Hey Man,
I think its great that you decided to post how your feeling. It may have prevented the caca from hitting the fan for another day.
I'm not sure exactly how or why I started using porn back in the day. Probably because it made me feel good and I was lonely. I do know that after
20 years went by... I was using it to stay numb. Comfortably Numb. From stresses of everyday life, depression, lonliness, shame, self-esteem issues, regret of not having a family, and on and on. For me it wasn't just that I trained my brain to need it, It became a way to cope. Something I'm just learning is how to take those things that cause me so much anxiety and just accept and let them happen without running to pmo or food (I also a eat when I'm stressed)to escape the pain. I believe that having good ways to process these feelings, that will inevitably arise, is key to not only staying off porn but making me a better, happier person capable of having healthy relationships. I am still struggling but think these things have helped me:
1) Having someone to talk to that you trust and knows your story. It can be a relief just getting everyday things that anger or stress you off your chest, not allowing them to trigger you. A trigger I have to watch out for is thinking I am a failure if I slip up. I did a bad thing. I failed to control a behavior. I am not a failure.
2)Start a gratitude journal to remind you about all the great things you have and do. This puts the crappy stuff into perspective. Helps prevent dwelling on the negative.
3)Be accountable to someone other than yourself. RN is a great place to share and get feedback/support. Nobody will think your an a**hole. We all are/have battled the same demons.
4) Meditate and/or pray. I am still learning to meditate effectively. I know it can help me to live in the present and not think about negative things from the past or worry about the future. I would have something happen and keep thinking about it over and over and it's just not productive. On other occasions an urge to pmo would rear it' s ugly head and I'd suppress it over and over until it was so big I could not stop it and just wanted some relief. I would relapse. I think meditation helped me with that. It's not something that happened for me overnight I had to continue trying with little results for weeks. Just my 2 cents on what works for me.
You can do it, don't give up.