept someplace secret and used those as fapping material. Then, when I was something like 16 years old, I went internet speed. Now I'm 24.
Even though I'm not satisfied and not completely free yet, I'd say I have made a big step into it.
The rebooting started years ago: I soon understood, felt deeply in my heart that fapping was not normal and not good for me. After fapping I would became nervous and rude to my family and to people near me.
The main triggers for me are: stress, fatigue, dissatisfaction with my life.
Right now I see it as a loop, i.e. you are dissatisfied, frustrated and look at porn, than you are even more dissatisfied and go back to porn, getting worse and worse and repeat. I think, and I've seen that the earlier I see it as a loop, I take awareness that I need to get out of it, take some time thinking about it, regaining my motivation and eventually I get out of it.
During the last years, when I relapsed, I went back to it for months, maybe a year; now I've understood this(loop model) and I think it helped me a lot; the ratio between the days I fapped in a year and the days of the year would be quite low compared to the 3 times per day I was used to; I think it would be no more than 30 days per year divided into 3 strikes(I took note every time about what I looked and what day was, but I lost the file and I just realized it!) This is a big step for me but I still need to walk my way out of it.
The next step I think it is to eradicate the unconscious thought out of my mind that porn is still an option. NO!! PORN IS NOT AN OPTION ANYMORE! This is for the times I'm too stressed to say no and the old habits get in the way and I need new, stronger and better habits.
The reason I'm doing this, is because it's not good for me, because it's a waste of time and so on.
We all know there are infinite reasons for stopping, but I think that everybody should think of his/her own. Personally, I have a long list written in paper with all the reasons why it's not worth looking at porn. As I mentioned, I reckon it's not good for me and in my life I want to strive to be better, to be the best version of my self. Here comes my username, and the topic's title, F4Add, fight for a different day, meaning better and I also like the acronym because is Add, I want to add better things in my life, to be able to add happiness to my life every day.
I've also experienced porn induced ED in the past,for example I didn't have morning woods which now I have and it's great.
Regarding the material, during the years I went from more extreme videos to some lighter pictures and youtube videos.
This has been my journey until now, I hope you'll be part of it in the future, and I'll be in yours (since we are here) for better results and great time sharing our stories.
We are a whole and as such a problem in one area of our lives will have effects on all the other areas, so I'll keep fighting until I'll be the winner. F4Add
So, comment, or write me and if you have any questions I'll be willing to answer you.
Thank you for reading. 8)