Somethin4thapa!n
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The most important part of your journey is having a partner that?s going to help you get through it. You can go 100+ days on no fap hard mode but you?ll never know whether you recovered if you don?t have successful sex. The worst thing you can do is hook up with a casual partner and then realize that you?re still not ready. Trust me, I?ve been on both sides of the spectrum.
Back story:
I?ve been master-bating to porn consistently for over 6 years with little to no sexual experience prior or during. It took me over a year from the time I discovered why I had PIED to get to 120 days of no fap. On the 120th day, I decided I was going to celebrate by having sex. The person I was going to hook up with was someone I would normally have a one night stand with and then keep it pushing, but I was desperate and it was the ?lowest hanging fruit? for me. As you can predict, I was not functioning so I made an excuse that I forgot the condoms so I wouldn?t have to relive my past PIED experiences. I didn?t feel comfortable about opening up to her about this.
Fast forward a few weeks later:
This time I was with someone that i considered a close friend of mine at the time. I?ve never told anyone about my situation so I was still afraid to tell her prior to sex. I decided I was going to wing it and try to have sex with her but if it doesn?t work out, I?m going to tell her. That is exactly what happened. She was giving me head for at least 2-3 minutes, and I couldn?t get hard to save my life. I pulled her aside, let my guard down and became extremely vulnerable as I told her my situation . When she reciprocated the energy and told me she wants to help me, I had this warm feeling in my heart, and immediately had an erection & we went 3 rounds that day with no sexual dysfunctions symptoms.
Now, I understand everybody?s story will not be this way, but what can we learn from mine. 1) having a partner you can trust that?s willing to help you is CRUCIAL for your success. 2) you should go on no fap hard mode before trying anything sexual, (90 days is usually the sweet spot for most guys) 3) DO NOT GIVE UP. Trust the process, it works. There?s no way else around it. It took me a year of constant relapse after discovering the reason for my PIED to finally get a good streak in.
Stay strong kings!
Back story:
I?ve been master-bating to porn consistently for over 6 years with little to no sexual experience prior or during. It took me over a year from the time I discovered why I had PIED to get to 120 days of no fap. On the 120th day, I decided I was going to celebrate by having sex. The person I was going to hook up with was someone I would normally have a one night stand with and then keep it pushing, but I was desperate and it was the ?lowest hanging fruit? for me. As you can predict, I was not functioning so I made an excuse that I forgot the condoms so I wouldn?t have to relive my past PIED experiences. I didn?t feel comfortable about opening up to her about this.
Fast forward a few weeks later:
This time I was with someone that i considered a close friend of mine at the time. I?ve never told anyone about my situation so I was still afraid to tell her prior to sex. I decided I was going to wing it and try to have sex with her but if it doesn?t work out, I?m going to tell her. That is exactly what happened. She was giving me head for at least 2-3 minutes, and I couldn?t get hard to save my life. I pulled her aside, let my guard down and became extremely vulnerable as I told her my situation . When she reciprocated the energy and told me she wants to help me, I had this warm feeling in my heart, and immediately had an erection & we went 3 rounds that day with no sexual dysfunctions symptoms.
Now, I understand everybody?s story will not be this way, but what can we learn from mine. 1) having a partner you can trust that?s willing to help you is CRUCIAL for your success. 2) you should go on no fap hard mode before trying anything sexual, (90 days is usually the sweet spot for most guys) 3) DO NOT GIVE UP. Trust the process, it works. There?s no way else around it. It took me a year of constant relapse after discovering the reason for my PIED to finally get a good streak in.
Stay strong kings!
