ruuddejong
Active Member
I am doing my reboot and I am in Day 5 - it is going relatively easy and I feel like the flatline is coming. However, I have a problem:
Last night wife finally told me that she never feels wanted and even when we have sex, she feels I am not really there and I just do it because we need to do it. She is right. I only do it because I know I have to. I don't even get horny next to her, wanting her etc. I just told her that I think she is very beautiful and sexy (and she is, honestly, a 10/10).
I am hoping this is all because of porn and my senses will come back to life in a few months but I cannot just stop having sex - AND I cannot tell her about my addiction. First years of relationship and marriage, we were doing it 3-4 times a week at least, and sometimes multiple times a day and I wasn't doing porn in that period because it was all new and exciting, so I did not need porn I guess.
The problem now is, unless I truly want her and initiate sex and make her feel it is real (not because I have to), she will not be happy and she can easily see the difference between now and then. And THAT won't happen anytime soon.
So my question is would using pills work? I never used one, so I am not sure if it just makes your thingy hard (i.e. just physical effect) or does it also make you want sex much more than usual? I guess it may slow down the progress and cause chaser effects etc but I am ready for that.
Last night wife finally told me that she never feels wanted and even when we have sex, she feels I am not really there and I just do it because we need to do it. She is right. I only do it because I know I have to. I don't even get horny next to her, wanting her etc. I just told her that I think she is very beautiful and sexy (and she is, honestly, a 10/10).
I am hoping this is all because of porn and my senses will come back to life in a few months but I cannot just stop having sex - AND I cannot tell her about my addiction. First years of relationship and marriage, we were doing it 3-4 times a week at least, and sometimes multiple times a day and I wasn't doing porn in that period because it was all new and exciting, so I did not need porn I guess.
The problem now is, unless I truly want her and initiate sex and make her feel it is real (not because I have to), she will not be happy and she can easily see the difference between now and then. And THAT won't happen anytime soon.
So my question is would using pills work? I never used one, so I am not sure if it just makes your thingy hard (i.e. just physical effect) or does it also make you want sex much more than usual? I guess it may slow down the progress and cause chaser effects etc but I am ready for that.