Hello all, and thanks for taking the time to tune in to my story
I'm a 27 year old guy, and I've grown addicted to porn from a very early age. Some friends of mine when I was kid discovered the power of Google and how it could request any random whim a 10 year old could have. One of those being, of course, "boobs". It's actually pretty innocent looking back. It wasn't rare to encounter said "boobs" in a crummy magazine in an odd yard sale somewhere in the middle of Virginia. But the internet being what it is, it didn't really stop there. After having typed another keyword relating to the same lexicon, I found what I was looking for : a woman posing naked on a rock. It shocked me, it felt wrong, it excited me, and I quickly closed the tab, but Pandora's box lay way open for my teenage years to claim this newfound place a hiding spot for whenever I'd feel down. A string of random things (that aren't really interesting to detail here) later and this belief was deeply embedded in me. It wasn't somewhere I belonged, but it was damn close.
It took me a while to realize I had a problem. Not until I was in my early twenties did I realise I'd been giving in to addictive behaviours, and pretty badly at that. I could PMO up to 5 times a day, and my average would be once or twice in the crux of my experience with porn. I did a handful of shameful things, just enough that it makes me cringe just thinking about it. I went to SLAA meetings for several months when I discovered they actually existed. It was a godsend, but I grew silently arrogant and decided it wasn't for me, that I'd successfully rebooted. And in a way, I had. I was on a 6 month leave from Porn, and it felt great. Since then I've relapsed and quit and relapsed and quit again, and I'm thinking of attending more SLAA meetings.
Now, my sex life is doing great ! I've never had the porn-world creep into the bedroom, and that is a blessing. But my love life is a mess. While I am learning the significance and the reality of true intimacy, I still overthink things and I get overly attached very quickly. My mental health is not always good, I can have positive days but when I'm down I am way down. I think I'm an ugly human being, that I won't achieve anything, no confidence, blablabla... It's a real downer, I won't lie. It's hell to go through, and it's the main reason I started this journal. I can talk about feeling down with my friends, but they won't ever know the root of why I feel this way. Just like in those SLAA meetings, I know there are kindred souls here who have and are going through similar experiences, and I'm looking forward to interacting with all of you here.
Thank you for helping me out in my healing, maybe I'll be able to help out in return.
Deeply grateful.
I'm a 27 year old guy, and I've grown addicted to porn from a very early age. Some friends of mine when I was kid discovered the power of Google and how it could request any random whim a 10 year old could have. One of those being, of course, "boobs". It's actually pretty innocent looking back. It wasn't rare to encounter said "boobs" in a crummy magazine in an odd yard sale somewhere in the middle of Virginia. But the internet being what it is, it didn't really stop there. After having typed another keyword relating to the same lexicon, I found what I was looking for : a woman posing naked on a rock. It shocked me, it felt wrong, it excited me, and I quickly closed the tab, but Pandora's box lay way open for my teenage years to claim this newfound place a hiding spot for whenever I'd feel down. A string of random things (that aren't really interesting to detail here) later and this belief was deeply embedded in me. It wasn't somewhere I belonged, but it was damn close.
It took me a while to realize I had a problem. Not until I was in my early twenties did I realise I'd been giving in to addictive behaviours, and pretty badly at that. I could PMO up to 5 times a day, and my average would be once or twice in the crux of my experience with porn. I did a handful of shameful things, just enough that it makes me cringe just thinking about it. I went to SLAA meetings for several months when I discovered they actually existed. It was a godsend, but I grew silently arrogant and decided it wasn't for me, that I'd successfully rebooted. And in a way, I had. I was on a 6 month leave from Porn, and it felt great. Since then I've relapsed and quit and relapsed and quit again, and I'm thinking of attending more SLAA meetings.
Now, my sex life is doing great ! I've never had the porn-world creep into the bedroom, and that is a blessing. But my love life is a mess. While I am learning the significance and the reality of true intimacy, I still overthink things and I get overly attached very quickly. My mental health is not always good, I can have positive days but when I'm down I am way down. I think I'm an ugly human being, that I won't achieve anything, no confidence, blablabla... It's a real downer, I won't lie. It's hell to go through, and it's the main reason I started this journal. I can talk about feeling down with my friends, but they won't ever know the root of why I feel this way. Just like in those SLAA meetings, I know there are kindred souls here who have and are going through similar experiences, and I'm looking forward to interacting with all of you here.
Thank you for helping me out in my healing, maybe I'll be able to help out in return.
Deeply grateful.