How many of you are dealing with a porn addiction that is worse, if not caused, by other problems?
Medical problems have caused me to be "socially handicapped" in various ways. The first problem is neurological/ocular (vision) in nature but undiagnosed because every specialist I've been to is completely dumbfounded. They've never seen a patient with my symptoms. Since I was a young child, my hand/eye and sometimes hand/eye/leg coordination is very poor -- preventing my participation in most "outdoor" activities even though I can walk, run, and a ride a bike just fine. The general consensus is that my brain is slow to respond to certain stimuli in a fast-paced setting. The other problem was diagnosed in high school (i'm 31 now) as a mild case of Narcolepsy. I fatigue easily and don't sleep well at night. What would be 8 hours of sleep to you is 4 to 6 hours to me because I don't go through the sleep stages properly. The lack of proper sleep results in feeling nauseous most days, often lethargic, and sometimes I get heart palpitations. Not fun.
As a result of my hand/eye/leg coordination problem, I am not even minimally competent to participate in the following activities:
Swimming, Wakeboarding, Surfing, Snowboarding, Skiing, Skateboarding, Rollerblading, Ice Skating, Baseball, Softball, Football, Soccer, Hockey, Tennis, Golfing, Bowling, Tabletop Pool, Playing Video Games, or even Fishing. Under water I feel really disoriented and overcompensate. With sports, I have trouble throwing and catching a ball. Video games I can't process what I'm seeing fast enough to react with the controller. Skateboarding or skating, I can't keep my balance. With fishing, I can't cast a reel to save my life. Most people themselves do not excel in these activities, but they are capable enough to avoid danger and enjoy themselves. Not me.
The sleep issues are a much greater challenge in terms of basic social interaction. By 7 or 8pm, I start to fade as my medication begins to wear off. I can't take additional medication or drink caffeine to stay awake because it disturbs my sleep patterns even further. Watching movies at home or going to a movie theater are not possible because I will fall asleep. I need to stay moving around and/or be underneath bright lights to keep my eyes open at night. I'm not supposed to consume alcohol because it interferes with my sleep medication. This is where it gets ugly for me, and to be honest, it's much worse with women. Declining the opportunity to see a movie or grab a beer is taken as the ultimate insult by the ladies. They perceive this as my way of avoiding them, telling them I'm not interested, being rude, playing games, you name it. In house settings like a party or BBQ, I can't sit down and get too comfortable without nodding off. Standing up or walking around outside is a good way to fight that off, but again, whoever I'm with (men or women) find this odd. People tell me I make them nervous by always standing up in their homes. I try to explain why but they aren't always convinced.
What ruins any possibility of a long-term friendship (or relationship) is when I have to decline their suggestion that we go swimming/snowboarding/play softball/whatever together. This is not received well because I already decline their invitation to go to movie theaters, bars, clubs, and other dark places that make me sleepy at night. People see this as me trying to avoid them completely. And you know what? I don't blame them for feeling like they do. I understand the conflict in their minds.
So the loneliness and isolation has taken its toll on me. It is emotionally and physically exhausting trying to make and preserve relationships with other people. I don't like being alone and for years I've self-medicated by watching porn. This is a destructive path I must overcome.
I would appreciate any suggestions (or experiences of your own) because I've met nobody facing similar challenges.
Medical problems have caused me to be "socially handicapped" in various ways. The first problem is neurological/ocular (vision) in nature but undiagnosed because every specialist I've been to is completely dumbfounded. They've never seen a patient with my symptoms. Since I was a young child, my hand/eye and sometimes hand/eye/leg coordination is very poor -- preventing my participation in most "outdoor" activities even though I can walk, run, and a ride a bike just fine. The general consensus is that my brain is slow to respond to certain stimuli in a fast-paced setting. The other problem was diagnosed in high school (i'm 31 now) as a mild case of Narcolepsy. I fatigue easily and don't sleep well at night. What would be 8 hours of sleep to you is 4 to 6 hours to me because I don't go through the sleep stages properly. The lack of proper sleep results in feeling nauseous most days, often lethargic, and sometimes I get heart palpitations. Not fun.
As a result of my hand/eye/leg coordination problem, I am not even minimally competent to participate in the following activities:
Swimming, Wakeboarding, Surfing, Snowboarding, Skiing, Skateboarding, Rollerblading, Ice Skating, Baseball, Softball, Football, Soccer, Hockey, Tennis, Golfing, Bowling, Tabletop Pool, Playing Video Games, or even Fishing. Under water I feel really disoriented and overcompensate. With sports, I have trouble throwing and catching a ball. Video games I can't process what I'm seeing fast enough to react with the controller. Skateboarding or skating, I can't keep my balance. With fishing, I can't cast a reel to save my life. Most people themselves do not excel in these activities, but they are capable enough to avoid danger and enjoy themselves. Not me.
The sleep issues are a much greater challenge in terms of basic social interaction. By 7 or 8pm, I start to fade as my medication begins to wear off. I can't take additional medication or drink caffeine to stay awake because it disturbs my sleep patterns even further. Watching movies at home or going to a movie theater are not possible because I will fall asleep. I need to stay moving around and/or be underneath bright lights to keep my eyes open at night. I'm not supposed to consume alcohol because it interferes with my sleep medication. This is where it gets ugly for me, and to be honest, it's much worse with women. Declining the opportunity to see a movie or grab a beer is taken as the ultimate insult by the ladies. They perceive this as my way of avoiding them, telling them I'm not interested, being rude, playing games, you name it. In house settings like a party or BBQ, I can't sit down and get too comfortable without nodding off. Standing up or walking around outside is a good way to fight that off, but again, whoever I'm with (men or women) find this odd. People tell me I make them nervous by always standing up in their homes. I try to explain why but they aren't always convinced.
What ruins any possibility of a long-term friendship (or relationship) is when I have to decline their suggestion that we go swimming/snowboarding/play softball/whatever together. This is not received well because I already decline their invitation to go to movie theaters, bars, clubs, and other dark places that make me sleepy at night. People see this as me trying to avoid them completely. And you know what? I don't blame them for feeling like they do. I understand the conflict in their minds.
So the loneliness and isolation has taken its toll on me. It is emotionally and physically exhausting trying to make and preserve relationships with other people. I don't like being alone and for years I've self-medicated by watching porn. This is a destructive path I must overcome.
I would appreciate any suggestions (or experiences of your own) because I've met nobody facing similar challenges.